Child Custody, Divorce, Marriage, Opinion

Don’t Make Up Stuff About Your Ex.

01/09/2015 BowTieLawyer Leave a comment

It can be fun to “run them down the road” or “throw ’em under the bus,” figuratively speaking, of course.

They were, after-all, mostly responsible for the worst thing that happened to you as an adult. (Or the best, if you consider you no longer live with that cretin?)

But, why make stuff up about how bad they were? It serves no purpose. Recently, I heard the other side of the story from a friend of the ex. It was chock full of outrageous conduct, statements and actions- some criminal, that were just not true.

I thought, “Wow, if he was that bad I would have divorced him too!”

However, the conduct, statements and actions were not true. I know because I deposed the ex during the case. I asked, under oath, about all the dirty deeds. They were not mentioned.

People seem to have one of two predispositions. 1) We remember things better than they were, ie: childhood years, college days, or 2) We remember things much worse than they were, ie: “he never loved me.”

Making things up about your ex may be fun, but it serves no purpose and delays the “healing process.” It also may backfire down the road when you finally forgive and resume some semblance of a relationship.

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce Litigation Lawyer in Mississippi and believes the truth can set you free.

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Divorce, Marriage, Opinion

How Cold is Your Ex’s “Cold, Dark Soul?”

01/08/2015 BowTieLawyer Leave a comment

On the drive in to the office this morning I heard our local Meteorologist, Brad Maushart, say…

“It is colder than your Ex’s cold, dark soul…”

The official low was 13 degrees!

So, How Cold is Your Ex’s “Cold, Dark Soul?”

Approximately 14-15 degrees!

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce Lawyer in Jackson, Mississippi and can help bring the heat if your relationship is too cold to survive.

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Divorce, Marriage, Opinion

One Divorce, Two Divorce, Three Divorce…The Third Time is not the Charm, Even for a Billionaire

01/06/2015 BowTieLawyer 1 Comment

Elon Musk, Justine Musk and Talulah Riley, names you don’t know and probably don’t care about. Their marriages and divorces, however, provide a unique look into money, power, spaceships and electric cars.

Elon Musk is a billionaire, co-founder of PayPal, Tesla and SpaceX. He is three times divorced. Once from his “starter wife,” Justine Musk and twice from his “trophy wife” aka “soul mate” Talulah Riley.

Justine Musk is a writer, blogger and mother-of-five. Elon gave her an ultimatum some-years into their marriage. “Fix this today or I am divorcing you tomorrow…” Justine, as part of the divorce, sought “The house; alimony and child support; $6 million cash; 10 percent of his stock in Tesla; 5 percent of his stock in (ed: space transport company) SpaceX (and he retains all voting rights) and a Tesla Roadster (I really, really want one …).” A seemingly paltry sum for a billionaire.

Talulah Riley married Elon twice. Once in 2010, approximately ten minutes after his first divorce and again in 2013. Elon and Talulah divorced in 2012, and Talulah received an estimated $4.2 million and a year or so thereafter their romance rekindled. It was short-lived however, as Elon filed for divorce in December of 2014. This time Talulah is looking at a reported $16 million dollar settlement.

So, what do we learn from this? No amount of money guarantees a happy marriage. One should never use the terms “starter wife” or “trophy wife.” Neither Spaceships nor Electric cars are the secret to a healthy relationship.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law Attorney in Mississippi and can help guide the division of spaceships and electric cars in your next divorce.

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Crime, Divorce, Property Division

Changing the Locks!

01/05/2015 BowTieLawyer Leave a comment

Can I Change the Locks?

The old ‘Can I change the locks?’ question is in the top 5 of divorce questions. Today you get an Answer.

Yes. You can change the locks if it’s your house. If you are purchasing the home, or leasing or renting the abode, apartment, condo or camping trailer you can change the locks. But, there’s more…

What if he changes the locks on me? You can let yourself in if it’s your house. If you are purchasing the home, or leasing or renting the abode, apartment, condo or camping trailer you can let yourself in.

What does ‘let yourself in‘ mean? Exactly as it sounds. If you have a copy of the deed or lease agreement a locksmith will let you in for a fee, or you can break the window and let yourself in.

You cannot break into your own house.*

So, I can change the locks, but it may not keep him out? Correct.

How do I keep him out? Get a Court Order(a blog for another day).

(*Unless there is a Court Order awarding one party exclusive use, or if it is NOT your house.)

Matthew Thompson is a divorce attorney in Mississippi and knows a great locksmith.

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Divorce

When to FIRE Your Attorney.

01/01/2015 BowTieLawyer Leave a comment

You’re Fired!

Start the New Year with a bang!
Firing your attorney is sometimes a necessity. So how do you know when the time is right?

They won’t communicate with you. Communication, or lack there of, is the #1 complaint against attorneys.

Charges, charges, charges! Attorneys must make a living too, but if your representation equates to a blank check Watch Out!

They lie. If your attorney is lying to you it’s time for them to go.

They do nothing. Sometimes this could be strategy and may be the smart play, but you should know the strategy.

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and reminds you all attorneys are not equal.

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Bow Tie, Divorce, Marriage

Bah Humbug!

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Bow Tie, Divorce, Marriage

Merry Christmas!

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Divorce, Opinion

Curse Words and Other Names to Call a Divorce Lawyer. (*#%$#&…and some Hate)

12/17/2014 BowTieLawyer 1 Comment

About half of all the people I come into contact with end up hating me…

I don’t think this bothers me, though. It suits my personality. However, my goal is not to be hated, nor is my goal to destroy your family. Enough of you do that without any attorney’s help.

I have been cussed out, threatened and heckled for doing my job. A few include;

“Terrorist” (by opposing party)

“Weasly, little, S.O.B.” (by opposing counsel outside of Court)

“@#@$^&@$*!” (too harsh to print)

“Homeboy” (by opposing counsel, in Court!)

“Bow Lie Lawyer” (by opposing party…a year later, hmm…)

threatened to be “filleted” (like a fish, I suppose, by opposing Counsel- in a call to my home after hours- we’re friends now)

and just about every other “name” in the book

What have you been called at work?

(leave a comment)

I consider this a badge of honor, in case you are wondering. I would also encourage the would-be-litigants to direct their anger not at the attorneys, nor even the other spouse, but to use that anger to search inward and resolve to improve yourself and those relationships with others. At least that is what Dr. Phil would say. And if all of that is too hokey – be your worst self and see how that works for you.

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce Lawyer in Mississippi and encourages those of you that are name callers to Grow Up.

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