Category Archives: Divorce

Your Ex-Soulmate is Gonna Hate!

While the scientific data is still out as to the existence of soulmates, one thing is for sure.  If you break up with your Soulmate for a much younger soul, she will hate you!

Upon Brinkley’s ex, the Piano Man himself, Billy Joel, getting married to his soulmate, Brinkley tweeted, “Congratulation[s] to the glowing bride and groom. And to my daughter Alexa, who has a wonderful friend in Alexis! Wishing the growing family every happiness!

Sounds sweet, right?

However, Alexa is the daughter of Brinkley and Joel. She is just four years younger than her new stepmother, hence their “friend”ship. Brinkley also noted the “growing family” hinting that perhaps the new Mrs. Joel is with child.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law Attorney in Mississippi and is developing a new theory on Soulmates. He advises his clients, their exes and their new flames to all just get along…

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Hot Water; Local Judge Accused of Perjury

Mississippi was recently determined to be the “most corrupt” state. It appears we may be deserving of that title…

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A post earlier this year told of the woe of Judge Joe Dale Walker and self-dealing from the bench which lead to his removal, conviction and incarceration.

In summary, Walker instructed a federal grand jury witness to destroy documents and then Walker lied to the FBI  about it.

Walker appointed a Conservator to solicit bids for the construction of a home for a ward, a litigant in his Court. Of the bids obtained, one was from the Judge’s nephew.  The Judge reviewed the bids in his office and instructed his nephew to increase his bid. Walker then transferred the case to the other Judge in the district for the limited purpose of accepting and approving the bid because of his nephew’s involvement. After the contract was awarded to Walker’s nephew, the case was transferred back to Walker by the second Judge.

This conduct lead to his demise. But, the story is not over…

The second Judge, David Shoemake, is now in the hot seat over the same allegations.

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Shoemake originally denied signing the Order approving the bid. The Mississippi Commission on Judicial Performance conducted an investigation into these allegations.

Concerning the order dated August 2, 2011, Shoemake testified at a Judicial Performance Show Cause Hearing, “I’ll say no, it’s not my signature. It looks like my signature. But I don’t think it’s my signature. I think it’s been transposed or cut and pasted or something.” (Ex. 4 at 30).    As the questioning continued concerning that order, Shoemake grew more insistent:

Q: So you maintain that this is not your signature on the order filed on August 9th and dated August 2nd?

A: Yes ma’am, that’s what I maintain. And, if you will notice, the order that has the date August 2nd, 2011, has been cut and pasted. It’s got three computer fonts on the front page. And it tries to cut in this language from the copy of the order that she sent me at 3:59 an [sic] August 2, 2011. So the order has obviously been messed with. Somebody has cut and pasted. (Ex. 4 at 37).

Shoemake then stated, “I have never in my life signed a second page with a signature blank on it and that’s all; as a lawyer doing deeds or accepting deeds or any kind of document. I would not have signed my name on a page with my signature blank alone, because it just throws into credibility the first page. You can change the two pages, make them interchangeable.

His testimony “changed” following a handwriting analysis. The Commission had a handwriting analysis conducted which determined that it was in fact Judge Shoemake’s signature on all Orders in controversy.

At a Formal Hearing before the Judicial Performance Commission, Shoemake admitted signing all of the orders in controversy.  He argued he was justified in signing the orders after transferring the matter back to Walker because that was customary, he “didn’t see anything wrong with it at that time . . . I have jurisdiction. And judges can accommodate one another in the same district.” (T. at 202). In fact, he never gave that a second thought: “don’t remember that even being an issue.” (T. at 341). He stated he only did it because he was told that was what Walker wanted.

 When  was asked at the Formal Hearing why, at the prior hearing, he did not simply explain that he signed the orders because he was told that was what Walker wanted, he stated, “I can’t answer that. I don’t know.” (T. at 346).

Based on the above, the Commission has recommended that Shoemake be removed from office, that he be fined the sum of $2,500 and ordered to pay the costs of these proceedings in the sum of $5,882.67.  This matter is now before the Mississippi Supreme Court.

The current allegations are limited to conduct on the bench and whether they are violations of the Cannons of Judicial Ethics.

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Know When to Walk Away

Kenny Rogers sang the tune,”You’ve got to know when to hold ’em,
Know when to fold ’em, Know when to walk away, And know when to run.”

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He was talking about Gambling, but it’s good advice for life in general and specifically for Family Law.

