Albert Einstein is credited with saying that Insanity is “doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”
Whether he said it or not, the premise holds true in family law. If you keep making the same bad decisions you will continue to get the same bad results.
Illegal substance use or alcohol abuse, not paying your Court-Ordered obligations, and ignoring legal proceedings all lead to more trouble, more expenses and bad results.
So what can you do? STOP.
Stop using illegal drugs. Stop drinking alcohol. Get help. It’s out there and worth it. Start paying your Court-Ordered support. At least pay something. Stop ignoring your lawyer. Stop ignoring the legal process. Judges love a comeback story.
Matthew Thompson is a Mississippi Divorce Attorney and advises you to stop making bad decisions.
One of the “rules” of Family Law is when you don’t know what the right legal answer is, do what is RIGHT and you will probably be okay.
Doing what is right is not always easy, nor fun. On several occasions I have had client’s faced with seemingly tough decisions or circumstances. One client suspected the spouse of abusing illegal drugs. They did not have direct proof, but knew of drug abuse in the past and had knowledge of very suspicious behavior lately. Their idea was to create a circumstance where they would have the spouse under surveillance when the spouse was out buying drugs. The problem was the suspected spouse would also have the child during that time. I told them that you cannot put your child in that situation…
In other instances, parties have had the other spouse served while they had the children. The problem with this is that it is scary and stressful for the child. Sometimes, it seems, having them served in this manner just cannot be avoided, but if it can, it should be. (See my prior blog on service of process.
Think about your child,what they are experiencing and what they “SEE” before you go and do something to your soon-to-be ex-spouse.
Matthew Thompson is a Child Custody Attorney in Mississippi reminding you to SEE things through the eyes of your child.
It’s more and more common for parties in family law cases to be drug tested. Urine, hair follicles, blood and even finger nails can be tested for drug use. Depending on the test, results can show drugs or alcohol in your system from 2 days ago up to 90 days ago. And testing “Hot” is not a good thing.
In your Family Law case the Court will put a lot of weight in a Failed Drug test when determining custody, visitation and credibility. While a Failed Drug test does not guaranty you will lose custody, it certainly does not help. It also can matter what type of drugs, how recent and quantities that the test results show.
Use, whether it is “recreational,” “just once” or “I never inhaled” can and will be used against you. Drug use can also be an element of child neglect/abuse.
Once, I was discussing visitation rights with a non-custodial parent. I made the comment, “Well, as long as you did not have a meth lab in the garage you have nothing to worry about.” The response, “What if I did?” “That’s going to be a problem…“
Now, all is not lost if you have used drugs or are using drugs, IF you STOP! Court’s like to see people “get their act together” “turn their life around” and “be productive members of society.” You can see your kids and you may even get or regain custody if you are doing all the right things.
Matthew Thompson is an Adjunct Professor teaching Domestic Relations and a Divorce Attorney. In the words of Nancy Reagan, “JUST SAY NO!”
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