Category Archives: Child Custody

Child Custody, Child Support, Divorce, Marriage, Opinion

Judges Love This – Making a Comeback; Turning Adversity into a Positive

12/01/2014 BowTieLawyer 3 Comments

I’m not going to go all Tony Robbins on you, but Judges love a comeback story.

Adversity is a part of life. Oftentimes it is self-inflicted. I see a lot of clients that do things that are against their own best interests and it is a safe bet that at the next hearing they will have to answer questions about it. However, just because you did some things you should not have does not mean you should give up and wallow.

I represented a client who was an alcoholic. This person would drink themselves into oblivion and was an abusive person under the influence. As expected it lead to trouble in the marriage and home-life and with work. It impacted every aspect of their life. He was sued and the wife sought temporary custody and sought to get temporary support. He was served and summoned to a court date. We showed up and the other attorney was expecting a fight.

We had a conference with the Judge and the other attorney told the Court all of the awful things my client does while under the influence. The Judge, so used to hearing two or three sides to every story, asked for my take. I advised the Judge my client had a serious problem with alcohol and when under the influence acted in an inappropriate and unjustified manner, however when sober was a great father, worker and person. That the real issue was addiction and that my client needed help.

The Judge and the other side were surprised by the candidness displayed. The Judge told a story of her own relative who struggled with alcohol abuse and that she wished he would have had the opportunity for help. The Judge stated that if he admitted a problem that she would assist in getting him help and would not hold it against him.

He was committed to an alcohol treatment program and his support obligations were held in abeyance pending completion. It was exactly what was needed.

You can turn negatives into positives, you just have to stop doing the negatives…

Matthew Thompson is a Mississippi Divorce Attorney and will try to help you turn adversity into advantage.

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Child Custody, Child Support, Divorce, Grandparent Visitation, Irreconcilable differences, Modifications, Visitation

DONATE NOW to the MVLP; Helping Low-Income Mississippians attain Lawyers

11/25/2014 BowTieLawyer Leave a comment

Low-income Mississippian’s have a definite need for legal services and lawyers and the Mississippi Volunteer Lawyers Project is working to make sure those Mississippian’s get the help they deserve. MVLP needs your help too.

: Click Here to DONATE Now.

Q: What is the MVLP?
The Mississippi Volunteer Lawyers Project, or “MVLP,” is a 501(c) (3) non-profit legal aid organization.

Q: What is the Mission of MVLP?
MVLP enables volunteer attorneys to provide equal access to justice for Mississippians of low-income and limited means through high quality pro bono legal assistance.

Q: What types of cases does MVLP handle?

Divorce
Child support contempt, child support modification, and visitation.
Emancipation
Simple wills
Adoption, guardianship, and conservatorships
Name change, birth certificate correction,
MVLP hosts legal clinics throughout Mississippi which are staffed by local volunteer attorneys and law students.

Q: How does MVLP work?
Qualified clients are matched with volunteer attorneys who will represent him/her on behalf of MVLP. MVLP staff periodically review the client’s case to ensure that the match is successful, to assess the progress of the case, and to record pro bono hours contributed by the volunteer attorney.

Q: How is MVLP funded?
MVLP receives funding from the Civil Legal Assistance Fund, the Mississippi Bar Foundation, Legal Services Corporation, special events and seminars, donations from law firms, other business and individuals like you. Over the past several years, MVLP’s funding from the Mississippi Bar Foundation and the Legal Services Corporation, in particular, has been substantially reduced because of the country’s current economic situation. MVLP anticipates additional cuts from both sources in 2015, making this year’s fundraising campaign especially critical.

Q: How will My Donation be used?
Annual campaign donations will help MVLP to do the following:
• Recruit more volunteer attorneys to provide much-needed legal services to the poor;
• Increase the number of legal clinics and public awareness workshops offered throughout Mississippi;
• Increase the number of training sessions to volunteers on the types of matters handled by MVLP;
• Provide financial support to clients who cannot afford filing fees and other court costs; and
• Allow the organization to actively engage in short- and long-term, strategic planning with a focus on ways to expand its capacity to reach more individuals in need.

Q: What are the fundraising levels?
Benefactor $10000
Sustainer $5000
Partner $2500
Advocate $1000
Patron $500
Friend of MVLP $250

Or any amount.

Q: How can I Donate?
A: Donate online through PayPal at www.mvlp.org/donate.

Mail your donation to MVLP at PO Box 1503, Jackson, MS 39215 or

Call MVLP at 601-960-9577 and a MVLP volunteer can pick up your donation.

