The Last Word: Mississippi, HB1523 and the icing on the cake.

 

It’s the law.  Mississippi HB1523 was signed into law on Tuesday morning by Governor Phil Bryant.  Afterwards he took to the airwaves to explain his reasons for doing so.

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This bill prevented “government from interfering with people of faith who are exercising their religious beliefs …in matters of marriage…[t]his bill does not create one action against any class or group of people. It doesn’t create a new action or a new defense of an action against those people.” Governor Bryant.  The Governor said it would not allow the discrimination of anyone.

The firestorm prior to, during and immediately after is still reverberating throughout the Country.  If you are in favor of this law, you do not care.

Travel to Mississippi has been banned by 4 states and 7 cities. If you are in favor of this law, you do not care.

CEOs and attorneys of major tech industries have expressed their disappointment in Mississippi, such as Microsoft, IBM and Salesforce. If you are in favor of this law, you do not care.

The legislators who wrote and proposed this law have been publicly listed.  One legislator who voted for it, two days later, his major tech corporation came out against it. Irony is like sweat in Mississippi. Ever present.

Passionate pleas and positions on FaceBook have been staked out. Though no one’s mind has ever been changed by a FaceBook post it provides a barometer of public sentiment. Some of the posts are absurd, irreverent and wrong. One in particular, by a lawyer, stated conclusively the law was constitutional, but to claim so you first had to set aside the finding that there is a fundamental right to marriage.  Complete nonsense. That fact is no longer up for debate.

The debate essentially centers around at least two competing interests.  Those in favor of the law – state that a small business owner, hardworking, toiling and of strong Christian conviction should not lose their business and livelihood due to getting sued for not baking a cake for a gay wedding. Those opposed to the law – state that this law affords no protections to a class in need of protection. The First Amendment prohibits the federal government from making a law “respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof.” This provision was later expanded to state and local governments, through the Incorporation of the Fourteenth Amendment.

This state law demands the respecting of an establishment of religion. It specifically allows state employees to discriminate against other citizens based upon a “sincerely held religious belief” or “moral conviction.” This means that the State employee whose job is to issue marriage licenses can refuse because they do not approve of your proposed spouse.

The intent is to prevent same-sex marriage, but it also prevents persons who were previously divorced from being married, persons pregnant out-of-wedlock who seek to be married, those that have had a child out of wedlock, and those having sex out of wedlock from getting married. These facts, by the way, are not an interpretation. It appears that most of the supporters of the law either don’t know how far it goes or don’t care to discuss the fact it demands the respecting of an establishment of religion by the State.

Interestingly, there has not been a reported instance of a small business in the State of Mississippi being sued or facing any consequences for refusing service to same-sex persons prior to this law. The Oregon case where a baker had a money judgment entered against him was due to the admitted violation of an Oregon State law and aggravating factors, such as the baker published the Complaintant’s name, home address and personal phone number on the internet. FaceBook no less. The money damages were for violating Oregon State law and the emotional distress that accompanied the intended private complaint being publicly posted.

One local Mississippi baker, Mitchell Moore of Cambell’s Bakery, whose interview with NPR went viral, stated, “I don’t think that there is such a thing as a deeply held religious belief that you should not serve people. There is no sincerely held religious belief to think that I am better than other people – to think that my sin is different than other people. And so I am a deeply Christian man, and those go counter to my belief system.Mitchell Moore 4/6/16 interview with NPR.

With respect to the Governor’s comments, that this law prevents “government from interfering with people of faith who are exercising their religious beliefs … in matters of marriage.” It actually allows the government to interfere. 

“It does not create one action against any class or group of people”  It specifically allows a state employee’s subjective belief to deny another citizen a right afforded by the U.S. Constitution and contradictory State Law.  

“It would not allow the discrimination of anyone.” It specifically allows for discrimination and actually protects the person doing the discrimination under the color of law.

This law violates the 1st and 14th Amendments to the Constitution. It will be struck down. It allows the State to discriminate against you and/or someone you know and love, based upon a subjective belief that can change depending on who is seeking that State employee to do their job. Private businesses were not in need of protection, nor are State employees in need of protection from following the law that they have sworn to uphold.

Matthew Thompson is an Adjunct Professor at MC Law and a Divorce Attorney encouraging you to believe in your beliefs, but follow the law.

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Mississippi; Legislating Morality in the Face of the Law

The Mississippi legislature  has been called “backwards” and compared to hissing possums.

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Unfortunately, Mississippi will again bear the brunt of ridicule. House Bill 1523, if signed into law, allows state employees, and other entities, to discriminate against other citizens based upon a “sincerely held religious belief” or “moral conviction.” This means that a State employee whose job is to issue marriage licenses, for instance, can refuse because they do not approve of your spouse.

The intent is to prevent persons from entering into a same-sex marriage in the Hospitality State. Incidentally, the United States Supreme Court found that marriage is a fundamental right under the Constitution. This bill, which seeks to infringe on that RIGHT also goes much further.  

If the State Employee does not want to issue you a license they can refuse for a same-sex marriage, can refuse if you were previously divorced, can refuse if you had sex out of wedlock, and I am sure there are other Leviticus-based  refusals.

