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Love your Child MORE than you Hate the Other Parent…

08/30/2019 BowTieLawyer Leave a comment

Your job as the parent is to do what is best for your child every time.

It can be hard to show grace to a spouse/other parent who does not deserve, but most of the time it is what is best for your child.

It does not mean that they are not held accountable, but what it does mean, is that short of placing your child in true danger, you encourage and promote a relationship between the child and the other parent.

Just not saying hateful things (like they do ) is not enough. Your child is half of them and half of you. If you convince them that the other parent is ALL bad, then you are telling your child that half of their identity is bad.

Exceptions, of course, are made for abuse and dangerous conduct, but those are the exceptions, not the rule.

Matthew Thompson is a Child Custody lawyer in Mississippi and thinks the Family Law world needs a little more love.

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Child Custody, Divorce, General Legal, Marriage, Opinion

Friends Don’t Let Friends Post on the Internet

11/18/2015 BowTieLawyer Leave a comment

We’ve blogged on not posting ignorant or incriminating things on FaceBook. (5 FaceBook Don’ts)&(5 More Don’ts).

The prior posts really dealt with you avoiding bad behavior, or at least bragging about it publicly. But, your obligation to be smart should not stop there.

You should not let your friends post hate or trash either. Using a surrogate does not insulate you from the potential carnage. That well-meaning friend being critical of your ex, or their new squeeze, is a direct reflection of your inner thoughts, even if it’s not!

Ask that your well-meaning friend refrain. That they not post about how evil, vile and repulsive your ex is, about how ugly, inside and out, his/her new soul mate is. They can think it, you will probably even talk about it over Mexican and margaritas, but don’t post it on the Internet.

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and uses FaceBook and other social media sites a lot more than you probably realize.

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Divorce, General Legal, Marriage

How to Know if Your (Ex) In-Laws HATE You.

10/06/2014 BowTieLawyer Leave a comment

Divorces don’t only end a marriage. A lot of times they end friendships and extended family connections.

Once that divorce is final sometimes a clean break is best. Sometimes a clean break is not possible…So, how do you know if your former in-laws hate, hate, hate you?

They sue you!

In one case, shortly after an acrimonious divorce was final, the ex-husband received a notice from the bank that his account was being garnished. The call came quickly.

Q: “What is this? How can I be Garnished?”

A: “Someone has a Judgment against you…”

Legal research revealed a law suit in Justice Court. A Default Judgment was entered, which included a money judgment. A Writ of Garnishment was also filed. All of this done, by the way, with NO notice or service on the Defendant.

Who was the intrepid filer, you ask? The now ex father-in-law. He was mad, to say the least.

As justice requires, these actions were set aside. A Motion to Set Aside and Stay of Garnishment were filed. Notice and actual process was served on the opposing party, the proper way. It was proven that the ex father-in-law provided an address he knew to be incorrect for the now ex son-in-law resulting in no notice or process. As there was no Process – meaning actual notice or service, the judgment was void and set aside for a do-over.

What was the issue? A missed vacation and a non-refunded deposit. Yes. The ex father-in-law sued for the return of a vacation deposit that he planned, he paid, that he owed, that he decided not to take because the “family blew up.”

So, can you sue your ex in-law for a missed vacation? Yes. Will you win? No. Should you? No. Does that make you a terrible person? Could be…

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce Attorney in Mississippi and suggests you not sue your family members, if you can help it.

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Divorce, General Legal, Opinion

Why Clients Hate Lawyers.

10/02/2014 BowTieLawyer 3 Comments

It can be a love-hate relationship.

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Nobody likes a lawyer until you need one. Then you love them, until you don’t. –Matthew Thompson

Clients hate lawyers for many reasons, but most commonly it is due to the following;

Poor Communication. Communication between lawyers and clients is the #1 complaint. Both, lawyers and clients, are busy. Sometimes its hard to communicate effectively and in a timely manner. This goes both ways and each needs to try to be responsive.
Poor Advice. Just because they are a lawyer does not mean they know everything. Sometimes lawyers get it wrong.
Don’t Do What They Say They Will. Procrastination or not capable of doing what needs to be done, when it needs to be done.
Charging for Everything. Every call, text, email and message, office appointment, and even when they are just thinking about your case.
Misleading About the Total Charges. This is why I hate billable hours. It’s almost always more than “you” think.
Hard Advice. This is different than poor advice. Hard advice is telling you what yo don’t want to hear, but need to hear. Sometimes lawyers are the messenger that gets shot (figuratively speaking, I hope).

Up next? Why Lawyers Hate Clients! Stay tuned.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law Attorney in Mississippi and tries not to do things to be hated, at least by his own clients…

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Divorce, General Legal, Marriage, Opinion

Want Unconditional Love? Get a Puppy.

07/12/2013 BowTieLawyer Leave a comment

A happy, healthy husband-wife relationship is a wonderful thing. Though some would argue, increasingly rare.

Due to various reasons that relationship can break down. Recently, I was inquiring about the reasons for the breakdown of a marriage and it came down to the feeling of the lack of unconditional love (UL).

Upon some additional questions I learned that UL, in this instance, meant something to the effect of, “I can do whatever I want, and you HAVE to love me…” Or stated in less offensive terms, “while I may not always put you first, I NEED to always be put first.”

I thought that’s not really UL. Then I thought, how can a relationship on this Earth between a husband and a wife, or any relationship between consenting adults really be one based upon UL? If it really was UL, would that be a healthy relationship? Would the receiver of UL fully appreciate what they are getting? Would the giver of UL ever be satisfied?

UL is what a puppy gives. ALWAYS happy to see you. Always eager to please. Cannot wait to be with you again and cute as the dickens. But even puppies get tired and poop on the floor…

Want the closest thing to unconditional love? Get a puppy. Want a healthy relationship? It takes work, mutual companionship and a desire to make it last.

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Divorce, General Legal, Opinion

Don’t Hate.(At least not in public or a documentable fashion)

06/10/2013 BowTieLawyer 1 Comment

In family law it is easy to lose your cool. It is easy to react, to lash out and to tell that good-for-nothing so-and-so just what you think. But, don’t!

No good comes from telling him off. There is no use in demonstrating how crazy she is. She won’t change and if it’s coming from you it’s probably a dirty trick. At least she thinks so.

The urge to send that hateful text or email is strong, but you cannot take it back once you do. You figure, well he is a “SOB,” or she is “CRAZY!” But emailing, texting or screaming at the other party brings you down to their level. Sometimes in divorce the high road is lonely and not fun, but take it anyway. It serves your needs. And sometimes there is no high road, just lesser degrees of the low road.

This is tough advice to give and harder advice to take. But remember, every email and text is being reviewed, saved and printed. It is much easier to not send the hate than to try to explain to the judge why you sent 35 messages of what terrible a human being the other person is, while trying to argue that you are the reasonable one in the relationship.

Examples of what NOT to send;

“I H8 U!” “F#(% YOU”

“DIE!!!!” “I never LOVED U!!!”

“You can have everything.” “I don’t want nothing!!”

More on what not to do; 5 FaceBook Don’ts and 5 more FaceBook Don’ts.

So, who can you complain to? Your mother, lawyer, counselor or any of the three. No one else, though.

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and suggest that you NOT send that hate-filled message. It may come back to haunt you.

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You may also contact Matthew with your family law case, question or concern at (601) 850-8000 or Matthew@bowtielawyer.ms