You would do well to know what are deal breakers in your relationship. Some issues can and should be dealt with, some issues (read arguments) aren’t worth having. Sometimes it’s best to “walk it off” and let cooler heads prevail and sometimes you just need to run. Run away. It’s too complicated, hard, and not good, ultimately for either party, or the kids, or the extended family.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law Attorney in Mississippi and encourages you to be like Kenny Rogers. No, don’t sing country music and have “some work” done in your later years. But, know what’s worth fighting for and when to walk away…

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Charlie Sheen- Law, Love and Winning

After a week of Flag and Marriage controversy, how about a topic even more controversial? Charlie Sheen.

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There could be a law school class; Charlie Sheen and the Law.

Charlie on Restraining Orders:

Great. I was already planning on staying 100 parsecs away from her.” (A parsec is a unit of length equaling 3.26 light-years.)

Charlie on being “Bi-Polar:”

I’m bi-winning. I win here and I win there. Now what? If I’m bipolar, aren’t there moments where a guy like crashes in the corner like, ‘Oh my God, it’s all my mom’s fault!’ Shut up! Shut up! Stop! Move forward.

Charlie on suing CBS:

They’re trying to destroy my family, so I take great umbrage with that. And defeat is not an option. They picked a fight with a warlock.”

Charlie on why he is a “Winner:”

I’m sorry, man, but I’ve got magic. I’ve got poetry in my fingertips. Most of the time — and this includes naps — I’m an F-18, bro. And I will destroy you in the air. I will deploy my ordinance to the ground.

Charlie on Drugs:

I am on a drug. It’s called Charlie Sheen. It’s not available because if you try it once you will die. Your face will melt off and your children will weep over your exploded body. It’s too much.”

 

Quotes courtesy of Mr. Sheen and US Magazine.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law Attorney in Mississippi and has not met Charlie Sheen.

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Marriage- redefined

The U.S. Supreme Court has spoken. Restrictions as to who can marry based on Gender are Unconstitutional.

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Obergefell v. Hodges, as of today, a Landmark case in U.S. History has determined that States cannot restrict marriage to only persons of the opposite sex.

A summary of the analysis, held, in part:

“Four principles demonstrate that the [right to] marriage [applies] with equal force to same-sex couples.

 First…the right to personal choice regarding marriage is inherent in the concept of individual autonomy… marriage and liberty is why Loving invalidated interracial marriage bans under the Due Process Clause. See 388 U. S., at 12. Decisions about marriage are among the most intimate that an individual can make.  This is true for all persons, whatever their sexual orientation.

Second…the right to marry is fundamental because it supports a two-person union unlike any other in its importance to the committed individuals…Same-sex couples have the same right as opposite-sex couples to enjoy intimate association, a right extending beyond mere freedom from laws making same-sex intimacy a criminal offense. See Lawrence, supra, at 567.

Third…protecting the right to marry…safeguards children and families …and the related rights of child-rearing, procreation, and education. See, e.g., Pierce v. Society of Sisters, 268 U. S. 510. Without…marriage…children suffer the stigma of knowing their families are somehow lesser. …The marriage laws at issue thus harm and humiliate the children of same-sex couples. See Windsor, supra, at ___.

Fourth… marriage is a keystone of the Nation’s social order. See Maynard v. Hill, 125 U. S. 190, 211. States have contributed to the fundamental character of marriage by placing it at the center of many facets of the legal and social order. There is no difference between same and opposite-sex couples with respect to this principle… The limitation of marriage to opposite-sex couples may long have seemed natural and just, but its inconsistency with the central meaning of the fundamental right to marry is now manifest. Pp. 12–18. (3)

The right of same-sex couples to marry is also derived from the Fourteenth Amendment’s guarantee of equal protection.

Arguments that allowing same-sex couples to wed will harm marriage as an institution rests on a counterintuitive view of opposite-sex couples’ decisions about marriage and parenthood. ..the First Amendment ensures that religions, those who adhere to religious doctrines, and others have protection as they seek to teach the principles that are so fulfilling and so central to their lives and faiths. Pp. 23–27. (c)

The Fourteenth Amendment requires States to recognize same-sex marriages validly performed out of State. Since same-sex couples may now exercise the fundamental right to marry in all States, there is no lawful basis for a State to refuse to recognize a lawful same-sex marriage performed in another State on the ground of its same-sex character. Pp. 27–28.”

Commentary:

If you are otherwise eligible to marry, a restriction based purely on gender will not prevent you from marrying. Mississippi is getting more change than I think she cares to get, but same-gender marriage is now the law of the land. This is truly not a surprising result. 

Also, the third point is precedent to allow same-gender adoption.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law Attorney in Mississippi, admitted to practice before the U.S. Supreme Court, and predicts an increase in Family Law cases soon.

