2 Rules in Family Law and Negotiations to live by involve messing with the bull.
#1 Don’t Threaten. Do NOT threaten to take anyone’s kids away, ever. Do NOT threaten to take them to the cleaners. Do NOT threaten to put them under the jail, in the poorhouse or any other unsavory place. Threats, usually, do NOT work and they incite anger, rage, irrational conduct, fear, resentment and a whole lot of legal fees.
#2 Don’t Bluff. Bluffing and getting called on it shows weakness, lack of nerve and gumption. Bluffing in the form of impossible threats, false deadlines and unattainable goals bolsters the other side and invites counter attacks.
So if we cannot threaten and cannot bluff what do we do?
#1 Explain the two courses of action available. 1) The easy way; Settlement, Mediation, working in common accord or, alternatively, door #2) Litigation. Do not threaten action. Take action.
#2 Do it. Do NOT bluff, follow through with taking the actions necessary to accomplish your goals.
Matthew Thompson is a Divorce Attorney in Mississippi, Adjunct Law Professor at MC Law, and part-time soccer coach… and reminds you that when you mess with the bull, you get the horns…