This bill is simply pandering. It affords no real protections to any class in need of protection. It allows discrimination under the guise of faith. A faith which requires that we love our neighbor as ourselves, and teaches us that the one without sin may cast the first stone. It is an affront to the law.

This bill, if passes, guarantees the State will be sued and Mississippi will spend tens of thousands of dollars defending an indefensible position, to protect a class not in need of protection, to solve a problem that does not exist.

This is another example of Mississippi striving to fulfill her stereotypical destiny.

You can read the Bill here.

Matthew Thompson is an Adjunct Professor at MC Law and a Divorce Attorney encouraging you to believe in your beliefs, but follow the law.

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The SleepOver Challenge; How to Judge Yourself and Others

Serving as Family Law Attorney leads to having information that you wish you did NOT have.

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From swinging key parties to recreational substance abuse, the surprises just keep coming.  I am constantly surprised at what “normal” people are doing, even your neighbors.

One way to judge your actions is to ask yourself “Do I pass the SleepOver Challenge?” This simple test is whether you would allow your child to go to a sleepover at the neighbor’s house if they were doing what you were doing.

If you answer “yes,” then a Judge would likely be okay with your conduct (assuming you are in the bounds of societal norms).  If your answer is “no,” then it’s time to re-examine what you are doing.

And, if you are engaging in some really bizarre behind closed doors conduct, just disregard this, keep it to yourself and don’t invite anyone for a sleepover.

Matthew Thompson is a Child Custody Attorney practicing Family Law in Mississippi.

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Judges; Human Lie Detectors

“Do you swear or affirm the testimony you are about to give is the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth?”

All testimony is under oath. Judges apply the smell test to determine your truthfulness. Testimony that doesn’t make sense fails this test.

A man, after having been caught with his girlfriend, denied they were intimate because he could not…perform.  There was testimony that he had issues in that department. However, he was also on medication for his ailments.  He continued his medication even months after separating from his wife.  He did NOT have a good explanation for that.

Judge knew he was NOT telling the whole truth. You can lose your credibility on something seemingly trivial. Judges listen intently and judge you. That is their job. If you lie about little things or are “cute” with your answers then they may assume you’ll lie about big things.

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce Lawyer in Mississippi and recommends you tell the truth and nothing but the truth…but only answer what is asked.

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Be BETTER than a GOOD parent.

Everyday I hear about issues concerning what to do and how to do it regarding child and parenting matters?

Can he come to the school program?

What happens if she’s late?

What if…?

The best single piece of parenting advice is;

BE A REASONABLE PARENT ALL THE TIME!

Of course he can go to the school program.  Almost anyone can go to the school program. It’s a safe bet that if I can go, he can go. (Unless there is a Court Order stating otherwise.) If she’s running 15 minutes late, wait 15 more minutes.  Send a text or call. Ask why she’s late. She was late to everything you ever did in 12 plus years of marriage!  Why would it be different now?

What if…? As to “What Ifs?” Ask yourself what would a reasonable parent do.  Read more about the best thing you can do for your child here.

So, invite your ex to the next event for your child. Go out of your way to be cordial and at least not hostile. Your child wants them there. Tell yourself that you are being the “bigger” person, if you have to.  It’s what your children need!

Matthew Thompson is a Family and Child Custody attorney in Mississippi reminding you that acting in your children’s best interests should be your #1 priority!

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Locked Out.

Can I Change the Locks?

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“Can I change the locks?” is in the top 5 of divorce questions.

Yes. You can change the locks if it’s your house. If you are purchasing the home, or leasing or renting the abode, apartment, condo or camping trailer you can change the locks. But, there’s more…

What if he changes the locks on me? You can let yourself in if it’s your house. If you are purchasing the home, or leasing or renting the abode, apartment, condo or camping trailer you can let yourself in.

What does ‘let yourself in‘ mean? Exactly as it sounds. If you have a copy of the deed or lease agreement a locksmith will let you in, for a fee, or you can break the window and let yourself in.

You cannot break into your own house.* (*Unless there is a Court Order awarding one party exclusive use, or if it is NOT your house.)

So, I can change the locks, but it may not keep him out? Correct.

How do I keep him out? Get a Court Order.

Matthew Thompson is a divorce attorney in Mississippi and knows a great locksmith.

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One Way to Stop Having an Affair!

Stop having the affair.

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Stop texting, talking, FaceBook stalking, lunching, canoodling, meeting, pining, yearning, lying, pretending, excusing, allowing, submitting.

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce Attorney in Mississippi and suggests you stop.

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5 Ways NOT to introduce your new BF/GF to the Kids…

It’s going to happen at some point. You will get to (or have to) introduce your new soulmate to the children.  But, do you have to make it awkward?

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These are the TOP 5 ways NOT to introduce your new beauty or beau.

5. At the Traditional Family Holiday Dinner. It should preferably be on an occasion prior to this and more casual.

4. At the pick-up/drop-off exchange.  Sure, at some point you will all be a big, happy, blended family, but a slower introduction is usually better.

3. On an Overnight Trip. Could be contempt, could make for a long weekend.

2. The day the Divorce is final.  This is too soon.

1. At the Wedding.  It needs to be sooner, if possible.

Matthew Thompson is a Child Custody attorney in Mississippi and next up will be 5 ways to positively introduce that new soulmate…

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