Albert Einstein is credited with saying that Insanity is “doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”
Whether he said it or not, the premise holds true in family law. If you keep making the same bad decisions you will continue to get the same bad results.
Illegal substance use or alcohol abuse, not paying your Court-Ordered obligations, and ignoring legal proceedings all lead to more trouble, more expenses and bad results.
So what can you do? STOP.
Stop using illegal drugs. Stop drinking alcohol. Get help. It’s out there and worth it. Start paying your Court-Ordered support. At least pay something. Stop ignoring your lawyer. Stop ignoring the legal process. Judges love a comeback story.
Matthew Thompson is a Mississippi Divorce Attorney and advises you to stop making bad decisions.
I’m not going to go all Tony Robbins on you, but Judges love a comeback story.
Adversity is a part of life. Oftentimes it is self-inflicted. I see a lot of clients that do things that are against their own best interests and it is a safe bet that at the next hearing they will have to answer questions about it. However, just because you did some things you should not have does not mean you should give up and wallow.
I represented a client who was an alcoholic. This person would drink themselves into oblivion and was an abusive person under the influence. As expected it lead to trouble in the marriage and home-life and with work. It impacted every aspect of their life. He was sued and the wife sought temporary custody and sought to get temporary support. He was served and summoned to a court date. We showed up and the other attorney was expecting a fight.
We had a conference with the Judge and the other attorney told the Court all of the awful things my client does while under the influence. The Judge, so used to hearing two or three sides to every story, asked for my take. I advised the Judge my client had a serious problem with alcohol and when under the influence acted in an inappropriate and unjustified manner, however when sober was a great father, worker and person. That the real issue was addiction and that my client needed help.
The Judge and the other side were surprised by the candidness displayed. The Judge told a story of her own relative who struggled with alcohol abuse and that she wished he would have had the opportunity for help. The Judge stated that if he admitted a problem that she would assist in getting him help and would not hold it against him.
He was committed to an alcohol treatment program and his support obligations were held in abeyance pending completion. It was exactly what was needed.
You can turn negatives into positives, you just have to stop doing the negatives…
Matthew Thompson is a Mississippi Divorce Attorney and will try to help you turn adversity into advantage.
Habitual Drunkenness is not only a fault ground for divorce, but also leads to a wide variety of family law troubles.
Alcohol (aka:booze, beer, hooch, liquor, wine, drink, the bottle) is an easy vice to turn to, especially when dealing with the emotion and anxiety of family issues. However, it seldom salves and often makes things worse. Habitual drunkenness, that is consistent alcohol use and abuse to the extent that it cause the breakdown of the marriage, is grounds for divorce. Additionally, alcohol abuse can and will be used against you in a custody determination. I am not saying that you have to be a tee-total-er, but abuse of alcohol leads to poor judgement, decreased inhibitions and legal trouble.
Alcohol contributes to domestic violence incidents, accidents, and of course DUI. The risks always outweigh the rewards.
So do you have an alcohol problem? Well, there are a few ways to tell. Have you asked yourself if you have an alcohol problem? If so, you might. Can you go without drinking? If you suspect you have an alcohol problem seek help now. It will help your family later.
Matthew Thompson is a Family Law Adj. Professor at MC Law and a Child Custody/Divorce Attorney. Drink Responsibly! (if you do).
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