The initial appointment with the lawyer is always nerve-wracking.
You should be prepared and be on time. Bring financial records, receipts, tax returns, screen shots of texts, phone records, and recordings. Bring yourself, perhaps a trusted friend or family member, a form of payment and even an internet-provided checklist of what to ask the attorney.
However, unless requested otherwise, do not bring….
Sometimes being a Family Law Attorney leads to having information that you wish you did NOT have.
From swinging key parties to recreational substance abuse, you would be surprised to learn what good, normal people are doing, even your neighbors.
One way to determine if your conduct is “ok” is to ask yourself “Do I pass the SleepOver Challenge?” This simple test is would you allow your child(ren) to go to a sleepover at so-and-so’s house if you knew they were doing whatever it is that you are doing.
If your answer is “yes” then in the eyes of a Judge you’ll probably be fine, (assuming you are in the bounds of societal norms, whatever that means). If your answer is “no” it’s time to re-examine what you are doing.
And, if you have some rally bizarre behind closed doors conduct, just disregard this, keep it to yourself and don’t invite anyone for a sleepover.
Matthew Thompson is a Child Custody Attorney practicing Family Law in Mississippi.