Happy Anniversary; The Secret to Happily Ever After!

Anniversary–  (noun) an·ni·ver·sa·ry; a date that is remembered or celebrated because a special or notable event occurred on that date in a previous year.

The critical part of that definition is a date that is remembered. The funny part is that it is NOT hard to remember, but it is EASY to forget.

There is no secret to achieving Happily Ever After, either, by the way.  It takes work, commitment, faith, stick-to-it-ness, and even some luck.

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce attorney and has practiced Family law for a decade and reminds you Don’t Forget Those Anniversaries.

Happy Anniversary!

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Indicators of Abuse.

Regrettably, in family law instances of child abuse are ever-present. The Mississippi Department of Human services, along with law enforcement and the Courts are tasked with dealing with these critical circumstances.

The following are instances and indicators of abuse.

Emotional/Verbal Abuse is anything said or done that is hurtful or threatening to a child and is the most difficult form of maltreatment to identify:

  • Name calling; “You’re stupid.”
  • Belittling; “I wish you were never born.”
  • Destroying child’s possessions or harming pets.
  • Threatens to harm child or people they care about; “I’m going to choke you,” or “I’ll hurt your sister.”
  • Locking a child in a closet or box.
  • Rejecting a child.
  • Isolating a child.

Sexual Abuse is any inappropriate touching by a friend, family member, anyone having on-going contact and/or a stranger, such as:

  • Touching a child’s genital area.
  • Any type of penetration of a child.
  • Allowing a child to view or participate in pornography.
  • Prostitution, selling your child for money, drugs, etc.
  • Forcing a child to perform oral sex acts.
  • Masturbating in front of a child.
  • Having sex in front of a child.
  • Touching a Child’s genital area.

Physical Abuse is any type of contact that results in bodily harm such as bruising, abrasions, broken bones, internal injuries, burning, missing teeth and skeletal injuries:

  • Hitting or slapping a child with an extension cord, hands, belts, fists, broom handles, brushes, etc.
  • Putting child into hot water.
  • Cutting the child with a knife or any other sharp object.
  • Shaking or twisting arms or legs, yanking a child by the arm.
  • Putting tape over a child’s mouth.
  • Tying a child up with rope or cord.
  • Throwing a child across a room or down the stairs.

Neglect means not meeting the basic needs of the child and is the most common form of maltreatment.

  • Medical – not giving a child life-sustaining medicines, over medicating, not obtaining special treatment devices deemed necessary by a physician.
  • Supervision – leaving child/children unattended and leaving child/children in the care of other children too young to protect them (depending upon the maturity of the child).
  • Clothing and good hygiene – dressing children inadequately for weather, persistent skin disorders resulting from improper hygiene.
  • Nutrition – lack of sufficient quantity or quality of food, letting a child consistently complain of hunger and allowing the child to rummage for food.
  • Shelter – having structurally unsafe housing, inadequate heating, and unsanitary housing conditions.

Call 800-222-8000 or 601-432-4570 to report abuse, neglect or exploitation of a child in Mississippi.

Reports can also be made online at https://www.msabusehotline.mdhs.ms.gov

Division of Family & Children’s Services
800-345-6347 | 601-359-4999

Matthew Thompson is a Child Custody Attorney in Mississippi.

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Just One Simple Question…

Just one simple question…

What a lawyer says matters. Not that it’s more important than what your Doctor or Pastor says, but if a lawyer is wrong you and he/she may get in trouble. Lots of trouble.

Often I am asked “Can you answer just one simple question?” The problem is the knowledge and information necessary makes neither simple nor just one question.  For example, “Will I have to pay Alimony?”

To Answer that with even a remote chance of “getting it right,” one needs to know;

  • What do you do?
  • What does your spouse do?
  • Respective incomes?
  • Earning Capacities?
  • Education?
  • How long since you’ve last worked?
  • How long since she’s last worked?
  • Are there minor children in the home?
  • What age?
  • How long have you been married?
  • Marital fault?
  • How much is the marital estate worth?
  • Is it liquid?
  • How much is the separate estate worth?
  • What else is the spouse receiving?

