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Matthew operates the Thompson Law Firm, pllc, a Mississippi based Family Law firm emphasizing; Divorce, Child Custody, Child Support, Modification, Contempt and Appeals, handling family law cases throughout Mississippi. (601) 850-8000 Matthew@bowtielawyer.ms www.BowTieLawyer.ms

Divorce, General Legal, Opinion

How NOT to Ask for Free Advice; Tips for On-Line Lawyer Q&A

04/29/2013 BowTieLawyer 1 Comment

There are a number of free, on-line Q&A opportunities for unrepresented persons to pose general questions of law and have lawyers answers those questions. This is really in the form of a public service and the responses do not create an attorney-client relationship, nor are they considered legal advice. But, they do prove helpful. (Examples include; AVVO, Law Q A, LawGuru, LawZam, JustAnAnswer)

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However, I have noticed several trends by Askers of the questions that result in no responses. Below are just a few of “what not to say.”

DO NOT start the Question with “I am __ (age 13-17 ).
- You won’t get a response if you are a young’un, and if you are older than that it probably is not a necessary fact for the Q&A.

DO NOT start the Question “I ain’t got no money, but….”
- We already assume that. You’re posting on a free Q&A.

DO NOT start the Question with “My attorney said ____, but…
- We know what you want (I want you to say what I wanted to hear, instead of what he said)…” We won’t.

DO NOT start the Question with “Don’t you attorneys have to do free cases or pro bono cases…”
- We do, but it does not have to be your case.

DO NOT use ALL CAPS, ALL THE TIME. IT IS PERCEIVED AS YELLING, IS POOR SOCIAL INTERNET MANNERS AND MAKES IT MORE DIFFICULT AND PAINFUL TO READ YOUR QUESTIONS.

DO NOT use terrible grammar. It’s not an English Composition exam, but it needs to be coherent. Sentences should have a beginning AND an end. There should be multiple sentences, but…

DO NOT write a novel.

DO NOT leave out necessary facts.
- If you’re question is about how much child support you will receive have an idea on the paying parent’s income. If you don’t have an idea, how would the lawyer?

DO NOT ask the same question multiple times.

Finally, a free Q&A is not an excuse to not hire an attorney when you need one. After all, the saying you get what you pay for comes from somewhere.

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and cautions those that use the free Q&A sites to be careful, you might get what you pay for.

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Crime, General Legal, Opinion

Hold On to Your Holsters!

04/27/2013 BowTieLawyer 1 Comment

I have a series of blogs on Gun Laws in Mississippi, recent legislative changes, and basic concealed carry 101. Well, one of the recent legislative changes, blogged in “Open Carry in Mississippi,” has sparked some controversy among law enforcement and with the State Attorney General, Jim Hood.

The AG has stated that he is issuing a “Vast Opinion” on the law change and who can carry what, when and where. This should be interesting. Stay tuned for a post on the “Opinion” and an opinion or two of my own.

My previous Gun Law posts can be viewed below.

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi. Contact TLF with your family law or firearm law related inquiry.

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Divorce, General Legal

Trial by AMBUSH!

04/26/2013 BowTieLawyer 1 Comment

One of the Court’s most important roles is to prevent Trial by Ambush. Those episodes of Matlock where the secret witness or the real murderer are called to the stand at the last-minute and nobody knew, except for Ben, may make for good TV (or not), but it is not how it really is.

Courts and the Rules of Procedure require full disclosure. All witnesses must be disclosed prior to trial, all evidence, exhibits, and even persons who may not be witnesses, but that know about the case should be disclosed. While it is not uncommon to receive documents or learn of witnesses at the last-minute, the Court may prevent those from being used.

Rule 26 of the Mississippi Rules of Civil Procedure governs the procedures that litigants must follow regarding discovery methods. 26(f) obligates a party to “seasonably” supplement that party’s responses to interrogatories and other discovery if the parties know the answer has changed or circumstances are such that a failure to amend is in substance a knowing concealment. M.R.C.P. 26(f)(2).