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The Lemon Lawyer; Signs of a Bad Lawyer

With apologies to the Lincoln Lawyer, beware of the Lemon Lawyer…

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Signs of the Lemon Lawyer:

  • When you Call the Office you Never get the Same Person Twice. Personnel turnover happens, but if it’s too frequent, it’s the boss and not the employees.
  • Higher Fee Tango.  You’re told one fee and it inexplicably balloons. Sometimes it is more involved than anticipated, however in that instance it can be explained.
  • Too Much Difficulty in Communicating.  With cell phone, text and email, responses should not be few and far between. (However, watch the volume of those communications. Don’t wear them out)
  • On-line Presence is a Different Area of Practice than What You are Hiring Them For.  Last week they were the “DUI Daddy” for the tri-county area and this week they specialize in Divorce.  This happens a lot. Lawyers think no matter what they can always do Wills and Divorces.  I’d get one that does what you need.
  • Practicing out of their Car. The Lincoln Lawyer was just chauffeured because he did not have a valid driver’s license, he had a law office.  If your attorney does not, where are you going to meet them?  The occasional out-of-office appointment is OK, but highly sensitive meetings need to be in a secure, private place.
  • When you tell other people who represents you they say, “Ohhhh

To some extent, all lawyers are guilty of these things on an occasional basis.  I know that my office has missed returning a call or an email. Sometimes, emergencies happen and that attorney is stuck in Court unexpectedly. It happens more than you think in Family Law. Sometimes, we just forget to call you back.  However, if the above issues happen too numerous to count, either get to the bottom of it or make a change.  Or, you may end up with a sour taste in your mouth.

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce Litigation Attorney in Mississippi and warns you to avoid the lemon.

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Don’t Talk too Much.

There is a saying that Confession is good for the Soul.  But, confession may not be good for your future.

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The desire to confess, to tell someone your secrets can be overwhelming, that is why lawyers, counselors and pastors/priests exist. These professionals are bound to keep your business your business. This is because these communications are protected by privilege; attorney-client, doctor-patient, and/or priest penitent.

That person you just met is not bound by anything. They can tell anyone they please and more importantly could be compelled to testify if legal proceedings were ever to be had. Even if you said something that was not true this person could say you said it.

Also, telling people your business is bad business.  You never know when that certain something comes back to bite you.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law Attorney in Mississippi and warns clients to not “tell-all” to non-privileged individuals. 

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FaceBook, the U.S. Supreme Court & Free Speech About your Ex

“Anthony Douglas Elonis, under the pseudonym ‘Tone Dougie,’ used the social networking Web site Facebook to post self-styled rap lyrics containing graphically violent language and imagery concerning his wife, co-workers, a kindergarten class, and state and federal law enforcement.” Elonis v. U.S.,  575 U.S. ___(June 1, 2015), quoting Slip Opinion. (**Caution, this post is longer than average and is incredible.**)

May 2010, Elonis’ wife of 7 years left him, taking their two children with her. Thereafter, Elonis began “listening to more violent music” and posting self-styled “rap” lyrics inspired by the music. Id.  Elonis changed the user name on his Facebook page from his actual name to a rap-style nom de plume, “Tone Dougie.” Id., at 249, 265.

The lyrics posted “included graphically violent language and imagery.”  He also interspersed  disclaimers that the lyrics were “fictitious,” with no intentional “resemblance to real persons.” Id., at 331, 329. Elonis described his writing as therapeutic.” Id., at 329.

“Elonis posted a photograph of himself and a co-worker at a Halloween event with Elonis  holding a toy knife against his co-worker’s neck. The caption Elonis wrote stated, “I wish.Id.

Elonis was fired for this posting and in response, posted a new entry: “Moles! Didn’t I tell y’all I had several? Y’all sayin’ I had access to keys for all the f***in’ gates. That I have sinister plans for all my friends and must have taken home a couple. Y’all think it’s too dark and foggy to secure your facility from a man as mad as me? You see, even without a paycheck, I’m still the main attraction. Whoever thought the Halloween Haunt could be so f***in’ scary?App. 332.

Shortly after he was fired, Elonis posted an adaptation of a satirical sketch that he and his wife had watched together. Id. In the “sketch” he is threatening his wife: “Hi, I’m Tone Elonis. Did you know that it’s illegal for me to say I want to kill my wife? . . . It’s one of the only sentences that I’m not allowed to say. . . . Now it was okay for me to say it right then because I was just telling you that it’s illegal for me to say I want to kill my wife. . . . Um, but what’s interesting is that it’s very illegal to say I really, really think someone out there should kill my wife. . . . But not illegal to say with a mortar launcher. Because that’s its own sentence. . . . I also found out that it’s incredibly illegal, extremely illegal to go on Facebook and say something like the best place to fire a mortar launcher at her house would be from the cornfield behind it because of easy access to a getaway road and you’d have a clear line of sight through the sun room. . . . Yet even more illegal to show an illustrated diagram. [diagram of the house]. . . .” Id., at 333.  The details about the home were accurate. Id., at 154.

