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BowTieLawyer’s Top Rated Posts of 2012 (and a few of my favorites)

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Below are the Top Rated posts for BowTieLawyer for 2012 and a few of my favorites.  Thank you for viewing this blog, posting comments and sharing.  I think this is a worthwhile blog and I enjoy doing it.

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I began on August 14, 2012, blogging about Family Law issues and whatever else I felt like.

TOP 5 POSTS FOR 2012

And a few of my Favorites;

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Child Custody, Visitation

Christmas Custody and Visitation.

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In divorce situations the holidays, including Christmas, can be more difficult than any other time.  Christmas is a special time when everyone is supposed to get along and we celebrate family.  However, a divorce can certainly change that.

Most often divorced parties alternate the children during the holidays.  Usually the Christmas break is divided between the parents based upon the school calendar.  Additionally, the children usually spend part of Christmas Day with each parent.  The typical Custody/Visitation scheduled may look like this.

“In even-numbered years the Father shall have Thanksgiving from Wednesday prior to Thanksgiving through Thanksgiving weekend, ending Monday morning when he returns the child to school.

In even-numbered years the Mother shall have Christmas from the day school recesses for Christmas Break until Christmas Day at 2:00 p.m., and the Father shall have from 2:00 p.m. December 25 until January 1, at 12:00 noon.  The mother shall have from noon January 1, until school resumes, at which time the regular custody/visitation schedule shall resume.  In odd-numbered years this schedule shall be reversed so that the father shall have from the time school recesses for Christmas Break until Christmas Day at 2:00 p.m., and the Mother shall have from 2:00 p.m. December 25 until January 1, at 12:00 noon, with the Father having from noon January 1, until school resumes.”

This is just an example, though is fairly typical.  Having said that, the Court will likely approve any arrangement the parties can mutually agree upon.  There are good reasons to agree to an alternative plan.  Sometimes family tradition is to celebrate Christmas Eve and it may make more sense and be easier for the children if that parent continued with that tradition.  Sometimes the parties live so far apart that the travel on Christmas Day is unreasonable.  Pay attention to this.  It may make more sense and be easier for everyone involved for the exchange to be the 26th.  One judge, no longer on the bench, always awarded the custodial parent Christmas Eve and day.  His sentiment was the children needed to be “home” for Christmas.  The other parent did receive a good amount of time over the holidays and just adapted with “new” traditions.

As parents your job is to make the holiday as normal as possible.  It is okay to start new traditions, but don’t do so at the expense of your child’s emotional well-being.  Oh, and don’t agree to the alternating Christmas language in your papers based upon the other parent telling you, “don’t worry about it, you can always have Christmas morning ‘irregardless’ of the papers.”  First of all ‘irregardless’ is a non-standard word that will have the grammar police en route and secondly if it’s not in your papers, it’s not going to happen.

Remember this, Christmas can be whenever you and your child have the chance to be together.

Thompson Law Firm, pllc     Matthew@bowtielawyer.ms     (601) 850-8000maroon bow

General Legal, Opinion

Even Jedi Need Training! (Family Law Jedi)

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I recently had the opportunity to watch my children, and many others, participate in Jedi training. Jedi training included being introduced to the light saber, having the proper attire and practicing offensive and defensive maneuvers with the light saber. The instructor, Lady Skywalker, also spoke of how Luke had continued training by Master Yoda even after becoming a Jedi.

Similarly, attorneys are required to continue their training.  Each year lawyers are required to have 12 hours of Continuing Legal Education (CLE), including at least one hour of Ethics.  Typically lawyers attend a seminar or two, per year to receive their credit.

I frequently present at these seminars. I routinely speak on Family Law and have presented to the general public, lawyers and judges. I have conducted seminars aimed directly at other lawyers, training them on how to handle divorces, custody actions, and contempts in Mississippi.  I have presented at “Know Your Rights” seminars on behalf of the Mississippi Volunteer Lawyers Project and the Mission First Legal Aid Office.  I have presented at Guardian Ad Litem (GAL, appointed attorney to represent children) training sessions on how to perform Child Custody Evaluations and how to prepare a GAL Report.

To excel at what you do you have to not only be competent, but to continue to get better. I am committed to this by frequently and routinely speaking and presenting at seminars and training sessions throughout the state on Family Law. I am aiming towards being a Family Law Jedi.

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney that is not afraid to say “I don’t know,” but he will also find out the Answer!  If your case needs a family lawyer that keeps up with the law and current changes in the law please contact Thompson Law Firm.

