Category Archives: Child Custody

Churchill Wisdom; On Perseverance

Never, never, never give up.  

Sir Winston Churchill

I recently concluded a 3 year, 4-day, custody trial.  The matter began 3 years ago on an emergency basis, removing custody of a child from one parent, due to their conduct, and placing custody with the other parent.

The matter took three years because it was in two different Courts; Youth Court and Chancery Court.  There was a lawyer change about a year into the matter and it took some time to have the matter transferred from one Court to the other.

There were Orders regarding pyschological evaluations and parenting classes and requirements of completing those processes.  Also, the delay benefited the party that had emergency custody, so having it concluded sooner was not a huge priority.  It also took a long time to get to the trial setting. It was set months in advance but due to the Court docket being backed up it was not quick.  Also, when the matter was not finished on the day set for trial, you do not just go back the next day, you get another setting months down the road.

This, however, is by no means a standard time frame, but it does happen. During the three years both parties wavered on pursuing the matter to the end, on compromising and just giving up.  But, perseverance prevailed.  Justice prevailed and the Court ultimately ruled on Custody and what was in the best interest of the child.

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and can attest that perseverance can win the race.

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Happy Mother’s Day!

Mother’s are the most important influence in a child’s life.  A mom’s job is never done and frequently is under-appreciated,  overworked and underpaid, except maybe “fringe” benefits.

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The modern holiday of Mother’s Day was first celebrated in 1908, when Anna Jarvis held a memorial for her mother in West Virginia. Jarvis began a campaign to make “Mother’s Day” a recognized holiday in the United States. Officially Mother’s Day was first celebrated in 1914. This holiday was adopted by other countries and it is now celebrated all over the world.  – Wikipedia

Mother’s Day is also routinely addressed in Custody and Visitation schedules. Under most Orders, Mom gets Mother’s Day regardless of whose weekend it is and it can include either the day or the entire weekend. In the few instances where this is overlooked, I still encourage dad to allow mom this time to be with the children.

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and wishes all the Mothers in his life Happy Mother’s Day!

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War Stories; How NOT to testify (grandmother edition)

War Stories are the fun, awful, tough and unique occurrences that lawyers and parties in litigation get to experience and live to tell about it. At water coolers and break rooms throughout the world lawyers regale anyone who will listen about that time they…(this series will include a few of my own).

Facts: This was an initial Child Custody case, which means the Court must consider the Albright Factors. Dad had temporary custody due to prior child neglect allegations against mom. Mom was required to pay child support pursuant to this Order. Mom called her mother (Grandmother) to testify to corroborate that mom is good, dad is bad, and custody should be with mom.

On direct examination, that is when mom’s attorney was questioning grandmother, she did fine. She said mom was good, dad was bad for reasons including; he was not around and did not support the child, and that the child should be with mom.

On cross-examination, that is when I get to ask questions, the tone changed. From the jump Grandmother was defensive and combative. This was a mistake on her part. She should have stayed calm and exuded confidence, not anger. Even if she had to fake it.

Upon questioning about the neglect allegations grandmother downplayed them as a misunderstanding and had a story which completely excused mom’s conduct. The problem was there had already been 3 prior witnesses which contradicted this, one of whom was mom! Certainly they had to have had a discussion prior to court.

Next, grandmother took dad to task for “not supporting” the child, but her only “proof” was anecdotal. Nonetheless, she concluded he was no good because he was not supporting them and she knew this because mom told her so. Grandmother changed her tune about a parent being no good for not supporting the child however, once my questioning revealed mom had not paid child support in months, though ordered. It was different for some reason, but she could not be explain how.

Lastly, Grandmother had no real complaints about dad’s care-giving the last several months when he had custody and reluctantly admitted the child was doing well. She was also extremely evasive about mom’s new beau and that person’s involvement with the child. It was obvious she was trying to avoid giving that testimony.

Grandmother should not have testified. She added nothing and ended up undermining mom’s case. The only way to have known this would have been to thoroughly prepare her for direct and cross-examination and taking the time to view the case from both parties’ perspectives.

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and assesses your case from your perspective, as well as how the other side may approach it.

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Rocket Surgery? Designating Court Experts.

Expert witnesses are routinely used in Divorce cases.  Expert testimony covers a wide gamut of topics, including; Financial, such as appraisals or accounting,  Counseling, regarding fault grounds or custody, Medical, regarding diagnosis and/or treatment, Attorney Fees and other areas.

Rule 26 of the Mississippi Rules of Civil Procedure governs the procedures that litigants must follow in designating expert witnesses. “A party may through interrogatories require any other party to identify;”

  • Each person whom the other party expects to call as an expert witness at trial,

  • To state the subject matter on which the expert is expected to testify, and

  • To state the substance of the facts and opinions to which the expert expected to testify and

  • A summary of the grounds for each opinion. (MRCP 26 (A)(I)).

