All too often you are lead to believe that one party is totally to blame and the other party is completely innocent.
Well, rarely is that the case. While one party may be more at fault, the main reason for the ultimate split and even provide actionable fault grounds for the other to use, it does not mean the other spouse is blameless. The common sentiment is that there are 2 sides to every story. In family law there are 3 sides. His version, her version and the truth!
If you fall into the trap of “it’s all his fault” it does a disservice to you for preparing for the outcome. Even when it’s all his fault, you don’t take him to the cleaners. Nobody gets taken to the cleaners anymore. If they do, they appeal. And when the cleaners are involved these days it is because someone wants out so bad they agree to a deal that they would not get otherwise from the Court or it was the only way out.
While this topic may be touchy, and pointing fingers at the “innocent spouse” may be hazardous to my health, it is nonetheless important to know that there is usually more than enough blame to go around.
Matthew Thompson is a Family Law attorney and will tell you when you messed up and when it’s your fault.