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You may also contact Matthew with your family law case, question or concern at (601) 850-8000 or Matthew@BowTieLawyer.MS

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Divorce, Opinion, Visitation

Top 3 Lawyer Jokes (Some of my favorites)

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I think we can admit we all enjoy a good lawyer Joke every now and again.  We’re an affable bunch, generally, and easy targets.  We do so much that can be made fun of.  Here are a few of my favorites.

  • 3.  What do you call 10,000 Lawyers in the ocean?

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  • 2.  A Doctor, an Engineer and a Lawyer were discussing who represented the oldest of their three professions. The doctor said, “On the sixth day God took a rib from Adam and made Eve, making him the first surgeon. So medicine is the oldest profession.”  The Engineer said, “Before that, God created the heavens and earth from chaos and confusion, making Him the first Engineer. So engineering is older than medicine.”  The Lawyer spoke up, “True, but who do you think created all of the chaos and confusion?”
  • 1.    A man in Arizona calls his  adult son in New York a few days before Christmas and says, “I hate to ruin your day, but I have to tell you that your mother and I are divorcing.  Forty-five years of misery is enough.”  “What are you talking about?,” the son asks.  “We can’t stand the sight of each other any longer,” the father says. “We’re sick of each other, and I’m tired of talking about this, so you call your sister in Chicago and tell her.”  Frantic, the son calls his sister, who becomes very upset on the phone. “They are not getting divorced,” she shouts, “I’ll take care of this!”She calls home to Arizona immediately and screams at her father, “You are NOT getting divorced. Don’t do a single thing until I get there. I’m calling my brother back, and we’ll both be there tomorrow. Until then, don’t do a thing, DO YOU HEAR ME?” and hangs up.The old man hangs up his phone and turns to his wife. “Okay” he says, “they will be here for Christmas and they’re paying their own way.”
  • What’s your favorite lawyer joke?  Send an email or leave a comment.  You may see it here!

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Child Support, Divorce, General Legal, Marriage, Property Division

The Top 5 Lies of Divorce Clients

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There is an old lawyer joke… How do you tell when your client is lying to you?  When their lips are moving.  Lying to your lawyer is a really bad idea for multiple reasons.  It is primarily bad because advice can change based on the facts of your circumstance and if we, as the lawyer, do not know the facts our advice may not be right.  And the whole perjury thing is bad too.  Without further ado, here are the top 5 lies that clients tell.

  • 5.  Lies about Income.  
  • Clients that make a lot of money often understate their income.  Also, I have had clients say they make more than they do, I guess because of embarrassment.  It is a really bad idea to lie about income regardless of the reason.  The other party has the right to get pay records directly from your bank or employer and lying about making more than you do can result in you paying more than you owe.
  • 4.  Lies about their role within the Home.  
  • The husband comes in and says he does all of the cooking, cleaning, child rearing and otherwise paints himself as Martha Stewart, when he is more like Haagar the Horrible.  Out pillaging, but not big on household chores.  This matters because it effects the division of assets and has custody and alimony applications.
  • 3.  Lies about Other Marital Fault.
  • #3 is other marital fault because it is saving room for #1.  But this means that the client tells you about how awful the other party was.  How they were attacked or provoked and only reacted and defended themselves.  They “forgot” to mention the domestic violence conviction and the meth lab in the garage.  Oops.
  • 2.  Lies about Value$.
  • In a similar vein to lies about income, clients understate the value of investments, collectibles and businesses.  This can be very significant and a husband that misled the Court about the value of his privately owned business resulted in the wife coming back after the fact and getting more value when he had a falling out with a business partner.  Also, that 1953 Chevrolet Coupe is worth more than you are saying it is.
  • 1.  Lies about Adultery.
  • #1 for a reason.  It’s hard to admit when you are wrong.  By the way, “I didn’t have an affair, it was just a one-night stand,” is still an affair. It is adultery.  Lying about this can bumfoozle a legal strategy of trying to prevent the divorce.   If the other party has grounds against you and wants a divorce they can get it.  If you lie about it chances are you will eventually be caught.

These are just some of the lies told everyday.  It is important to tell your lawyer the truth, including the dirty details. It can make a difference in your case.

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce Attorney in Mississippi and encourages potential clients to tell your lawyer the truth!

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Child Custody, Child Support, Crime, Divorce, General Legal, Opinion

Know Your Rights! Get a diagnosis.

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This blog is inspired by the many, many folks I encounter on a weekly basis who have “no clue” what their rights are.

  • If you’re ill, you go to the doctor to get a check-up.

  • If your car is squeaking, you go to the mechanic.

  • If your roof is leaking, you call the repair man.

But if you think you are in a legal situation, what do you do?  YOU IGNORE IT!

