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HOW NOT TO TESTIFY IN COURT!

Courtroom testimony is nerve-wracking.  You’re under oath, in the spotlight and half of the time you are being questioned by someone who is likely out to get you.  However, there is one thing to NOT do.

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Do NOT interrupt.

Do NOT interrupt the person examining you. Do not interrupt whoever is asking the question and do NOT interrupt the Judge.  It never ends well, even if what you have to say is very relevant and important. Wait. Say it when asked or when explaining your answer.  Also, do NOT just volunteer information.  A Question is asked, an Answer is given.  If there is a moment of silence or a pause while the next question is being formulated there is no need to fill in the silence with talking.  Be still.

Read more on testimonial war stories here and child testimony here.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law Litigation Attorney in Mississippi and does his best to not interrupt the Judge.

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“Should I take my nose ring out?” a.k.a. Attire for Court

Recently I was asked about appropriate attire for Court.  Specifically, I was asked about the propriety of wearing a piercing in Court.

“Should I take my nose ring out?”

While dress codes in Couimgres.jpgrt are not what they used to be, you still should dress appropriately for Court.

What is proper attire?

  • conservative/church attire
  • slacks/dress pants
  • button-down/collared shirts
  • suit
  • appropriate dresses

What is not proper?

  • shorts
  • t-shirts
  • sleeveless shirts
  • short dresses/skirts
  • gaudy jewelry
  • hats

…so, should you take your nose ring out?                 

“Yes, yes you should.”

Matthew Thompson is a Litigation Attorney in Mississippi and while you may not lose your case because of your attire or appearance, everything you can do to help should be done.

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Child Testimony in Court

Whether a child should testify is a struggle in every instance when it arises.  I have previously blogged on the law, the Jethrow standard that the Court applies in determining the process of a child testifying.  (Click here).  Today’s is a practical view on how the Court conducts children testifying in a Civil case.

So, how does child testimony work?  Ultimately, it depends on the Judge.  I have seen the following;

1)  The Judge clears the Courtroom of all persons except the Judge, the Court Reporter and the child.

Here the Judge does the questioning.  The Judge is trying to determine the child’s truthfulness, their intellectual capacity for the retaining and reporting the information sought and whether is admissible and relevant.  This process takes as long as the court deems necessary.  I have stood in the hall for an hour while the Court conducts the interview.  Upon the Court concluding, the parties and lawyers are brought back in and the Judge summarizes the child’s testimony.  There may or may not be an opportunity for questioning.

2)  The Judge takes the child and the Court reporter to his/her chambers (office).

Again the Judge does the questioning, but it is in a less intimidating setting.  The judge’s office is usually much more “familiar” and personalized than the Courtroom.  Judge’s do this to put the child more at ease.  The relative same process of above is used, just in a different location.

3)  The Judge, the lawyers, the child and Court Reporter go into the Judge’s chambers.

Here the Judge let’s the lawyers do the questioning.  Now, the Judge is making sure that the lawyers maintain a respectful and appropriate tone and the child is not subject to interrogation or cross-examination in the true sense of the word, but the child is responding directly to the lawyers.  The Judge determines what is relevant and admissible in all instances.

And finally,

4)  The child takes the witness stand and is questioned by each lawyer and possibly the Judge, in the presence of the parents.  For a very young child this procedure will not be used.  For an older child, say 14 and up, this is more common.

Ultimately, the age of the child, the issues at hand and the wishes of the parent’s are the deciding factors in how the child testimony is handled.  The famous quote from the Jethrow case is;

“We reiterate that parents in a divorce proceeding should if at all possible refrain from calling any of the children of their marriage, of tender years at least, as witnesses, and counsel should advise their clients against doing so except in the most exigent cases. The reason and wisdom behind this precaution need no amplification. We also hold, however, as we must that no parent can be precluded from having a child of the marriage in a divorce proceeding testify simply because of that fact.” Jethrow v. Jethrow, 571 So.2d 270, 274 (Miss. 1990).

