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Why the Bow Tie?

Okay, here is the blog that ALL of you have been waiting for.  Why the Bow Tie?  Why do I wear it? Where did it come from?  Do you tie it yourself?

First of all, yes.  My bow ties are real and I tie them myself.  Tying one is very similar to a shoelace, it’s not hard, just takes some practice.

Where do I get them?  Most any place that has ties.  I get most from Belk or similar type stores.  I have a few really “nice” ones from fine men’s haberdasheries, but their quality is not far superior to any others. I have a few from on-line places and several were gifts. Always a good gift. Hint, hint.

Several years ago I was having lunch with Mark Chinn (legal mentor, former boss, and still great friend ) and we were discussing branding. Mark wears nice suits and wears a hat. He has a fedora hat, actually several, and he wears them in part as his style, but also for practical reasons like sun protection.  He is well-known and identifiable by his hat(s).  As we discussed my brand, I wanted something simple, memorable, different and not a hat.

If I had started wearing hats and stood next to Mark in his, I would look ridiculous. Like Twins with Arnold Schwarzenegger and Danny DeVito ridiculous.

What about a bow tie?  We had a firm event coming up, our annual divorce firm Valentine’s party (aren’t we clever), and I thought that would be a fine time to unveil the bow tie.  I went to Mozingo Clothiers, just up the street from my office and with Charlie’s help picked out a fine pinkish, purplish bow tie, that looked quite festive. Charlie showed me how he ties them, tied it for me and I left with the tie pre-tied.  It had buttons on the back, as most do.

As I mulled over wearing the bow tie, I thought, “everyone is going to ask if I tied it…I have to say yes, truthfully.”  I untied it, having never tied a bow tie before and on my second attempt did a pretty fine job, with the help of Charlie’s lesson and a great you tube video.

That night I had lots of compliments and of course, “Did you tie it yourself?”  I crowed “absolutely”.  I have worn a bow tie ever since.

I have had many compliments in Court, at Court, and from Court on the bow tie.  My best story from Court was when I appeared for the first time in front of an out of county Judge, meaning a Judge I do not appear before regularly .  She commented on my tie approvingly.  Court went fine.  I was back in her Courtroom some weeks later and had my back turned as the Judge approached me and asked me to turn around so she could see what color bow tie I was wearing that day. I knew I was on to something.

That is why I enjoy and wear bow ties. To be different, to be remembered and because its my style.

Don’t Get Overloaded

Sometimes in life we bite off more than we can chew.  I recently had a week where I had a Court appearance every day that week, and all over the state to boot. Normally I do not schedule things like that, but sometimes it happens.  In a few instances I really don’t have control of my schedule.  Emergency issues happen and they have to be addressed (which one of these was).  A lot of times we put stress on ourselves unnecessarily due to what we are trying to do – seemingly too much.  Also, doing too much can make or personal life suffer. Well as it turns out, more often than not, you can handle it, but the stress and anxiety leading up to a maxed-out schedule is not worth the relief of having it done.

So what is the take away?  Don’t overload yourself, whether it be in your professional life or your personal life.  Make sure you are in control of your schedule, at least as much as you can be and make a concerted effort to that end.

In the end you may still have emergency issues arise, but you will be able to handle them and everything else that you had to handle by not overloading yourself. (Do as I say, not as I do.)

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and says don’t get overloaded.

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Family Focused

I am a family law attorney and one of the greatest lessons that I have learned is to be focused on your own family.  My mentor was/is Mark Chinn.  Mark is one of the best family law attorneys in the Country. He is smart, tough, knows the law and knows how to persuade. However, one of his best qualities is that he focuses on his own family.  I have worked with Mark for over 9 years.

During that time there was rarely an instance where he missed one of his children’s events or milestones; be it sports, school, or otherwise.  He made it a priority to be there and they knew it.

He would not let his schedule and other person’s issues – which could usually wait and rightly should-  interfere with his priorities,for all of the right reasons.  By focusing on your own family and keeping them in focus, you will stand a much better chance of avoiding someone like me, a divorce attorney. I hope you do. Image