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Child Testimony and You

Whether to use child testimony is a difficult issue to resolve between parents and attorneys involved in child custody cases. Children know more than you think and also may have an opinion. However, child testimony is discouraged in most instances…

“We reiterate that parents in a divorce proceedingimgres.jpg should if at all possible refrain from calling any of the children of their marriage, of tender years at least, as witnesses, and counsel should advise their clients against doing so except in the most exigent cases.”- Jethrow v. Jethrow

So, do the children testify or not? For Family Law cases the leading authority is Jethrow vs. Jethrow, 571 So.2d 270 (Miss. 1990). This case lays the groundwork that the Court should use when assessing child testimony. Different Courts and different Judges apply Jethrow in varying ways, but the basic premise is, as follows;

  • A child witnesses of tender years, 12 and under for testimony purposes, testifying is subject to the discretion of the Judge. 
  • Before allowing such testimony the Judge “should satisfy himself that the child has the ability to perceive and remember events, to understand and answer questions intelligently, and to comprehend and accept the importance of truthfulness.”

Before excluding the testimony of a child witness of tender years in a divorce proceeding, the chancellor at a minimum should follow the procedure required by Crownover v. Crownover, 33 Ill.App.3rd 327, 337 N.E.2d 56 (1975):

  • The first hurdle is whether the child is competent to testify.
  • The Judge should confer in camera (meaning in the Judge’s chambers/office) with the child and determine whether or not the child’s testimony should be heard
  • The Judge has considerable discretion in conducting proceedings of this type, meaning it’s the judge’s decision.
  • The court should not, however, reject outright proposed testimony of a child in custody proceedings, where the omission of such crucial testimony might be harmful to the child’s best interests.
  • The trial court should take great pains to have an in camera conference with the child to determine the competency of the child,
  • as well as the competency of any evidence which the child might present.
  • The court should also then determine whether the best interests of the child would be served by permitting her to testify, or
  • Whether the child should be sheltered from testifying and being subjected to a vigorous cross-examination.
  • The Judge should report the essential material matters developed at the in camera conference on the record.
  • The Court should state the reasons for allowing or disallowing the testimony of the child, and
  • The Court should note the factual information which the court developed from the conference with the child which would be considered by the court in its ultimate determinations in the case.

A child testifying should be avoided if at all possible.

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Witnesses, Facts and What you are Told.

You’re entitled to your own opinion, but you are not entitled to your own facts.

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Testifying as a witness can be intimidating and scary. However, you do not have to let it get to you. Your job as a witness is to tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. If you are testifying as a witness it is usually because you know something about the case and can help provide factual information. Your job as a witness, however is not to guess, speculate or even give your opinion, usually.

To be a good witness answer the question asked. Answer it with a “yes” or “no” or “I don’t know.” You may explain if you need to. Be direct. It is usually wise to only answer what is asked and it is also wise not to assume “facts” if you do NOT have personal knowledge of the underlying situation.

Also, someone telling you something does not make it a fact within your personal knowledge, even if they seem like they are telling the truth.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law Attorney in Mississippi and reminds you to stick to the facts, just the facts.

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What is a Deposition?

A Deposition is an out of court, under oath interview of a party or witness. The questioning is done by the attorney of the party or witness.  The questions are about the pending case, including; fault or misconduct, money and financial matters, child related issues, and almost anything else that could lead to discoverable information.

A deposition allows you to find out the answer to questions that you may otherwise not know the answer to and allows for the attorney to ask “dumb” questions.

There is a lawyer cliché to never ask a question that you do not know the answer to. The way around this is to ask in the deposition. The deposition is typically not at the Court, but at the lawyer’s office or some other agreed upon place. The deposition is not seen by the Court, at least not automatically.

Depositions serve not only to provide an opportunity for answers, but also to create pressure. Pressure to settle, pressure to try to bring the pending matter to conclusion. Depositions can be long, difficult, embarrassing, but can also provide for closure, for a party to have their say, and to “clear the air.”

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law attorney in Mississippi and has spent more hours in depositions than he cares to admit.

Matthew@bowtielawyer.ms             (601) 850-8000

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#1 Rule for Witnesses

Show up.

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If you have Court and your testimony matters, show up. If the issues before the Court impact you in a “bigly” manner, show up. Rarely is a good outcome achieved in your absence, and no amount of explanation will be sufficient if you weren’t there to witness it for yourself.

When you do show up, tell the truth.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law Attorney in Mississippi and reminds you that 99% of the time that good results are earned, it is, in part, due to the fact that you showed up.

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Child Testimony No-no; When having your child testify is the Wrong move.

Sometimes family law is the pits.