Please make a Donation Now!

Matthew Thompson is a Mississippi Family Law Attorney, Board Member for the MVLP, a volunteer attorney for MVLP and has made his donation for the 2014 campaign and challenges you to help as you are able to this worthy cause.

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Child Custody, Child Support, Divorce, General Legal, Marriage

Mississippi: Same-Sex Marriage and the Rational Basis Argument

11/20/2014 BowTieLawyer 2 Comments

Any minute Mississippi will be in the national spotlight.

At issue are two pending Federal Court cases attempting to strike down the ban on Mississippi’s Constitutional restriction against same-sex marriage, and a state law prohibiting same-sex adoption. The arguments have been made and the matters are in the “bosom of the Court.”

The question that the Court is deciding is whether there is a “Rational Basis” for the State (Governmental entity) to restrict the rights of citizens eligible for marriage to one another.

The Rational Basis review tests whether a governmental action is a reasonable means to an end that may be legitimately pursued by the government. This test requires that the governmental action be “rationally related” to a “legitimate” government interest. Under this standard of review, the “legitimate interest” does not have to be the government’s actual interest. Rather, if the court can merely hypothesize a “legitimate” interest served by the challenged action, it will withstand the rational basis review.

During the arguments the Judge asked what is the State’s rational basis in preventing these persons from marrying and adopting. The State’s response was “responsible procreation.” Based on that response the Court’s ultimate task is to determine 1) is “responsible procreation” something the State has a legitimate interest in, and 2) are the State imposed restrictions rationally related to that goal.

A ruling should come swiftly and the early indications, based on the Judge’s questions and the reception of the arguments presented, are that Mississippi will be the next State to recognize and allow same-sex marriage.

Matthew Thompson is a Mississippi Family Law Attorney, Adjunct Professor of Law -Domestic Relations and is closely following these pending cases and the impact they will have on Mississippi Family Law.

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Child Custody, Child Support, Divorce, General Legal, Modifications, Opinion, Visitation

Court is Unpredictable.

11/18/2014 BowTieLawyer Leave a comment

Court. The true final frontier.

Court is where disputes that otherwise cannot get resolved get resolved. However, Court does not always go as planned. Witnesses freeze up and forget details that matter. Your client talks too much and argues with the other side. Or, your client cries uncontrollably and is hard to understand while testifying. The other party has spontaneous amnesia. The Judge has other cases and the other attorney has an emergency in the next Courtroom.

Even the best laid plans go awry. Court starts late and finishes early, for the day. Court runs long. Court is not fun and a “win” is hard to come by.

Avoid it if you can. Prepare like you can’t.

Matthew Thompson is a Mississippi Family Attorney.

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Child Custody, Divorce, General Legal, Marriage

Mississippi & Same Sex Marriage; The End or the Beginning?

11/13/2014 BowTieLawyer 3 Comments

Think about this question posed by Federal Court Judge, Carlton Reeves, yesterday:

“What is the state’s rational basis that same-sex couples can’t marry … and its prohibition of same-sex couples from adopting children when all a child wants is to be loved, and they don’t care by whom?”

At least two instances of persons challenging Mississippi’s ban on same-sex marriage and adoption are now pending before the Federal District Court. A number of Federal Circuit Courts have struck down similar state bans and the trend is growing.

The response to the Judge’s inquiry was “responsible procreation.” However the days of “having” to be married to procreate have gone out the window. Additionally, it has no bearing on infertile couples, elderly couples or even prisoners, all of whom still have the legal right to marry so long as it is a person of the opposite gender.

Mississippi’s ban, I predict, is the next to be struck down. There’s not a rational basis for gender discrimination when it comes to marriage. There are arguments on a religious basis and tradition, but neither of these arguments will carry the day, nor will responsible procreation. These cases and the Mississippi law really turn on same-gender arguments and whether there is a rational basis, the legal standard required, to place limitations on the rights of same-gender couples as opposed to purely sexual orientation arguments. Stay tuned.

Matthew Thompson is a Mississippi Family Law attorney, Adjunct Professor of Domestic relations, admitted to practice before the U.S. Supreme Court (pictured above) and predicting a change in Mississippi law very soon.

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Child Custody, Child Support, Crime, Opinion, Visitation

How NOT to Hire an Attorney.

11/11/2014 BowTieLawyer 1 Comment

Desperate times call for desperate measures, but don’t take things too far..

