Category Archives: Marriage

The Last Word: Mississippi, HB1523 and the icing on the cake.

 

It’s the law.  Mississippi HB1523 was signed into law on Tuesday morning by Governor Phil Bryant.  Afterwards he took to the airwaves to explain his reasons for doing so.

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This bill prevented “government from interfering with people of faith who are exercising their religious beliefs …in matters of marriage…[t]his bill does not create one action against any class or group of people. It doesn’t create a new action or a new defense of an action against those people.” Governor Bryant.  The Governor said it would not allow the discrimination of anyone.

The firestorm prior to, during and immediately after is still reverberating throughout the Country.  If you are in favor of this law, you do not care.

Travel to Mississippi has been banned by 4 states and 7 cities. If you are in favor of this law, you do not care.

CEOs and attorneys of major tech industries have expressed their disappointment in Mississippi, such as Microsoft, IBM and Salesforce. If you are in favor of this law, you do not care.

The legislators who wrote and proposed this law have been publicly listed.  One legislator who voted for it, two days later, his major tech corporation came out against it. Irony is like sweat in Mississippi. Ever present.

Passionate pleas and positions on FaceBook have been staked out. Though no one’s mind has ever been changed by a FaceBook post it provides a barometer of public sentiment. Some of the posts are absurd, irreverent and wrong. One in particular, by a lawyer, stated conclusively the law was constitutional, but to claim so you first had to set aside the finding that there is a fundamental right to marriage.  Complete nonsense. That fact is no longer up for debate.

The debate essentially centers around at least two competing interests.  Those in favor of the law – state that a small business owner, hardworking, toiling and of strong Christian conviction should not lose their business and livelihood due to getting sued for not baking a cake for a gay wedding. Those opposed to the law – state that this law affords no protections to a class in need of protection. The First Amendment prohibits the federal government from making a law “respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof.” This provision was later expanded to state and local governments, through the Incorporation of the Fourteenth Amendment.

This state law demands the respecting of an establishment of religion. It specifically allows state employees to discriminate against other citizens based upon a “sincerely held religious belief” or “moral conviction.” This means that the State employee whose job is to issue marriage licenses can refuse because they do not approve of your proposed spouse.

The intent is to prevent same-sex marriage, but it also prevents persons who were previously divorced from being married, persons pregnant out-of-wedlock who seek to be married, those that have had a child out of wedlock, and those having sex out of wedlock from getting married. These facts, by the way, are not an interpretation. It appears that most of the supporters of the law either don’t know how far it goes or don’t care to discuss the fact it demands the respecting of an establishment of religion by the State.

Interestingly, there has not been a reported instance of a small business in the State of Mississippi being sued or facing any consequences for refusing service to same-sex persons prior to this law. The Oregon case where a baker had a money judgment entered against him was due to the admitted violation of an Oregon State law and aggravating factors, such as the baker published the Complaintant’s name, home address and personal phone number on the internet. FaceBook no less. The money damages were for violating Oregon State law and the emotional distress that accompanied the intended private complaint being publicly posted.

One local Mississippi baker, Mitchell Moore of Cambell’s Bakery, whose interview with NPR went viral, stated, “I don’t think that there is such a thing as a deeply held religious belief that you should not serve people. There is no sincerely held religious belief to think that I am better than other people – to think that my sin is different than other people. And so I am a deeply Christian man, and those go counter to my belief system.Mitchell Moore 4/6/16 interview with NPR.

With respect to the Governor’s comments, that this law prevents “government from interfering with people of faith who are exercising their religious beliefs … in matters of marriage.” It actually allows the government to interfere. 

“It does not create one action against any class or group of people”  It specifically allows a state employee’s subjective belief to deny another citizen a right afforded by the U.S. Constitution and contradictory State Law.  

“It would not allow the discrimination of anyone.” It specifically allows for discrimination and actually protects the person doing the discrimination under the color of law.

