Oftentimes, we think a new year is a new beginning, or at least it should be, but your ex will continue to let you down and disappointment reigns supreme.
“Letting” the Child pick/dictate the schedule. Jr. doesn’t want to go with you. Every now and again, perhaps Jr. really doesn’t and there is good reason. However, always letting the child opt out is not good parenting.
Signing the Child up for activities to interfere with the other parent’s time. But, Jr. really wanted to play badminton. Sure, it’s every other weekend and Wednesdays, but that was just coincidence…
“Forgetting” to share milestones. Jr. was confirmed at church or Grandparent’s Day at school…well, they could have found out if they really wanted too…also, in Mississippi, the first hunting experience. Really.
Not listing the Other parent on school and medical forms. That will show them. They are not a “real” parent, instead list your new squeeze. The school won’t know.
A parent has a moral and legal duty to promote a healthy, affectionate relationship between the child and the other parent!
What? You justify your conduct by saying, “I am not bad-mouthing him.” But, just not bad-mouthing him is not enough. You have an affirmative duty to promote a good relationship. (With rare exceptions for the health and safety of the child.)
Encourage, promote and truly desire a good relationship between your child and the other parent. Your child will benefit!
Matthew Thompson is a Family Law & Divorce Attorney and reminds you that a child with two parents that get along and are involved is better than the alternative.
1. decomposing or decaying; putrid; tainted, foul, or bad-smelling.
2. corrupt or morally offensive.
3. wretchedly bad, unpleasant, or unsatisfactory;
miserable: a rotten piece of work; a rotten day at the office.
4. contemptible; despicable: a rotten little liar; a rotten trick.
Parenting is hard. Co-parenting even more-so especially with the one other person on the planet that you despise the most, but it MUST be done. Rotten parents, unfortunately, exist and some even thrive at their rottenness. Seldom, it seems, are they actually held accountable for their conduct.
What is Rotten parenting?
Bad mouthing the other parent to the child.
Bad mouthing the child.
Being unreasonable in your demands to spend time with the child.
Being unreasonable in the other parent’s requests for additional time.
Unreasonably interfering with the child’s schedule.
Creating an unreasonable schedule for the child to interfere with the other parent’s time.
Making false abuse allegations.
Perpetrating abuse against the child and/other parent.
Using finances to the detriment of the child.
So, what do you do as a “non-rotten” parent? You keep doing the right things. Every time. It’s what is best for your child. And when it’s bad enough, take action and follow it through.
Matthew Thompson is a Child Custody attorney and warns against rotten parenting.
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