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Advice of the Day: Know When to Shut Your Mouth

Everyday presents a lesson that we can take away and learn from.

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Today’s “Advice of the Day” is:   Know When to Shut Your Mouth.

  • When the Judge Orders you to Stop Talking?           Stop Talking.
  • When the Other Side Agrees to What you Want?  Stop Talking.
  • When Your Lawyer asks you to Stop Speaking?       Stop Talking.
  • When you are Winning Greatly?                                        Stop Talking.
  • When you are Losing Badly?                                                 Stop Talking.

Matthew Thompson is a family Law attorney in the Hospitality State and encourages you to ‘be still and listen.’

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Court is Unpredictable.

Court. The true final frontier.

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Court is where disputes that otherwise cannot get resolved get resolved. However, Court does not always go as planned. Witnesses freeze up and forget details that matter. Your client talks too much and argues with the other side. Or, your client cries uncontrollably and is hard to understand while testifying. The other party has spontaneous amnesia. The Judge has other cases and the other attorney has an emergency in the next Courtroom.

Even the best laid plans go awry. Court starts late and finishes early, for the day. Court runs long. Court is not fun and a “win” is hard to come by.

Avoid it if you can. Prepare like you can’t.

Matthew Thompson is a Mississippi Family Attorney.

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Contempt, Fine$ and Your Toothbrush; Disobeying Court Orders

Contempt is the willful refusal to follow or abide by a valid Court Order.

Contempt is what the Court finds when you 1) do NOT DO what you have been Ordered to do, or when you 2) do what you have been Ordered NOT to DO.

The most common finding of Contempt is failure to pay child support.  A willful failure to pay child support usually leads to a finding of Contempt and if repeated can lead to very bad results.  It is the most common contempt ground leading to incarceration.  A finding of contempt can result in fines, the payment of the other side’s fees and possibly incarceration.

However, you can be in Contempt of any valid Court Order if you do not follow it.  This can include violating a No Contact Order– meaning you are to not have contact or communications with a certain person and if you do you may be held in contempt.

So you can be held in contempt for NOT doing what you should, ie: pay support or for doing what you should NOT, ie: contacting a person you are barred from contacting.

So, what do you do when there is a valid Court Order? Follow it to the letter.

What happens if you don’t?  Well, you better bring your toothbrush…

Matthew Thompson is a Child Custody Lawyer in Mississippi and reminds you to NOT do things that can lead to your incarceration.

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“Should I take my nose ring out?” a.k.a. Attire for Court

Recently I was asked about appropriate attire for Court.  Specifically, I was asked about the propriety of wearing a piercing in Court.

“Should I take my nose ring out?”

While dress codes in Couimgres.jpgrt are not what they used to be, you still should dress appropriately for Court.

What is proper attire?

  • conservative/church attire
  • slacks/dress pants
  • button-down/collared shirts
  • suit
  • appropriate dresses

What is not proper?

  • shorts
  • t-shirts
  • sleeveless shirts
  • short dresses/skirts
  • gaudy jewelry
  • hats

…so, should you take your nose ring out?                 

“Yes, yes you should.”

Matthew Thompson is a Litigation Attorney in Mississippi and while you may not lose your case because of your attire or appearance, everything you can do to help should be done.

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Child Testimony in Court

Whether a child should testify is a struggle in every instance when it arises.  I have previously blogged on the law, the Jethrow standard that the Court applies in determining the process of a child testifying.  (Click here).  Today’s is a practical view on how the Court conducts children testifying in a Civil case.

So, how does child testimony work?  Ultimately, it depends on the Judge.  I have seen the following;

1)  The Judge clears the Courtroom of all persons except the Judge, the Court Reporter and the child.

Here the Judge does the questioning.  The Judge is trying to determine the child’s truthfulness, their intellectual capacity for the retaining and reporting the information sought and whether is admissible and relevant.  This process takes as long as the court deems necessary.  I have stood in the hall for an hour while the Court conducts the interview.  Upon the Court concluding, the parties and lawyers are brought back in and the Judge summarizes the child’s testimony.  There may or may not be an opportunity for questioning.

2)  The Judge takes the child and the Court reporter to his/her chambers (office).

Again the Judge does the questioning, but it is in a less intimidating setting.  The judge’s office is usually much more “familiar” and personalized than the Courtroom.  Judge’s do this to put the child more at ease.  The relative same process of above is used, just in a different location.

3)  The Judge, the lawyers, the child and Court Reporter go into the Judge’s chambers.

Here the Judge let’s the lawyers do the questioning.  Now, the Judge is making sure that the lawyers maintain a respectful and appropriate tone and the child is not subject to interrogation or cross-examination in the true sense of the word, but the child is responding directly to the lawyers.  The Judge determines what is relevant and admissible in all instances.

And finally,

4)  The child takes the witness stand and is questioned by each lawyer and possibly the Judge, in the presence of the parents.  For a very young child this procedure will not be used.  For an older child, say 14 and up, this is more common.

