Your job as the parent is to do what is best for your child every time.
It can be hard to show grace to a spouse/other parent who does not deserve, but most of the time it is what is best for your child.
It does not mean that they are not held accountable, but what it does mean, is that short of placing your child in true danger, you encourage and promote a relationship between the child and the other parent.
Just not saying hateful things (like they do ) is not enough. Your child is half of them and half of you. If you convince them that the other parent is ALL bad, then you are telling your child that half of their identity is bad.
Exceptions, of course, are made for abuse and dangerous conduct, but those are the exceptions, not the rule.
Matthew Thompson is a Child Custody lawyer in Mississippi and thinks the Family Law world needs a little more love.