Just one simple question…

Matthew Thompson is a Domestic Relations Attorney in Mississippi and reminds you that Mississippi is indeed an “Alimony state.”

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What is My Stuff Worth? (Divorce-Garage-Sale)

Valuing your stuff in a divorce can be a pain. Everything you have is not worth much compared to what that jerk took. Well, except for the house, the car, the jewelry, etc…

  
All assets owned by parties in a divorce action are to be valued. Even disregarding the marital versus non-marital arguments, a value for every asset is necessary for the Court to consider equitable distribution, how to divide your stuff.

Mississippi case law provides that a Court shall address certain factors when determining the equitable division of the assets owned by the parties involved in a divorce action. A lineage of cases including; Cheatham, 537 So.2d at 438., Haney III, 907 So.2d at 954. , and Ferguson v. Ferguson, 639 So.2d 921 (Miss. 1994) give factors for the Court to evaluate when determining the division of assets. The Ferguson factors should be applied in all appropriate situations, including;

#3. The market value and the emotional value of the assets subject to distribution.
#4. The value of assets not ordinarily, absent equitable factors to the contrary, subject to such distribution, such as [non-marital assets].

The Court has held that an owner can express an opinion about the value of something they own. So you can say what you think it’s worth, however an appraisal would remove most of the uncertainty.

Everything needs to be valued and be careful of overvaluing his items and undervaluing yours. It’s been done before.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law Attorney in Mississippi and reminds you that sometimes one man’s junk is another man’s junk, too. 

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Why Court Takes So Long!

“We’ll just let the Judge decide!”  famous last words…

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Court can take a while for a myriad of reasons.

From filing and just getting a Court date, which could be 3 months to 13 months in the future, to finding and serving the Defendant with proper process, can take longer than expected.

A mistake in not attaching the correct summons, having the incorrect date or time or not properly signing the papers can all lead to delay.

The Judge’s schedule can cause delay. The trial from yesterday may bump you. An Emergency in another matter will bump you. A Commitment, Domestic Violence matter or even one that will be “real quick” can bump you.

Slow witnesses, attorneys that ask a lot of questions, even pointless questions cause delay. Unavailable experts, extra long lunch breaks and multiple recesses add to the length. 

Injuries, illnesses and hospital visits delay trials. Also, if you don’t finish in the time allotted, don’t assume you will bump tomorrow’s trial, because you might not!

Not to mention CONTINUANCES.

Even when the trial is over your case may not be. The Court has up to 6 months to Rule on your matter.

Court can take longer than it should and once you find yourself in contested litigation you may well not have a choice but to go along for the ride.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law Attorney in Mississippi and knows that the Wheels of Justice Can Turn Slow. 

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Mississippi Bar Convention; Lawyers, Judges & Court Personnel, Oh My

The Mississippi Bar Convention is the annual meeting  of the  State Bar (of which all practicing lawyers in Mississippi are members) and an opportunity for Lawyers to earn Continuing Legal Education hours.

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Great Presentation by Randy Kessler of Atlanta to the MS Bar Family Law Section. You know him from Real Housewives of Atlanta and Nancy Grace! Great guy too!

The Bar’s mission is to protect the public by promoting competency, professionalism and ethics in the practice of law and the judicial system.  Membership in the Mississippi Bar is compulsory for all practicing lawyers in Mississippi.

The Bar Convention is a time where lawyers, judges and Court personnel meet, greet, learn and socialize in a relaxed atmosphere. The various practice areas have presentations, seminars and speakers to talk about the recent trends and hot issues.  The Bar and various Sections and Committees install their new officers, as the gable is passed.

Legal Pioneers, professionals and those with distinguished achievements are honored and recognized.

Cham Trotter receiving the Ole Miss Law Alumni of the Year at the Mississippi Bar Convention.

It’s fun for the family too!

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Matthew Thompson is proud to be a Family Law Attorney in Mississippi and a member of the Mississippi Bar.

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Take Care of What You Have!

What should be your life’s mission? This is often asked and has lead to much angst. But life’s real mission is to take care of what you have. 

  
So what does that mean? Take care of yourself; your body, mind and spirit. Take care of your family; your spouse, children and relatives. Take care of your property; your house, cars and stuff. Take care of your financial well being; your job, your assets and debts. 