Ultimately, the age of the child, the issues at hand and the wishes of the parent’s are the deciding factors in how the child testimony is handled.  The famous quote from the Jethrow case is;

“We reiterate that parents in a divorce proceeding should if at all possible refrain from calling any of the children of their marriage, of tender years at least, as witnesses, and counsel should advise their clients against doing so except in the most exigent cases. The reason and wisdom behind this precaution need no amplification. We also hold, however, as we must that no parent can be precluded from having a child of the marriage in a divorce proceeding testify simply because of that fact.” Jethrow v. Jethrow, 571 So.2d 270, 274 (Miss. 1990).

Matthew Thompson is a Child Custody Litigation Attorney in Mississippi.

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Leave Your Guns at Home…

No.  This is not anti-open carry, which Mississippi allows by the way.  This is about what not to take to Court.

Courthouses are upping safety measures.  As you can imagine, high emotion, high drama and looming consequences are involved in cases daily.  Because of this, safeguards have been and are being implemented throughout Courthouses.  Metal detectors, handhelds, bag searches are routine.  Litigants routinely have to hike back to the car to put up their purses and phones.

Here’s What You Don’t Take to Court:

  • Any weapon. No guns, knives, clubs, mace, etc… if it’s “evidence” let the lawyer deal with it.
  • Cell phone.  The bane of the Judge’s existence these days, most are prohibited by the Court and a few Courts even disallow the lawyers from having cell phones. Very frustrating.
  • Purse. Yes, they are apparently just a large assault bags, full of narcotics and recording devices.
  • Recording Devices.  There’s a Court reporter, unless you have specific permission having a recording device may well get you in trouble.
  • Drinks.  This is elementary.
  • Gum.  This is kindergarten.
  • Your girlfriend.  She will just anger the wife and the judge. No good comes from this.

Matthew Thompson is a Mississippi Family Law attorney and as Johnny Cash sang, “Don’t take your guns to town.”

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Pleading the 5th in Divorce

“I plead the 5th!”

No person shall be held to answer for a capital, or otherwise infamous crime, unless on a presentment or indictment of a Grand Jury, except in cases arising in the land or naval forces, or in the Militia, when in actual service in time of War or public danger; nor shall any person be subject for the same offense to be twice put in jeopardy of life or limb; nor shall be compelled in any criminal case to be a witness against himself, nor be deprived of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law; nor shall private property be taken for public use, without just compensation. –5th Amendment to the U.S. Constitution

In divorce cases pleading the 5th is not often invoked.  The reason is divorce cases are civil matters, by their nature.  Not civil in the sense that everyone is always nice, but civil as opposed to criminal.

When Can you Plead the 5th in a Divorce Matter?

When answering the question would involve you admitting to a crime.  Interestingly, adultery, or habitual fornication rather, is a crime in Mississippi. It is rarely prosecuted, but is a crime nonetheless.  Due to this you may invoke the 5th. However, you have not outsmarted the system.  Pleading the 5th in a civil matter creates a presumption that you did what was asked.  Or, at least the Chancellor can use it against you.

So, how does this play out? (envision a Courtroom)

Attorney:  Mr. Smith, it’s true isn’t is that you have committed adultery during your marriage to Mrs. Smith?

Mr. Smith:  I plead the 5th.

Attorney:  Let the record reflect that Mr. Smith has invoked his 5th amendment right against self-incrimination as it relates to a question about adultery and the Court may make an adverse inference against Mr. Smith for doing so.

Judge:  Duly noted.

Why do it then?  The witness does not have to disclose  the dirty details, name names, places, locations, or positions.

Pleading the 5th may not stop you from getting a divorce, but it may prevent bringing other persons down with you.

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce and Domestic Relations Attorney in the Magnolia State. Follow the blog:#BowTieLawyer 

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Courtroom Etiquette; It’s NOT what you see on TV.

Ben Matlock and Perry Mason were always able to berate the real killer on the witness stand until he confessed or it just so happened that the real killer attended the Trial, sitting in the audience, just to watch, only to see himself implicated and arrested before he could leave.

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However, real Court is not like TV Court.  Lawyers for the most part do not have surprise witnesses that no one knows of and the real killer does not attend and watch from the gallery.  Though Court is usually open to the public, rarely does anyone other than a family member attend.

Lawyers are usually held to a reasonable standard of Courtroom Etiquette and witnesses and parties are even more-so.

Courtroom Etiquette includes;

  • Dressing appropriately. (conservative or church attire is acceptable, shorts, sleeveless tops, & hats are not)
  • Acting appropriately. (No guffawing, exclaiming, gum chewing, loud talking in the audience)
  • Waiting for the Question to be asked before Answering. (All is being typed by the Court reporter)
  • Answering “Yes” or “No,” and then explaining if necessary.
  • Not Shouting or Yelling.
  • Not Cursing.
  • Not Lying.
  • Not Faking Emotion.

Court is emotional.  You can have and show emotion, but the Court is going to judge the level of emotion shown based on the issues before it and will take into account stage fright.  The Judge also knows, more often than not, when you are faking it.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law Litigation Attorney in Mississippi; know when to hold, when to fold them, know when to walk away and when to run…

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