A failure to seasonably supplement responses may prevent this “new” evidence from being used. If a party was specifically asked for the documents and tangible things they intended to use at trial, and new information was not produced, the Court can prevent this Trial by Ambush.

A Court’s most basic duty is to provide for a fair trial and to prevent trial by ambush. “We have long been committed to the proposition that trial by ambush should be abolished, the experienced lawyer’s nostalgia to the contrary notwithstanding.” Harris v. General Host Corp., 503 So. 2d 795, 796 (Miss. 1986).

These surprises leave no meaningful opportunity to challenge them or to investigate the information they purport to contain and summarize.

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and warns client that if you got it and intend to use it, you got to disclose it.

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Divorce, General Legal, Property Division

Your Granddad’s Clothes

04/25/2013 BowTieLawyer 1 Comment

The Family Use Doctrine.
Under the “family use doctrine,” any separate property, owned by one party, but used extensively by a family is converted to a marital asset. See Stewart v. Stewart, 864 So.2d 934 (Miss. 2003); Hankins v. Hankins, 866 So.2d 508, 511-512 (Miss. Ct. App. 2004). This means that your granddad’s clothes, or more importantly that Destin beach house you inherited, while initially separate property, can lose its separate status and be considered a marital asset by the Court.

How does this happen? By showing “Proof of family use.“

For instance, if the parties were married on the beach in front of the beach house and honeymooned there. The parties both testified that they frequently stayed in the beach house and both parties’ family used the beach house throughout the marriage. The parties used the home on holidays; including Easters, Thanksgivings, Christmas, Birthdays and as a getaway.

Both parties made Contributions to the care and upkeep of the beach house during the marriage:

The spouse made considerable efforts and contributions to the beach house. She designed, picked out and arranged the majority of the furnishings and decor of this home. She helped in the maintenance and upkeep of this home by cleaning, cooking, vacuuming, mopping, doing dishes, laundry and the like. She and her family performed maintenance on the home, including lawn maintenance and general repair. The husband also contributed to this home financially from joint accounts, in kind by his efforts during the marriage and he also otherwise cared for the property.

The Court can find that the beach house has lost its separate status due to family use and is a marital asset subject to equitable distribution.

So, just know that gifts, inheritance and otherwise separate assets, owned only by one party before the marriage, MAY lose their separate status if they are used throughout the marriage.

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and recommends that if you intend that your Granddad’s clothes, or beach house, not be subject to division by the Court in a divorce, either get a pre-nup or don’t use it. Tough advice, I know…

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Divorce, Property Division

Taxing Divorce Issues

04/24/2013 BowTieLawyer 1 Comment

Tax consequences must be considered when the Court determines Equitable Distribution, along with other economic consequences, and contractual or legal consequences to third parties, of the proposed distribution;

This blog is one in a series of blogs regarding Equitable Distribution in Mississippi. Equitable Distribution is the method employed by the Court’s to determine how marital property is to be divided in a divorce. The basics and factors to be considered can be seen here, Marital Property; How it’s Divided (click).

Tax Consequences.

Typically division of real property and even personal property can be had without tax consequences to the parties. One party can buy the other out of the house and get the furniture without arousing Uncle Sam. However, certain transactions can create significant tax consequences. Usually investment/retirement accounts may be transferred without tax liability, but there is a catch. The receiving party must roll the monies over into a qualified account and not access same to avoid taxes and penalties. If the receiving party will need the monies to live, then they better make sure the Court is aware of the tax consequences for using those monies. (Alimony may also have tax consequences.)

Other economic consequences;

Other economic consequences can include the nature of the asset. Is it something that can be used and liquidated like an account or is it something that cannot be easily turned into cash, like a house or a collection of 17th French dishware? The Court may determine the type of assets. Also, some assets produce income or returns and some assets may decrease in value or require considerable upkeep expenses like an Arabian Horse.