Further, “A party is under a duty seasonably to supplement that party’s response with respect to any question directly addressed to…the identity of each person expected to be called as an expert witness at trial, the subject matter on which the person is expected to testify, and the substance of the testimony.” (MRCP 26 (f)(1)(B)).

“In regard to matters relating to discovery, the trial court has considerable discretion.” Dawkins v. Redd Pest Control Co., 607 So.2d 1232, 1235 (Miss. 1992).

The Mississippi Court of Appeals has upheld the non-allowance of an expert, not properly disclosed, when the party intending to use the expert did not comply with the Rules of procedure.  In Mallet v. Carter, 803 So.2d 504 (Miss. App. 2002), the Plaintiff was prohibited from using an expert, and her case was ultimately dismissed, for dilatory designation of the experts and providing insufficient discovery related to the experts after the time in which to do so had expired.

Expert testimony can be critical to prove certain aspects, even in seemingly routine cases.  Make sure that you know who your experts are, why you are using them, what their opinions are , what those opinions are based upon AND disclose all of this information to the other side in a timely fashion.

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and frequently certifies witnesses as experts when necessary and has testified as an expert with regard to attorney fees.

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Guilty of Domestic Violence? = No Custody.

Divorce, family conflict and high emotion can sometimes lead to domestic violence, and sometimes domestic violence leads to high emotion, family conflict and divorce.  In addition to Domestic Violence being a crime, the perpetrator of family violence is presumed to be unfit for custody by law.

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Mississippi Law provides that a parent with a history of family violence shall not have custody.  MCA Section 93-5-24 (9) applies to “every proceeding where the custody of a child is in dispute.  The court may find a history of perpetrating family violence if the court finds, by a preponderance of the evidence, one (1) incident of family violence that has resulted in serious bodily injury to, or a pattern of family violence against, the party making the allegation or a family household member of either party. The court shall make written findings to document how and why the presumption was or was not triggered.  Miss. Code Ann. § 93-5-24 (9)(a)(1).

Once proof of family violence is offered and findings of family violence is made by the court, the following must be enforced by the Court.

  1. That “there shall be a rebuttable presumption that it is detrimental to the child and not in the best interest of the child to be placed in…physical custody of a parent who has a history of perpetrating family violence.”
  2. That the Court “shall make written findings to document…why the presumption was or was not triggered.
  3. That the presumption… be rebutted only by a preponderance of the evidence.
  4. That the six factors set forth in the statute be considered in determining whether the presumption was overcome. Miss. Code Ann. § 93-5-24 (9)(a)(iii)(1-6)  
    •  1.  Whether the perpetrator demonstrated that gaining custody …is in the best interest of the child because of the other parent’s absence, mental illness, substance abuse or such other circumstances;

    • 2.  Whether the perpetrator  completed a  treatment program;

    • 3.  Whether the perpetrator  completed  alcohol or drug abuse counseling;

    • 4.  Whether the perpetrator completed a parenting class;

    • 5.  If the perpetrator is on probation, whether he or she is restrained by order, and whether he  has complied with conditions; and

      6.  Whether the perpetrator has committed any further acts of domestic violence.

  5. That the Court “make written findings…why the presumption was or was not rebutted.”
  6.  That if both parents had a history of family violence, that custody “be awarded solely to the parent less likely to continue to perpetrate family violence.”
  7. That the Court “award visitationonly if the court finds that adequate provision for the safety of the child and the parent who is a victim can be made.”

It is error for the  Court to not address the statutory requirements upon a showing of family violence.  Lawrence v. Lawrence, 956 So.2d 251 (Miss. App. 2006).

It is clear that the statute applies to all child custody matters.  93-5-24 (9) applies to “every proceeding where the custody of a child is in dispute.” Id.   Additionally, the statute contains no requirement that a party ask for its application. Instead, the statute requires a mandatory duty to make findings as to whether or not the presumption was or was not triggered by the history of family violence.  Lawrence v. Lawrence, 956 So.2d 251 (Miss. App. 2006).

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and cautions clients that violence makes everything worse.

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A Fool for a Client…and Lawyer

“He who represents himself has a fool for a client.”

– Abraham Lincoln

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Oh, I have heard the stories that so-and-so did it and “won,” but that is the exception and not the rule.  Family law cases are hard to manage anyway, much more so if you don’t know what you are doing and if your judgment is clouded by high emotions.  I have seen many a Pro Se client just do awful.

Pro Se is the term the Courts use. It is Latin, meaning “for oneself.”