A great example is when someone has a great house and doesn’t take care of it. This is most people’s single biggest asset, but when you ignore needed maintenance, delay routine upkeep and attempt to hide issues rather than have them repaired properly, you are ultimately only hurting yourself. Paying a little along the way prevents you from paying a lot later. 

Great advice for relationships too. Investing along the way. Taking your time, getting to know one another and doing routine maintenance will help avoid paying a lot later; like a visit to my office. 

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law Attorney in Mississippi and hopes you don’t have to call him, but if you do, please do. 

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Why Do YOU Want to Be a Judge? Kelly Williams Candidate for Madison County Justice Court Judge on Why She Should be YOUR Next Judge

Election season is in the air! But how do you know who to vote for? One way is to meet the candidate and then ask them why are they Running for Office.

Kelly for Judge

WHY I’M RUNNING…

As I continue down the campaign trail, one of the questions that I’m asked frequently is: “Why should I vote for you?” So I wanted to take a minute and tell everybody why I’m running for Madison County Justice Court Judge, District 3. There are actually a couple of reasons why I think I’m well-suited for the position. Like I said, some people already know and if you’ve already heard it, then please just bear with me.

The first reason is that I feel strongly that Justice Court Judges should be lawyers. While the law doesn’t require this, I think it is important that Justice Court Judges have a fundamental understanding of due process. This is certainly not to suggest that a law degree is needed to read a statute or law, but being a judge is much more than reading a statute. In addition to being a lawyer, I believe a Justice Court Judge-and all judges for that matter-have to have common sense. This is an absolute must in Justice Court in particular, because more people will find themselves in Justice Court than any other court in our Judicial system and many, if not most, will find themselves unrepresented. This is because of the relatively low civil jurisdiction, being that Justice Court handles civil matters not to exceed more than about $3500 and generally speaking deals with misdemeanors to include DUI 1st and 2nd, traffic citations and bond hearings.

For example, let’s say I’m sued for $3500 and I go to a lawyer to hire them to represent me. Well, in many cases, that lawyer is going to charge me more than $3500, so that’s a no brainer. I’m certainly not going to do that, so I’m likely going to go to court on my own without a lawyer. The Plaintiff will probably also not be represented, because in Justice Court to start your case you need only to initiate some paperwork, such as an affidavit, and the Clerks are good at guiding people through that process. This is rightly so since Justice Court is still the people’s court. So now we have two parties, neither of whom is represented by lawyers. If you throw a judge into that mix who is not a lawyer, then you have problems. On the other side of that coin, that need for knowledge and understanding of due process is matched by a need for common sense. There must be common sense application of the law. Without both of these, you end up with bad decisions that affect people’s lives.

The second reason is a little closer to home for me. As some of you know, my family has a long history of military support and service. My grandfather served in WWI and all three of my uncles served in WWII, one of whom was killed shortly before the war ended and remains buried in a memorial cemetery over seas. My father was Air Force and flew in Viet Nam and later served in the Air Guard. My husband served during the Gulf War and was stationed on the USS Abraham Lincoln and my mother, who is a nurse, retired from the Army National Guard as a full-bird Colonel. I will never be able to compare to that kind of service. Those in my family who’ve come before me contributed to our way of life in a way to which my contributions will not compare. My contributions to this community and country will, in large part, come in how I raise my children, my charitable contributions and how I use my education, experience and skill set. The last of these I believe make me the best-suited candidate for Madison County Justice Court Judge. Finally, I do have judicial experience. For the last five years I have presided over abuse and neglect adjudications and Delinquency proceedings.

If you’re still reading, I thank you for hanging in there. I know this is not the most interesting post, but if I’m asking for your vote, I think it’s important for you to know why I’m running.

I want to thank everyone for their support. I can’t express how much it means to me. We’re out of t-shirts, but ordering more and we’ve got more signs coming in today. Please let me know if you’d like either and visit www.kellywilliamsforjudge.com to get involved. Please get out and vote on August 4th and please consider voting for me. I need your vote!

*Thompson Law Firm, pllc, is a Host for the Kelly Williams for Madison County Justice Court Judge campaign.

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