Make sure you have discussed the type and nature of the assets that the Court is being asked to divide and be sure to consider the tax and long-term considerations regarding the asset(s).

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and recommends you pass on getting the Arabian Horse, as it will eat you out of house and home.

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Divorce, General Legal, Property Division

Nice Assets!

04/19/2013 BowTieLawyer 2 Comments

Two more factors considered in Equitable Distribution are the Value of the Marital Assets, as well as the Value of Separate Assets.

This blog is one in a series of blogs regarding Equitable Distribution in Mississippi. Equitable Distribution is the method employed by the Court’s to determine how marital property is to be divided in a divorce. The basics and factors to be considered can be seen here, Marital Property; How it’s Divided (click).

The market value and the emotional value of the assets subject to distribution.

Market value most commonly refers to “Fair Market Value” or the value a willing buyer, under no compulsion to buy, would pay a willing seller. Assets subject to distribution means any and all assets accumulated during the course of the marriage due to the efforts of the parties.

For accounts and investments it is typically the value of those investments. Your savings account has $7,650.00 in it = it’s worth $7,650.00. Your home’s value would normally be determined by an appraisal. There is also a fair amount of nuance that comes into play when determining the FMV of assets and the parties and their hired professionals can disagree on values. Additionally, not everything is valued using FMV. A business owned by a party in a divorce is valued using a “Net Asset” based approach, but that is an “exciting” blog for another day!

Emotional value or sentimental value is an intangible value or one that cannot be easily assessed. Having made all of those disclaimers, the court considers emotional value when determining who gets what and if you really, really want that Hoosier cabinet you will probably get it, but she may end up with an offset for a portion of the value of the Hoosier.

The value of assets not ordinarily, absent equitable factors to the contrary, subject to such distribution, such as property brought to the marriage by the parties and property acquired by inheritance or inter vivos gift by or to an individual spouse;

Assets not ordinarily subject to equitable distribution are the non-marital assets. These include assets acquired by inheritance, by gift (inter vivos just means a gift while living, as opposed to a gift via a will) or by efforts prior to the marriage. So while these assets may very well be separate, the value is still relevant for divorce purposes. Separate estate plays a role in dividing the assets and it also plays a role in the Court’s determination of alimony. A significant separate estate may result in you getting less out of the marriage than someone similarly situated with no separate estate, but it’s still a good problem to have.

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and recommends you have your property appraised.

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Divorce, General Legal, Marriage, Opinion

Purple Panty Pull-downs

04/17/2013 BowTieLawyer Leave a comment

Gotcha! Purple Panty Pull-downs, (a.k.a. Hunch Punch, Whoop Juice) is a college party drink of too much alcohol, kool-aid, sprite, and ice. It can lead to poor judgment, hangovers, injuries, arrests and other sordid outcomes. However it tastes good! When mixed right it is cold, sweet and easily drinkable. It “feels” safe. You cannot fully appreciate the danger.

Similarly, threats to your marriage can seem sweet. Contacting an old friend, meeting a business colleague for drinks or meeting someone new at an event and hitting it off. These interactions are new, exciting, fun and “feel” safe. But be careful.

A non-scientific poll conducted on Facebook by colleague and friend, Craig Robertson, revealed common places and common themes in affairs. Affairs typically do not happen with strangers. They are persons that we know. Persons from work, from our past, friends of the family and church – yes, Church! It happens. It’s the people you see at the grocery and the coffee shop and your kid’s friend’s parents.

So, should you be a recluse, a shut-in and avoid all other human interaction? No. Just be aware of your surroundings. Act intentionally.

When you see the cooler full of Purple Panty Pull-downs, Watch Out!

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney and in the words of Sir Winston Churchill, “The water was not fit to drink. To make it palatable, we had to add whisky. By diligent effort, I learnt to like it.” But don’t lose your wits about you.