Tag Archives: reconciliation

Burn the Couch!

Sometimes cleaning up the scene of the crime helps the healing process.



I previously wrote about  knowing too much of the dirty details may make forgiveness impossible.  Knowing the who, what, where, and when and other dirt can mess with your mind and trigger PTSD-like symptoms.

However, sometimes you cannot forget and you may have a daily reminder in the living room. You are left with 3 options:

  1. You can choose to forgive. 
  2. You can choose NOT to forgive. 
  3. You can BURN the Couch.

Forgiveness takes time, choosing not to forgive takes a commitment, burning the couch takes a lighter.*

Matthew Thompson is a Mississippi Divorce Attorney and reminds you that if you are going to burn the couch, do so outside, in a safe manner and in full compliance of all applicable laws.*

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Less is More…Knowing the Dirt May Do More Harm Than Good.

Confession is good for the Soul.


However, what’s good for the Soul may not be so good for your marriage.  Sometimes knowing the details, deeds and dirt makes it impossible to “forgive.”  Knowing the location of the “scene of the crime” results in PTSD every time you pass by.  Knowing the name of the paramour gives you the HeeBeeGeeBees when you have a waiter/waitress with the same name.  Also, even when you know all the dirt, you still wonder if you really do.

If the goal is to attempt to reconcile and work through life’s difficulties, you may well be better served by the mantra- Less is More.

Read about “The Dirt” here, “The Book of Sins” here and more on “Reconciliation” here.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law Attorney in Mississippi and believes that sometimes ignorance is bliss. Consult your attorney, counselor or mental health professional for more info!

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I see “dead” people.

Haley Joel Osment said it first…


I don’t actually see dead people as much as I see “dying” relationships. Yes, I am a divorce attorney.

Everyday I see these dying relationships in various places. Of course, at the office.  Those persons scheduled an appointment, but I also see “dead” people at church, the grocery store and on the sidelines at ball games.

Family struggles do not discriminate based on race, religion, or financial status. Also, putting on the happy faces and public displays does nothing to address the underlying issues.  Those take real work.

Interestingly, a divorce attorney may can help.  While sounding counter-intuitive, an experienced Family Law attorney can not only advise you of your rights and answer your questions, but can also advise you on ways to salvage a relationship, even from the brink of “death.” Options of individual counseling, couples therapy or in some instances a good dose of reality can work to jolt attitudes and one’s willingness to try.

Being one of the “walking dead” does not doom you or your marriage so long as you recognize and work to resuscitate that relationship.

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce attorney in Mississippi and if your relationship is in need of 911 he may be the right Juris Doctor for your ailments.

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