Based on the above Elonis’ wife secured a Order of Protection. His response? “Fold up your [protection-from-abuse order] and put it in your pocket Is it thick enough to stop a bullet? Try to enforce an Order that was improperly granted in the first place Me thinks the Judge needs an education on true threat jurisprudence And prison time’ll add zeros to my settlement . . . And if worse comes to worse I’ve got enough explosives to take care of the State Police and the Sheriff ’s Department.Id., at 334. At the bottom of this post was a link to the Wikipedia article on “Freedom of speech.” Ibid.

Later,  Elonis posted “That’s it, I’ve had about enough I’m checking out and making a name for myself Enough elementary schools in a ten mile radius to initiate the most heinous school shooting ever imagined And hell hath no fury like a crazy man in a Kindergarten class The only question is . . . which one? Id., at 335.

Following this posting the FBI were notified and began monitoring Elonis and interviewed him. Following their visit, during which Elonis was polite but uncooperative, Elonis posted another entry on his Facebook page, called “Little Agent Lady.” “You know your s***’s ridiculous when you have the FBI knockin’ at yo’ door Little Agent lady stood so close Took all the strength I had not to turn the b**** ghost Pull my knife, flick my wrist, and slit her throat Leave her bleedin’ from her jugular in the arms of her partner [laughter] So the next time you knock, you best be serving a warrant And bring yo’ SWAT and an explosives expert while you’re at it Cause little did y’all know, I was strapped wit’ a bomb Why do you think it took me so long to get dressed with no shoes on? I was jus’ waitin’ for y’all to handcuff me and pat me down Touch the detonator in my pocket and we’re all goin’ [BOOM!] Are all the pieces comin’ together? S***, I’m just a crazy sociopath that gets off playin’ you stupid f***s like a fiddle And if y’all didn’t hear, I’m gonna be famous Cause I’m just an aspiring rapper who likes the attention who happens to be under investigation for terrorism cause y’all think I’m ready to turn the Valley into Fallujah But I ain’t gonna tell you which bridge is gonna fall into which river or road And if you really believe this s*** I’ll have some bridge rubble to sell you tomorrow [BOOM!][BOOM!][BOOM!]Id., at 336.

Elonis was convicted of violating Section 875(c), stating, an individual who “transmits in interstate or foreign commerce any communication containing any threat to kidnap any person or any threat to injure the person of another” guilty of a felony . 18 U. S. C. §875(c). He was sentenced to three years, eight months’ imprisonment and three years’ supervised release. Elonis appealed.

The U.S. Supreme Court reversed and remanded, holding in part, “that Elonis’s conviction was premised solely on how his posts would be viewed by a reasonable person, a standard feature of civil liability in tort law inconsistent with the conventional criminal conduct requirement of “awareness of some wrongdoing,” Staples, 511 U. S., at 606–607. This Court “ha[s] long been reluctant to infer that a negligence standard was intended in criminal statutes.” Rogers v. United States, 422 U. S. 35, 47 (Marshall, J., concurring). And the Government fails to show that the instructions in this case required more than a mental state of negligence. Hamling v. United States, 418 U. S. 87, distinguished. Section 875(c)’s mental state requirement is satisfied if the defendant transmits a communication for the purpose of issuing a threat or with knowledge that the communication will be viewed as a threat” and the Government failed to prove that Elonis intended to threaten or that his words would be viewed as a threat. Id. Slip Opinion.

Commentary:

The Court’s rationale primarily dealt with the standard that the Government had to prove and whether Elonis had to have the intent that his words be intended to be a threat or that he knew they would be taken as a threat. The Court was NOT concerned with how the recipients of the statements took them, nor was the Court concerned with the impact that the statements had on the person who were subject to the statements. When I first heard about this case, I thought a man was convicted for bad-mouthing his Ex on FaceBook.  This went well beyond that.  The Court’s reasoning was on the intent of the person making the comments and the standard that must be applied for Criminal penalties to apply.  Sometimes the Courts, out of an abundance of caution, make nonsensical decisions. The case was not about Free Speech. The case was whether it could be proven that Elonis intended a threat or knew it would be taken as a threat.  I think he intended it to be taken as a threat.

Matthew Thompson is a Domestic Relations Attorney in Mississippi, admitted to practice in the U.S. Supreme Court, and regardless of the Elonis decision advises that you not bad-mouth your ex on FaceBook whether you mean it or not.

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