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Burn the Couch!

Sometimes cleaning up the scene of the crime helps the healing process.



I previously wrote about  knowing too much of the dirty details may make forgiveness impossible.  Knowing the who, what, where, and when and other dirt can mess with your mind and trigger PTSD-like symptoms.

However, sometimes you cannot forget and you may have a daily reminder in the living room. You are left with 3 options:

  1. You can choose to forgive. 
  2. You can choose NOT to forgive. 
  3. You can BURN the Couch.

Forgiveness takes time, choosing not to forgive takes a commitment, burning the couch takes a lighter.*

Matthew Thompson is a Mississippi Divorce Attorney and reminds you that if you are going to burn the couch, do so outside, in a safe manner and in full compliance of all applicable laws.*

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Book of Sins; A Detailed Accounting of all of Your Wrongdoings…and Other Things to do for a NOT Healthy Recovery

Who wrote the Book of Love…er…Sins? 


Do you have a Book of Sins?  I have learned a new term.  “Book of Sins.”  This book is a recounting of every wrongdoing perpetrated by that lousy ex of yours.

It includes every text, email, photo, posting, phone record(s), and listing of lies that your sorry, no good ex spouse did, said, lied about and tried to get away with.

This book is brought out at nearly every post-divorce opportunity. Phone call about the kid’s dentist appointment?  Remind her of the Book of Sins.  School Program?  Well the program should include a reference to the Book.  What? He’s apologized and you’ve “forgiven “him?? Well that doesn’t mean you can’t throw the Book at him.

The Book of Sins is apparently a real way some persons attempt to deal with divorce.  While evidence gathering before a divorce and record keeping after one have a purpose, a Book of Sins and continual reference to same, even years later, does not serve a legitimate purpose.  It is not healthy.  Burn the Book.

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce Attorney in Mississippi and suggests you burn the Book of Sins.

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You may also contact Matthew with your family law case, question or concern at (601) 850-8000 or Matthew@bowtielawyer.ms.

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