Matthew Thompson is a Child Custody Litigation Attorney in Mississippi.

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Pleading the 5th in Divorce

“I plead the 5th!”

No person shall be held to answer for a capital, or otherwise infamous crime, unless on a presentment or indictment of a Grand Jury, except in cases arising in the land or naval forces, or in the Militia, when in actual service in time of War or public danger; nor shall any person be subject for the same offense to be twice put in jeopardy of life or limb; nor shall be compelled in any criminal case to be a witness against himself, nor be deprived of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law; nor shall private property be taken for public use, without just compensation. –5th Amendment to the U.S. Constitution

In divorce cases pleading the 5th is not often invoked.  The reason is divorce cases are civil matters, by their nature.  Not civil in the sense that everyone is always nice, but civil as opposed to criminal.

When Can you Plead the 5th in a Divorce Matter?

When answering the question would involve you admitting to a crime.  Interestingly, adultery, or habitual fornication rather, is a crime in Mississippi. It is rarely prosecuted, but is a crime nonetheless.  Due to this you may invoke the 5th. However, you have not outsmarted the system.  Pleading the 5th in a civil matter creates a presumption that you did what was asked.  Or, at least the Chancellor can use it against you.

So, how does this play out? (envision a Courtroom)

Attorney:  Mr. Smith, it’s true isn’t is that you have committed adultery during your marriage to Mrs. Smith?

Mr. Smith:  I plead the 5th.

Attorney:  Let the record reflect that Mr. Smith has invoked his 5th amendment right against self-incrimination as it relates to a question about adultery and the Court may make an adverse inference against Mr. Smith for doing so.

Judge:  Duly noted.

Why do it then?  The witness does not have to disclose  the dirty details, name names, places, locations, or positions.

Pleading the 5th may not stop you from getting a divorce, but it may prevent bringing other persons down with you.

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce and Domestic Relations Attorney in the Magnolia State. Follow the blog:#BowTieLawyer 

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Courtroom Etiquette; It’s NOT what you see on TV.

Ben Matlock and Perry Mason were always able to berate the real killer on the witness stand until he confessed or it just so happened that the real killer attended the Trial, sitting in the audience, just to watch, only to see himself implicated and arrested before he could leave.

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However, real Court is not like TV Court.  Lawyers for the most part do not have surprise witnesses that no one knows of and the real killer does not attend and watch from the gallery.  Though Court is usually open to the public, rarely does anyone other than a family member attend.

Lawyers are usually held to a reasonable standard of Courtroom Etiquette and witnesses and parties are even more-so.

Courtroom Etiquette includes;

  • Dressing appropriately. (conservative or church attire is acceptable, shorts, sleeveless tops, & hats are not)
  • Acting appropriately. (No guffawing, exclaiming, gum chewing, loud talking in the audience)
  • Waiting for the Question to be asked before Answering. (All is being typed by the Court reporter)
  • Answering “Yes” or “No,” and then explaining if necessary.
  • Not Shouting or Yelling.
  • Not Cursing.
  • Not Lying.
  • Not Faking Emotion.

Court is emotional.  You can have and show emotion, but the Court is going to judge the level of emotion shown based on the issues before it and will take into account stage fright.  The Judge also knows, more often than not, when you are faking it.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law Litigation Attorney in Mississippi; know when to hold, when to fold them, know when to walk away and when to run…

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Courtroom Jitters

Testifying in Court is the most nerve-racking experience for the parties in a case.

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The number one phobia among human beings is public speaking, not death, heights, or spiders. Evidence of this can be seen daily. Add to it the pressure of being involved in serious litigation and Courtroom Jitters are to be expected.

I have seen witnesses forget the answer to the most basic of questions due to stage fright. I had a witness forget her address, the one where she had lived for years. I’ve seen a deposition transcript where the husband going through a divorce lost his cool when asked his name. To him the question was insulting because they had been married for years. The anxiety of being in that situation got the better of him.

