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How’s the State of Your Union?

Recently President Obama delivered his 5th State of the Union Address to the American People, summarizing the status of the U.S.   Similarly assessing the State of Your Union is a good idea.

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A healthy relationship may be judged by how you and your significant other deal with the major areas in any relationship.

Communication

Are you listening? Yelling, silent treatment, saying what you mean, being understood.

Financial

Are you on the same page with major purchases, savings, etc.  Are job issues straining your relationship?

Intimacy

Issues of frequency, satisfaction and healthy self-images.

Conflict Resolution

How do you resolve conflicts?  Arguing the loudest does not determine a winner.

Children

To have or have not?

How’s the State of Your Union?  This list is not exhaustive, but is a good starting place. Sit down with your spouse and talk about it.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law attorney and talking with your spouse about issues in your relationship now may prevent you having to sit down and talk about it with me later!

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Holiday Burnout; 3 Tips to Cope and Keep Moving Forward.

Now that the Holiday’s hustle and bustle are behind us it is common for an emotional lull or brief bout of depression to set in.  These are the Christmas Blues and are real.  These are especially common in those persons dealing with the stress of family law litigation.

Christmas Blues happen for a number of reasons; all of the excitement and anticipation of the holidays have passed, financial problems that were ignored can no longer be (your personal financial cliff), the relatives you actually enjoy seeing have gone back home, and the “doldrums” of work and real life are back, in full force. There is even a medical term that can be applied; seasonal affective disorder.

There are a few mechanisms to cope with these Christmas Blues. I have previously blogged on dealing with stress by keeping a routine, adding some form of physical fitness and making your bed everyday, these continue to be applicable.  However, the Christmas Blues can be counteracted with a few other techniques, which also happen to be appropriate if you are dealing with or anticipate dealing with family law issues.

  • Get a financial check-up.  Meet with your financial advisor or CPA.  Hire one if you don’t have one.  You may think you don’t have a need or do not have enough assets to warrant it, however knowing what you have, where it goes and what to do with it helps regardless of your situation.
  • Get a medical check-up.  This is almost as unpopular as going to the dentist, but do it anyway.  Knowing what’s going on with your health is important and can head off future issues. I know you’re busy and feel fine.  Do it anyway.
  • Get a spiritual check-up.  Why do bad things happen to good people?  Why is their so much illness and tragedy in the world?  I do not have all of the answers, but these are common questions.  Being centered, be it through your church, other place of worship or out in the woods, helps you cope with life’s unanswered questions.

These are not earth shattering, though may be annoying or hard to schedule.  Do it anyway.  You will not regret it.

Matthew is a divorce attorney, food blogger, and Mississippian, none of which he apologizes for.  Follow the @ http://www.BowTieLawyer.ms.

You may contact the Firm at (601) 850-8000 or Matthew@bowtielawyer.ms.