We know not to Drink and Drive and that Drinking on the job is a terminable offense, but it’s also important not to Drink & Text.
There is an old saying that “a drunk man says what a sober man thinks.” While this may not be always true, there is some truth to it. Alcohol lessens our inhibitions.
Recently, I interviewed a person who was being advised of their rights in a family law matter. It turns out that they sent multiple, repeated texts messages over a several hour period while under the influence. Some were funny, some incoherent, some to the intended recipients and a few that were not. It was the ones that were not to the intended recipients that caused the problem.
A text message sent is a message that cannot be recalled.
Matthew Thompson is a Divorce Litigation Attorney in Mississippi and warns you to NOT Drink & Text.
That’s it. If you do nothing else your kids will know that you are thinking about them, that you love them, miss them and desire a relationship. Too often, in divorce/custody settings, it is easy to fall into the trap of “it’s not my time.” This trap allows days and sometimes weeks go by with little to no communication. Sometimes the other parent contributes to this or directly interferes, but you should attempt to do it anyway.
Call, email, text, FaceTime, Skype, send letters, cards, gift cards, and small gifts or trinkets. It does not have to be expensive, an occasion or ” your time.”
Matthew Thompson is a Family Law & Divorce Attorney in the Hospitality State. Be sure and show your child your hospitality!
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In family law it is easy to lose your cool. It is easy to react, to lash out and to tell that good-for-nothing so-and-so just what you think. But, don’t!
No good comes from telling him off. There is no use in demonstrating how crazy she is. She won’t change and if it’s coming from you it’s probably a dirty trick. At least she thinks so.
The urge to send that hateful text or email is strong, but you cannot take it back once you do. You figure, well he is a “SOB,” or she is “CRAZY!” But emailing, texting or screaming at the other party brings you down to their level. Sometimes in divorce the high road is lonely and not fun, but take it anyway. It serves your needs. And sometimes there is no high road, just lesser degrees of the low road.
This is tough advice to give and harder advice to take. But remember, every email and text is being reviewed, saved and printed. It is much easier to not send the hate than to try to explain to the judge why you sent 35 messages of what terrible a human being the other person is, while trying to argue that you are the reasonable one in the relationship.
Examples of what NOT to send;
“I H8 U!” “F#(% YOU”
“DIE!!!!” “I never LOVED U!!!”
“You can have everything.” “I don’t want nothing!!”