You’ve tried it your way multiple times and are still getting the same results. Give it a rest. 

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. 

Life does not always go as planned. Rolling with the punches is sometimes necessary. But if you find yourself in the same predicament again and again, stop. 

I routinely hear of issues between persons that continue to come up. If you find yourself in that situation stop what you’re doing.