Lawyers have specific training and education regarding Court rules, rules of evidence and procedure.  Legal matters require things be done in a certain fashion or they are not valid.  Lawyers, usually, have experience with that particular area of the law and the Judge handling the matter.

I was involved in a case where the father, representing himself, sued the mother for interfering with his visitation, according to him.  He filed the suit, had her served and got a Court date.  Oops!  He did it wrong.  After filing, he should have gotten the Court date, had a summons issued (the correct summons by the way, a Rule 81 Summons in this instance) and then had the mother served.  Because he did it wrong it, he could not get the relief he was seeking and had to do it over.  In the meantime, mom met with her attorney, who asked the right questions.  It turns out dad was well behind on his child support and that the child and the father had a significant altercation which prompted the visits to stop.  Now, mom was armed with a lawyer, the law and filed against dad.  Ultimately, dad was held in contempt for non-payment of support.  He had to pay mom’s attorney fees and once the Judge heard about the altercation between the child and father, he ordered anger management counseling for dad and restricted visitation until dad re-petitioned the Court for visitation, after completing the counseling.  I like to think that if I had represented dad it would have been a different outcome or perhaps dad could have tried to resolve things without Court involvement. He should have had an attorney.  Click here for blogs on “Do I Need an Attorney?” & “How do I Find an Attorney?

Representing yourself is about the worst thing you can do in a divorce and custody case!

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and thinks it wise to see an attorney before you try to represent yourself, and to not do it even after that.

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Want a Happy Birthday?! Don’t Forget this “Holiday.”

Happy Birthday! is something we all look forward to sharing with our children.  But, is this day saved in your Divorce Agreement?

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I have previously blogged on the “forgotten holidays” (Halloween, labor day) and visitation schedules.  Birthdays are also often overlooked at times of divorce.  A Court’s standard visitation does not include, specifically, children’s birthdays so it is up to you, as an attorney or client, to remember the dates that matter.

In most of my Agreements the child’s birthday is specifically considered.  The following is an example.

The Father shall have custody of the minor child, at least, as the following times… “On the child’s birthday in odd-numbered years, from 8:00 a.m. until 2:00 p.m., and from 2:00 p.m. until 8:00 p.m. in even-numbered years, or all other times as mutually agreed upon by the parties.  The child shall be with the Mother on her birthday, including overnight, and with the Father on his birthday, including overnight.

Some alternative language is as follows;

The parents shall cooperate on each child’s birthday and shall plan to attend and pay for the child’s birthday party on an equal and reasonable basis.  However, if the parents are unable to agree, then notwithstanding which parent has physical custody on the child’s birthday, the parent not having physical custody of the child on her birthday shall have the opportunity to celebrate the birthday with that child from 4:00 p.m. until 7:00 p.m. on her birthday.

None of the above language is perfect for every circumstance and the fact that it must be included could be an indicator that mom and dad are not working together in the child’s best interest.  Also, parties can disagree on how to “cooperate” and what is “reasonable.” However, if you are dealing with a battle-axe it’s much better to have specific language and not need, than to need it and no have it.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law attorney and wishes Claire a happy, happy, happy birthday!

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Mediating Family Law; Resolving Your Case on Your Terms or Not.

I will be mediating a family law case, or rather agreeing to mediate a divorce, custody and property division case in the near future.  Mediation is a process whereby the parties agree to meet and attempt to resolve all issues prior to going to trial or without having to go to trial.

In a mediation the parties agree to hiring a third-party, typically another attorney or retired judge, to “hear” their  case.  Now the mediator is NOT the main authority.  In fact, the mediator cannot compel either of the parties to do or agree to anything. The mediator’s role is to point out the strengths and weaknesses of each sides case and to try to find common ground.  Sometimes the mediation is based on reason and logic and sometimes it is based on emotion or just some number someone is trying to reach. Almost anything can be mediated, though a rule of thumb is to not mediate when not prepared factually, legally (research wise), or with an abuser.

Pros:

  • The parties have the ultimate say in the final outcome.
  • Mediator gets to hear “everything,” so a party may have their “say.”
  • It is appeal proof. (unless fraud involved)
  • It can save fees and expenses.
  • It can reveal strengths and weaknesses in a case.
  • It works.  (approx 90% of the time)

Cons:

  • If there is no agreement there is no settlement.
  • Mediator’s opinion is non-binding.
  • It can add a layer of expense.
  • It can be frustrating.
  • It may not work.

Mediation is not a silver bullet to end litigation. It is just another implement in the tool box of resolving and litigating cases.

Is mediation right for you?  Almost any matter can be mediated. Speak to your attorney for more information.

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney and believes in the mediation process, though it may not be right in every situation.

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