There’s an old joke that the #1 cause of divorce is marriage. While it’s true that you must be married to get a divorce, however there are real reasons that contribute to the breakdown of a marriage.
1) Sex. Physical intimacy is a chief complaint heard time and again in divorce situations. The complaint is either one spouse wants too much, the other spouse wants too little, or one spouse is having it with someone they are not supposed to. Frequently, a combination of all three exist.
2) Money. Lack of financial security is another chief complaint. The complaint here is that the one spouse earns too little, the other spouse spends too much, or one spouse is spending it on someone (or something) they are not supposed to.
3) Getting Old. Stuck in a rut, the sever year itch, boredom. This complaint can refer to; a) the concept of the relationship getting old, losing its “new car smell” and “excitement,” becoming incompatible, or it can refer to b) the parties actually getting old and, typically, one spouse “trading in” the current spouse for a newer, younger model. Crass, but true. Additionally, getting old can refer to c) the bad habits, the nagging, the actions that you used to be able to tolerate from your spouse, but have gotten on your nerves so much that you can no longer take it.
There are , of course, many others; physical abuse, emotional abuse, substance abuse, and the list goes on.
Matthew Thompson is a Family Law attorney in Mississippi.