Tip of the Day:”Hott Sexxy Gurl”

If your email or text signature ends with Emojis and
Hott Sexxy Gurl,” it’s time for a change.

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In a Family Law situation you will be judged. You will be judged by the Judge, as that is his/her job. You will be judged by the other party’s attorney, the Guardian Ad Litem, and, frankly, every other person you come into contact with.

If every email ends in “ ;) Hott Sexxy Gurl,” you will be judged. Rightly or wrongly, you will be judged.

Change your email and text signatures. It could just be your first name. Also, get a new email address if it’s “CuteBunnyLove@aol.com” or “JuneLovesJohnny@gmail.com.” One, you do not want to be reminded that June no longer loves Johnny and, two, it’s no longer cute.

Will it really make a difference? One would hope not, but why leave it to chance. It’s an easy quick change and it cannot hurt your case.

Sincerely,

Matthew

Matthew Thompson is a Child Custody  Attorney in Mississippi and reminds you that you are being judged.

Follow the blog: #BowTieLawyer . You may also contact Matthew with your family law case or question at (601) 850-8000 or Matthew@bowtielawyer.ms

When a Child testifies, You May Not get what you Intended.

“Well, let’s just ask little Johnny what he wants!”

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[P]arents in a divorce proceeding should if at all possible refrain from calling any of the children of their marriage…as witnesses, and counsel should advise their clients against doing so except in the most exigent cases.” Jethrow v. Jethrow, 571 So.2d 270, 274 (Miss. 1990).

The Mississippi Supreme Court added that the reason and wisdom for this precaution needed no amplification as to why you should not compel your child to testify if it can be avoided.

The potential for emotional trauma is a given. But, another unstated reason a la Forrest Gump, “you never know what you are gonna get.

In a particularly acrimonious custody case, the mother insisted on calling the 6 year old daughter to testify. She wanted her to say she wanted to live with mom. Mom had recently redecorated her room in pink and butterflies. However, when questioned she responded as follows;

Court: If you had a magic wand and you could wave it and live wherever you wanted, where would that be?

Child: A Castle!

Not mom’s, not dad’s, but a castle.

Matthew Thompson is a Child Custody  Attorney in Mississippi and would also like to live in a castle.

Follow the blog: #BowTieLawyer . You may also contact Matthew with your family law case or question at (601) 850-8000 or Matthew@bowtielawyer.ms

 

Influencing Your Child (negatively) does NOT make you a good parent.

Little Johnny will say just about anything…

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Tears at the custody/visitation exchange are normal. Usually, 5 minutes after the exchange all is back to normal. The tears do not mean that they genuinely fear the other parent, or worse, or that they only want to be with just one parent.  They are a child.

As a parent of that child your primary responsibility should be to comfort the child! You should not make the situation worse by being pouty, confrontational or making statements that inflame the situation. You should not toy with the child’s emotion on whether they can stay just a  little while longer.

Instead you should fake happiness for the child that they get to spend time with the other parent.  For example, “Look Little Johnny, mommy is here. You and mommy are going to have so much fun and I’ll see you again real soon!” Do this while helping the child get in the car and make sure he or she has their stuff.  That’s it.

That’s how exchanges should go. If you, as a parent, are not helping, then you are the problem. Try to ease the anxiety for your child. Put your own selfishness aside and stop the hate of the other parent for about 3 minutes.

Getting your child to tell the other parent what “they” want, when we all know it’s really what you want is damaging as well. It’s not an accomplishment to get a child to say something. It’s easy. What apparently is not easy is being a decent human being. Try it. You may just have a happier child and a happier life.

Matthew Thompson is a Child Custody attorney and advises his clients to do the right thing and what is best for the child EVERY time.

Follow the blog: #BowTieLawyer Visit the website: #Thompson Law FirmYou may also contact Matthew with your family law case, question or concern at (601) 850-8000 or Matthew@bowtielawyer.ms

Divorce, Child Custody, Child Support, Alimony, Contempt, Modification, and Appeals.

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