A colleague told me she had a witness freeze while being questioned about adultery and then lie about the affair even though he knew the other side had “it” on video! After the lie the attorney requested a short recess. The client said he panicked and just said,”NO!” ( while Nancy Reagan would have been proud, it was perjury). After the recess the opposing attorney asked to play the video to impeach the witness. The witness admitted the affair, but it was too late. The court ordered the video be played.

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce Litigation Attorney in Mississippi. Stage fright happens and is real. The best advice is avoid Court. The second best advice is prepare, prepare, prepare.

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Do NOT take this to Court.

Spending many hours in Courtrooms throughout the State of Mississippi I have learned some things and seen some stuff.  Today are the things that you should NOT bring to Court.

So you know to bring the evidence you need, your witnesses, and your attorney.  But, what should you NOT bring:

  • Food/Drinks.  This is a standard Court rule.  There are usually vending machines in the halls.  Even attorneys cannot get away with this one.
  • Cell Phone.  Again a fairly standard procedure.  With every phone having audio and video recording options, cell phones are on the short-list of no-nos.
  • Purse.  My purse?  Yes.  The Court does not allow purses these days.  Leave it in the car.
  • Weapons.  Any kind of weapon, including but not limited to pocket knife, scissors, obviously firearms.  Most Court have metal detectors.
  • Hotheaded Relatives or Friends.  The Court does not need your Uncle in the audience guffawing, sighing, snickering or gossiping during Court. If he cannot control himself he’ll be removed from the Courtroom anyway.
  • Crying Babies.  The days of babies being necessary for Court are over.  No longer will the jury/judge look at the baby and look at the putative father to see if there is a resemblance.  Don’t take a baby to Court.

Matthew Thompson is a practicing attorney in Mississippi Divorce Court.  NO SHOES, NO SHIRT, NO COURT!

Never Do This in Court! (or This!)

Court.  The most anxious, stress-filled, loss of control decision a person can make.  Even with careful preparation it can be unpleasant.  Without preparation it can be a nightmare!

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So what should you not do in Court?

  • Don’t argue with the Judge.   Even if the Judge is “wrong,” “mistaken,” or “backwards.”  Leave the arguing to the attorney.
  • Don’t argue with your attorney.  Short of catastrophic representation meltdown listen and heed your attorney’s advice.
  • Don’t argue with the other attorney.  Just answer the questions asked, explaining if necessary.  Personal jabs, smart-alleck responses and witty banter are not needed.

So that’s what you should not do, but what should you NEVER do?

  • Never give sassy responses to the Judge.  This is different from arguing. Oftentimes the Judge will have questions for the witnesses.  The responses and the manner given matter.  For instance, in a hearing where both parents sought custody and child support, the father said that he did “NOT need ANY child support nor ANY money to care for HIS kids…”  But, he then objected to having to pay any child support as he had limited income.  The Court made note of his inconsistency.
  • Never criticize the other parent for conduct that you also do.  On another occasion a parent was being especially critical of the other for “leaving” the children at day care all day and not picking them up until the “last-minute,” around 5:30.  Well, this parent had also just testified they were self-employed and could get the children at any time, because his schedule was so flexible, but did not.  This irked the Judge.
  • Never lie. (PERJURY)  You will get caught.  The truth is easy to remember. Remember, usually, it’s not the crime but the cover-up that gets you.  The very affluent husband, with a great job, testified that he was unsure of his income, but knew his expenses down to the penny.  He testified under oath that his expenses exceeded his income by over $10,000 per month.  The problem?  He had no debt. This situation of making $10,000 less than he was spending had been going on for months, if not years, but he always made payroll, carried no debt, had no loans and could not explain how this could be.  Perhaps he had a money tree out back.  The Judge imputed income and based his obligations on what he stated his expenses were and what apparently his income was.

Matthew Thompson is an Adjunct Professor- Domestic Relations at MC Law and a Family Law Lawyer.  Don’t do these things in Court if you know what’s good for you!

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