I’m not talking about playing with your children. Too often I see adults playing games with the other parent’s time. It’s not a game. It’s not really even the other parent’s time. It’s the children’s.
It is also painful when the lawyer is playing games too. Advocating for your client is not making it as costly and long as possible. It’s not arguing over everything. It’s not agreeing to one thing and then doing another.
If this post sounds like you, it’s not too late to change. Be a decent parent. Be a decent lawyer. Be a decent human being. And if you are still going to play games, join a soccer team.
Matthew Thompson is a Family Lawyer and is mildly irritated by people sometimes.
Everyday I hear about issues concerning what to do and how to do it regarding child and parenting matters?
Can he come to the school program?
What happens if she’s late?
The best single piece of parenting advice is;
BE A REASONABLE PARENT ALL THE TIME!
Of course he can go to the school program. Almost anyone can go to the school program. It’s a safe bet that if I can go, he can go. (Unless there is a Court Order stating otherwise.) If she’s running 15 minutes late, wait 15 more minutes. Send a text or call. Ask why she’s late. She was late to everything you ever did in 12 plus years of marriage! Why would it be different now?
So, invite your ex to the next event for your child. Go out of your way to be cordial and at least not hostile. Your child wants them there. Tell yourself that you are being the “bigger” person, if you have to. It’s what your children need!
Matthew Thompson is a Family and Child Custody attorney in Mississippi reminding you that acting in your children’s best interests should be your #1 priority!
Oftentimes we think a new year is a new beginning, or at least it should be. But, alas, people will constantly disappoint you…
More Bad Parenting:
Refusing to allow the other parent to SPEAK to the child. Literally interfering with phone calls, turning the phone off and lying about not knowing why they “don’t ever call.”
Calling when you know they are unavailable. Well, at least you called, right? We know when they are at work, or driving through the dead zone between here and Mobile. Call then, don’t leave a message.
Waiting until you find out the plans the other parent made and then making your own to conflict with them being able to pick-up or drop-off and still keep their plans. How clever.
The Other parent finding out the child is on an out-of-town trip with another family after the child has left. Pay no attention to Joint Legal custody requirements. It’s all about your convenience. It was a free trip. Last minute even. Who has the time to inform the other parent?
Not giving them gifts from the other parent. They took the time, effort and thought to provide a present and you forgot it in the trunk and, well, that’s not your problem…
Not listing the Other parent on school and medical forms. That will show them. They are not a “real” parent.