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You are in the fight of your life against the one person who promised before God and everybody to always love and cherish you. Where’s the love now?

But dragging others into the fight may be the wrong move. I routinely see parents wanting to bring the kids in to testify, while stating that they do not want to bring the kids in to testify. Kind of a sorry-not sorry attitude.

Child testimony is permissible.  There are some Gate-keeping obligations of the Court to apply prior to actual testimony being allowed. There are also various methods used by various Judges on taking child testimony. However, more basic than the trustworthiness of the testimomy and whether it should be in chambers or in open Court, is whether the child should be in that position at all.

The Mississippi Supreme Court stated, “We reiterate that parents in a divorce proceeding should if at all possible refrain from calling any of the children of their marriage…as witnesses, and counsel should advise their clients against doing so except in the most exigent cases.” Jethrow v. Jethrow, 571 So. 2d 270, 274 (Miss. 1990).

If there are not exigent circumstances, i.e.; abuse, criminal activity involving the child, physically dangerous activity and there is no other means to corroborate these facts, testimony may be required, but if it’s run of the mill dad did this or didn’t do that, or dad let the girlfriend give her a makeover, or mom’s boyfriend took them to Chik-fil-a, and these persons are not dangerous persons nor prohibited from being around per a Court Order, child testimony should be avoided.

Think about it from the child’s perspective, not your own. Your job is to do what is best for them, every time.

Matthew Thompson is a Child Custody attorney and cautions you on relying on child testimony when it’s not necessary.

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Don’t Ask This Question.

There is a lawyer cliché to never ask a question that you do not know the answer to.

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Asking that question may get you a self-serving answer that you did not anticipate.It may open Pandora’s box of bad evidence and a tidal wave of otherwise inadmissible evidence. All because you asked a question you should not have asked.

In a custody case, the opposing counsel called the child to testify. This was a dispute between mom and dad and the other attorney wanted the child to testify about what she wanted, specifically where and with whom she wanted to live. However, opposing counsel did NOT know what the child was going to say, but instead assumed it would be favorable to his client. After the routine introductory questions, the child was specifically asked,”If you had a magic wand and you could wave it and live wherever you wanted, where would that be?” After a few seconds of silence the child responded, “ A castle!” Fatal to the case? No. But not the answer the lawyer was looking for and it further helped prove positions that we had taken throughout the case regarding the child’s emotional maturity, an issue we believed worked in our favor.

Of course, sometimes it’s a critical issue and you have to ask the question. Tread carefully.

Another question not ask; When are you due?

Matthew Thompon is a Child Custody attoreny in Mississippi and tries not to ask questions that he does not know the answer to.

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Hearsay, Hearsay, Read All About It.

Hearsay is any out of Court statement that is used to prove the truth of the matter asserted.
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Hearsay is basically ANYTHING that is said outside of the Courtroom by ANYBODY.  It also includes writings, documents and many other things.

Most commonly hearsay occurs during witness testimony. Mom is testifying about how scared Beverly was when dad left her with the new and strange babysitter. However, mom did not see nor meet the babysitter. She didn’t even know she existed. Mom was trying to say that Beverly said the babysitter said “….”

Attorney: OBJECTION, HEARSAY.

Judge: SUSTAINED. DON”T TELL ME WHAT THE CHILD SAID OR WHAT THE BABYSITTER SAID.

The babysitter has to come testify or mom has to describe Beverly after dad’s weekend.

Mom:  She came home distressed and sullen. Her eyes were red, as if she’d been crying.

Beverly told her what happened, so she called dad. Now mom can say what dad said because he and she are the parties to the case, an exception to the hearsay rule.

Your attorney should practice your testimony and how to deal with hearsay.  You may always describe what you personally observed, what you did and what you said, and this is the way to possibly get around hearsay and/or having other witnesses involved testify.

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney and encourages you to practice your testimony and telling your story without saying what somebody told you.

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Judges; Human Lie Detectors

“Do you swear or affirm the testimony you are about to give is the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth?”

All testimony is under oath. Judges apply the smell test to determine your truthfulness. Testimony that doesn’t make sense fails this test.

A man, after having been caught with his girlfriend, denied they were intimate because he could not…perform.  There was testimony that he had issues in that department. However, he was also on medication for his ailments.  He continued his medication even months after separating from his wife.  He did NOT have a good explanation for that.

Judge knew he was NOT telling the whole truth. You can lose your credibility on something seemingly trivial. Judges listen intently and judge you. That is their job. If you lie about little things or are “cute” with your answers then they may assume you’ll lie about big things.

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce Lawyer in Mississippi and recommends you tell the truth and nothing but the truth…but only answer what is asked.

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