A recent Craigslist add was seeking to raise funds via a non-traditional manner. Organ sales. However, this is not your grandmother’s musical instrument. The ad stated, in part;

I am a healthy active 37yr old, 6′ tall white man of strong european bloodline. I am drug a disease free and have two healthy kidneys and all I have left to sell is one of them. I have been going through custody battles for the last 4 years and am flat tapped out of money and property left to sell. My son is my one true love and his mother wont be happy or stop lying until Im out of the picture and she is being helped by a devious liar of an attorney. I wont give up on my son and am willing to do what it takes to stand up for him. I have to give my attorney some money and this is all I can come up with. I am employed and have a job I love, but I need to lay down thousands of dollars at this point, attornies are not cheap. Please help. Call ****** ***-***-**** ALL EMAILS WILL BE DELETED. Thanks.

I do NOT know if the above is legit or not and I assume it is not. Sacrificing your health and potentially your life is not the way to “win” custody. Also, organ sales are illegal in the U.S. The National Organ Transplant Act (1984 Pub.L. 98–507), approved October 19, 1984 and amended in 1988 and 1990, outlawed the sale of human organs and provided for the establishment of the Task Force on Organ Transplantation; authorized the Department of Health and Human Services to make grants for the planning, establishment, and initial operation of qualified Organ Procurement Organizations (OPOs); and established the formation of the Organ Procurement and Transplantation Network and Scientific Registry of Transplant Recipients.

Don’t sell your organs to hire or pay for your attorney. There are other solutions if you are completely tapped-out, but this ain’t it. Read about options if you cannot afford an attorney here.

Matthew Thompson is a Mississippi Family Law attorney and cautions those in legal situations, not to make their circumstances worse.

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Child Custody, Crime, Divorce

How to Leave a Bad Situation.

11/06/2014 BowTieLawyer Leave a comment

It’s all to common that I encounter someone in an abusive relationship. The getting out is the hard part.

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It’s usually best to prepare to leave. If possible;

Make sure the Children are safe.
See a Lawyer.
Have some cash.
Get valuables, papers and irreplaceables.
Get out.

Sometimes it’s not possible to prepare.

Get Children
Get Out
Call the Police
IN this Order.

Domestic Violence is real, knows no class boundaries and happens.

Don’t accept it.

Matthew Thompson is a Chancery Court Attorney in Mississippi and advises victims of Domestic Violence to seek protection and press charges.

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Child Custody, Child Support, Divorce, General Legal, Marriage

Here Comes the Judge; Election Results

11/05/2014 BowTieLawyer Leave a comment

Mississippians elected some new Judges and re-hired some familiar ones. Of the contested elections here’s what we have so far.

Winners in Bold.

Chancery Court, District 11, Place 1 (Madison, Yazoo and Holmes)

This is a new Judge as Judge Goree is retiring.

Barbara Ann Bluntson 4384 46%
Robert G. Clark III 5148 54%

Chancery Court, District 8, Place 2 (The Coast)

C. Stephen Benvenutti 14,442 34%
Jennifer Schloegel (I) 28,577 66%

Chancery Court, District 8, Place 3 (The Coast)

Ronnie Cochran 17,089 45%
Sanford R. Steckler (I) 21,222 55%

Chancery Court, District 13, Place 1 (Covington, Jefferson Davis, Lawrence, Simpson & Smith)

This race was interesting as the incumbent, Shoemake, ran and won against Buffington in the last election – who was the Judge prior to Shoemake. Buffington sought to be re-hired, Shoemake held the seat.

David Shoemake (I) 12,103 55%
J. Larry Buffington 9,779 45%

Chancery Court, District 13, Place 2 (Covington, Jefferson Davis, Lawrence, Simpson & Smith)

Heading for a run-off between Martin and Burnham. This seat was vacated by Joe Dale Walker for Judicial misconduct.

Deborah Kennedy 5,376 26%
Gerald M. Martin 8,503 41%
Mary K. Burnham 6,645 32%

Chancery Court, District 16, Place 1 (The Coast)

Too close to call and are still counting affidavit ballots.

D. Neil Harris 17,222 50%
Paula S. Yancey 17,186 50%

Chancery Court, District 16, Place 3 (The Coast)

Fondren will be a new Chancery Judge and this race was interesting as the outgoing Judge, Chuck Bordis, withdrew from the race. There was gossip of soap opera issues between Bordis and Fondren. Interestingly, its exactly the type of matters Chancery Judge’s hear. Nothing better than real-life experience for preparation for the job.