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How NOT to Communicate; 10 Methods or Means of Communication that are more Trouble than they are Worth.

A big part of the any relationship is communication.

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A big part of the trouble in many relationships is  difficulty with or lack of communication. So, I have made a list of ways to NOT communicate.

1. Threats. Don’t make them.

2. Unreasonable Demands. They are unreasonable.

3. Information Dump on a Whim.  The time must be appropriate for the discussions necessary.

4. Sensitive Information in a Non-protected Environment. Have private talks in private. Not in front of the children, friends, family and others.

5. Blaming the Other Incessantly. Accepting responsibility is one thing, being the reason that every bad thing that ever happened is not likely.

6. Screaming. Not necessary. He who is the loudest does not win.

7. Cursing. Not necessary.

8. Being Unprepared. If you or the other person are not in a position to discuss intelligently it is likely much will not be accomplished.

9. Win at All Costs. I’m always right. Even when I am wrong, I am right…right?

10. Lying. What good does it do to “win” if it’s a lie?

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney and cautions persons to be careful how they communicate with others.

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How’s the State of Your Union?

Recently President Obama delivered his 5th State of the Union Address to the American People, summarizing the status of the U.S.   Similarly assessing the State of Your Union is a good idea.

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A healthy relationship may be judged by how you and your significant other deal with the major areas in any relationship.

Communication

Are you listening? Yelling, silent treatment, saying what you mean, being understood.

Financial

Are you on the same page with major purchases, savings, etc.  Are job issues straining your relationship?

Intimacy

Issues of frequency, satisfaction and healthy self-images.

Conflict Resolution

How do you resolve conflicts?  Arguing the loudest does not determine a winner.

Children

To have or have not?

How’s the State of Your Union?  This list is not exhaustive, but is a good starting place. Sit down with your spouse and talk about it.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law attorney and talking with your spouse about issues in your relationship now may prevent you having to sit down and talk about it with me later!

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“What Rhymes with Hug Me?” (hey, hey, hey)

Robin Thicke has a song out called Blurred Lines.

In the song he sings about sending mixed signals and how a response intended to mean one thing can be interpreted or mean another to the receiver.

Are your communications with your spouse doing the same thing?

Communication is critical.  It’s critical in a healthy relationship and it’s critical in the aftermath.  I have seen many, many post separation communications be misinterpreted and then used against the sending party. Email and text messages do not connote tone.  Glib comments, being cute or even a smart aleck can easily be inferred or not.

Also, too much communication leads to mixed signals, mixed emotions, false hope and opportunity for your words to be used against you.  Usually, I recommend limited communications and that those be about the children or emergencies, or course.  Sometimes, however, I recommend no contact.  You hired attorneys, let them do it.

Don’t blur the lines.

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and while Blurred Lines may be a catchy song, blurred lines of communication can lead to trouble.

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You may also contact Matthew with your family law case, question or concern at (601) 850-8000 or Matthew@bowtielawyer.ms.

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