Don’t Follow Bad Advice Blindly. If your attorney advises you to break into the house and take everything, including the dishwasher and the stove, think twice. Who does that? Who gives that advice? How could a Judge ever think that was a good thing? Click here for more. Bad Advice = Bad Lawyer.
Don’t Make it a WAR if you Don’t Have to. It only makes the lawyers more money. You get less. Go to WAR only when it is absolutely necessary. Life and safety.
Don’t Solely Blame the Other Side. This piece is sometimes tough to swallow. That SOB you married may be mostly at fault, and sometimes completely at fault, but it’s rare that it is one side’s fault 100%. Acknowledging your culpability, at least to yourself, will help you process what you are going through.
Don’t Bad Mouth the Other Parent. It may be true. He may deserve it. You may tell the Judge, your counselor and your lawyer. No one else needs to know.
Don’t Forward the Children Communications Between you and the Other Parent. This is so inappropriate. Placing the children in the middle of a parental dispute is a classic symptom of parental alienation. If you are doing this you better watch out. You may not be able to stop the advice given in number 2, above.
Matthew Thompson is a Family Law attorney and tries to give good advice. It may still not be easy to follow, but it is designed to create less havoc, not more, usually.
I previously blogged on5 Family Law FaceBook Don’ts. This was a very popular blog topic and continues to generate a lot of traffic. This post lists 5 more things you should not be doing on FaceBook with regards to your family law case.
Posting inappropriate stuff on FB is not just an American thing. 1/5 of Australian divorces use FB postings to discredit some testimony that was offered by one party and FB activities are showing up in about 1/3 of United Kingdom divorce cases. Familyandthelaw.com.au
5 More Things not to Put on FaceBook:
Don’t post Pictures of the other party, whether they be flattering or not.
Don’t post Pictures of the children doing activities with captions that note the other parent’s absence.
Don’t post Pictures of your new squeeze in a “Parenting Role” that is intended to inflame the other side.
Don’t comment on your friend’s drama and “one-up” them with your own.
Don’t allow your FB friends to bash your Ex.
Stay tuned for more FaceBook don’ts, as I have enough material to make this one a series and unfortunately am learning of new things not to do on an almost daily basis.
Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi that strives to not put inappropriate things on FB and thinks you should too! #Trust the Bow Tie.