We know the sound advice that financial gurus recommend a 6-month savings of living expenses. We also know how difficult it is to do that.
But, today’s advice is about a different type of emergency fund. I suggest you have a cash emergency fund. Have enough money that you can get the help you need in the event of a family law emergency.
It is not uncommon for potential clients to have no readily accessible monies or extremely limited access to any monies. This makes it very difficult to navigate in the world that we live in. Also, when monies are in a joint account the joint owner may take any or all of those monies at any time and may also see if you did the same.
Have an emergency fund of several thousand dollars handy. Keep it somewhere safe and even if you never need it, you may have a family member or friend that will.
Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and wishes you a Happy Groundhog Day!
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Does your lawyer avoid you like the plague, saying he’s in “Court,” or she’s in depositions? Maybe they are, or maybe you are an unreasonable client!
Signs of an Unreasonable client:
You want it yesterday. (Most things are not emergencies and even the basics take time to get right. Allow adequate time.)
You want it your way. (This is not Burger King. Usually, doing it your way leads to the mess that you are now in.)
You do not heed advice. (Similar to wanting it your way, you ignore instructions such as “DO NOT COMMUNICATE WITH HIM IN ANY MANNER WHATSOEVER!” and then you call, text, email and send smoke signals and a fight ensues.)
You blame the messenger. (A lot of times attorneys have to deliver crummy news due to bad circumstances. It’s is not because we want you to suffer, but it is because that is the way it is.)
You want something for nothing. (You may well get what you pay for.)
You paid last year and think they owe you. (That was a year ago. See You want something for nothing.)
You call the office, leave a message, call the cell phone, leave a message, send 2 texts, send 1 email, and call the paralegal all within 3 minutes and it is NOT an emergency. (This is wholly unnecessary.)
Matthew Thompson is a Mississippi Divorce attorney and knows a thing or two about unreasonable clients. If you identify with 2 or more of the above you may well be an Unreasonable Client, see your lawyer at their next available appointment for treatment.
Family law cases can be very difficult, some even dangerous. There is a saying that Criminal Law cases, after the arrest, involve bad people who are acting their best, and Family Law cases involve good people who are acting their worst. So when does acting their worst warrant calling the Police/911?
Any Physical Abuse. This is a crime. Get yourself and the kids, get out of there and call 911. You will not lose the house just because you “left.” It’s not kidnapping to take the kids to safety. Do NOT tolerate Domestic Violence!
Believed Threats. If your life is threatened, or serious bodily harm is threatened and you believe it, leave and call the police. Now, sometimes people say stupid things and if he says something, but you don’t believe it or it’s sarcastic or a failed attempt at humor don’t try to make it more than it is.
Trespassing and Refusal to Leave. If you have an Order that gives you exclusive use of the house and he comes over and refuses to leave the police will make him or he can be arrested for trespass. If it is someone else’s property and she is asked to leave, whether there is an Order or not, and refuses that is trespass. Make sure you have a copy of the Order if you intend to seek that it be enforced.
Criminal Activity.Drunk driving, illegal drug use, activity that is dangerous to others.
Serious Injury/Emergencies.In the event of serious injury, whether intentional, accident or otherwise,do NOT hesitate because of “how it would look.” Call 911.
Law enforcement, generally, does not like getting involved in civil, domestic situations. They much prefer the lawyers and judges to sort these things out. And, when there is no Order, or no clear violation, they have to tread very carefully when they do get involved. Because of this, they look to who is the instigator, who is causing the trouble, and try to get that person to leave, to calm down, to end the dispute. It is also somewhat common for law enforcement to threaten the arrest of both parties when it’s a domestic call with no clear instigator.
One thing to be careful of is false calling, this can backfire. Calling when there is not a legitimate reason to does not “build” a strong case for divorce. However, if there is any abuse, or a genuine threat, ALWAYS err on the side of caution and call the Police/911. In a true emergency do NOT call your lawyer first, call 911.
Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and if you find yourself in an Emergency call 911.