Do NOT ignore it.  Go see an attorney.  They don’t bite.  We’ve already discussed how to determine if you need one (here) and how to find one (here).  This is just aimed at the folks on the fence and those choosing to be blissfully ignorant.  Not knowing your rights, not knowing the law, and not knowing your options is a bad thing.

There are deadlines, timelines, and statutes of limitation.  Memories fail, people forget or misremember, documents get lost, people get lost, and “witnesses” die.  Records get erased, deleted and shredded.  Bruises and wounds heal, scars fade, and most persons recall times past more fondly (or at least not as bad) than they were.

Get off the fence.  Get informed and know your rights.

Thompson Law Firm, pllc    Matthew@BowTieLawyer.ms    (601) 850-8000

Crime, General Legal, Opinion

Don’t Curse in Public! (Public Service Announcement)

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In my profession as a “wicked” divorce attorney I hear lots of cursing and sordid tales. I see pictures, movies, texts, emails, and love letters that would make you blush. Plus I get paid to review this “evidence.” (All fodder for future blogs!). I am saying this just so you know I am not a “prude.” However, I have recently visited the most magical place on Earth and was astounded with what I heard. (**I do not attribute the amount of the cursing to the magical location. I think I was more acutely aware of the cursing due to the circumstances. Don’t sue me, Mickey!**)

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With that disclaimer, the following is a snippet of what I personally heard/observed;

  • “He’s an a**h****! See his badge. All the guys with badges are a**h***s.” (Said by a an early fifties male guest to his early fifties wife, about a park employee bus driver, as the wife nodded in agreement).
  • “More like Barbie B*tch.” (One mom said to another mom when the child was describing Tinkerbell Barbie to another child).
  • “That’s some bu**$***.” (Not sure of the context, but overheard a forty-something male saying to his friend).
  • Various “F-bombs.” (Mainly regarding waiting in lines; lines for the bus, for the rides, for the restaurants…there are a lot of lines).
  • AND overheard kids saying;
  • “$h**, mom! We missed Tinkerbell!” (I really heard a 12-year-old say this to his mother, mom responded that Tinkerbell will probably be back soon).
  • “Don’t be a ‘Whiny B#tt'” (Said by a 5-year-old to her 4-year-old sister).
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Okay, so you heard someone cussin’. What’s the big deal?

The big deal is that there were numerous children all within earshot of every instance, from babies to teenagers. I don’t use curse words, except professionally. I would especially prefer you to not curse around children. Also, it could get you cited for obscenity or disturbing the peace.

And kids cursing? Come on. Back in the day; b#tt, d@mn, cr@p and s#cks were bad words. Not to mention the unmentionables (four-letter words). Let’s keep those words taboo.

Want to cuss at your house? Have at it. Go to a public location attended by 1,000s of kids, try not to be the cast from The Usual Suspects. Want your child to gain friends and win influence? Teach them how to speak by setting the right example.

Don’t like my opinion? Cuss me out, but do it via email at Matthew@wmtlawfirm.com or the next time we are having a private conversation.

Thompson Law Firm, pllc Matthew@wmtlawfirm.com (601) 850-8000

Divorce

Things Primary Custodians Know; Custody Battles

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When mom and dad are getting a divorce, or even if not married, custody is frequently an issue.  In the event that they cannot agree to the Custody arrangement, the Court will decide for them by applying the Albright Custody factors.

Within these factors there are a few which carry more weight than others. (Ultimately the Jude determines the weight of each).  Today’s blog is focusing on the “continuity of care prior to separation.”  This means who has been the primary caregiver.  To determine this the Court conducts a factual review of the parties actions and conduct with regards to being the primary caregiver and knowing the things primary caregivers know.

Primary caregivers know;

  • School teacher(s)
  • Day care provider(s)
  • Pediatrician
  • Dentist
  • Close friends of the child
  • Child’s favorites; food, colors, TV shows, toys
  • Child’s physical health issues
  • Clothes sizes
  • Shoe sizes

Primary caregivers do the following;

  • Get the child ready for their day
  • Cook, clean, wash, bathe the child
  • Take the child to and from school
  • To and from the Dr.’s visits
  • Playdates
  • Birthday parties at the Jump Zone
  • School programs
  • Extracurricular Activities
  • Clothes shopping
  • Shoe shopping
  • Santa Clause, Tooth Fairy, Easter Bunny

While the division of the above chores is rarely even, and each parent has their role, more often than not one parent is doing more and the Court will consider the facts when determining continuity of care.

*The Court determines the weight of each factor.  Even if a parent was favored in continuity of care, that factor alone does not provide that they will gain custody in every circumstance.

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