This law violates the 1st and 14th Amendments to the Constitution. It will be struck down. It allows the State to discriminate against you and/or someone you know and love, based upon a subjective belief that can change depending on who is seeking that State employee to do their job. Private businesses were not in need of protection, nor are State employees in need of protection from following the law that they have sworn to uphold.

Matthew Thompson is an Adjunct Professor at MC Law and a Divorce Attorney encouraging you to believe in your beliefs, but follow the law.

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Tip of the Day:”Hott Sexxy Gurl”

If your email or text signature ends with Emojis and
Hott Sexxy Gurl,” it’s time for a change.

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In a Family Law situation you will be judged. You will be judged by the Judge, as that is his/her job. You will be judged by the other party’s attorney, the Guardian Ad Litem, and, frankly, every other person you come into contact with.

If every email ends in “😉 Hott Sexxy Gurl,” you will be judged. Rightly or wrongly, you will be judged.

Change your email and text signatures. It could just be your first name. Also, get a new email address if it’s “CuteBunnyLove@aol.com” or “JuneLovesJohnny@gmail.com.” One, you do not want to be reminded that June no longer loves Johnny and, two, it’s no longer cute.

Will it really make a difference? One would hope not, but why leave it to chance. It’s an easy quick change and it cannot hurt your case.

Sincerely,

Matthew

Matthew Thompson is a Child Custody  Attorney in Mississippi and reminds you that you are being judged.

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Family Law Practice Areas…defined.

Family Law areas defined for you. There is a lot of legal terminology used everyday that we attorneys take for granted that everyone knows what they mean, but that is not always the case.  Here are a few of the major areas of family law, the simple explanations and links to more information.

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  • Divorce– the legal and final end to a marriage, a.k.a. “a conscious uncoupling”

Fault Process and “No-Fault” process.

  • Child Custody– determination of the custodian(s), visitation schedule and important decision making for a minor child.
  • Child Support– who pays, how much and for what.

Additional practice areas will be featured and defined throughout the year.

Matthew Thompson is a family law  attorney  and handles a variety of family law legal matters.

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Is My Marriage Valid? Who May Perform Ceremonies.

Paul McCartney, Bryan Cranston and Lady Gaga all have at least one thing in common…they can perform your marriage ceremony.

§ 93-1-17. By whom marriages may be solemnized

Any minister of the gospel ordained according to the rules of his church or society, in good standing; any Rabbi or other spiritual leader of any other religious body authorized under the rules of such religious body to solemnize rites of matrimony and being in good standing; any judge of the Supreme Court, Court of Appeals, circuit court, chancery court or county court may solemnize the rites of matrimony between any persons anywhere within this state who shall produce a license granted as herein directed. Justice court judges and members of the boards of supervisors may likewise solemnize the rites of matrimony within their respective counties. Any marriages performed by a mayor of a municipality prior to March 14, 1994 are valid provided such marriages satisfy the requirements of Section 93-1-18.

Musicians, movie stars, the Clergy and even regular folk may perform a marriage ceremony if ordained as a minister per his or her church or society.

Matthew Thompson is a  Family Law Attorney in Mississippi and reminds you to not enter into a marriage lightly, but do so for love, commitment and all the right reasons.

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Sometimes you Just Can’t Stay Friends…

“Lets just be friends.” 

We’re all adults here, right? Sure, we think we can remain friends even if our partnership didn’t work out, but sometimes you cannot stay friends. It’s too hard. It brings up the same issues that made the partnership not work.

It does not mean you have to be enemies. It does not mean you have a nemesis and have to hate each other, but staying friends can be hard.

Having and keeping a relationship is hard work. Both have to be committed to make it go. If one is not, it will not work.

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce and Family Law Attorney in Mississippi and reminds you that there are approximately 7 billion people on the planet. There are plenty of other persons that can be your friend.

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The Problem With People; Why Relying on Others for Your Happiness is Destined to Fail

Mankind is not perfect. Human beings constantly mess up, disappoint and let others down. This is a fact.Untitled

The #1 way to guaranty disappointment is to rely on someone else for your satisfaction.  The old adage “if you want something done right, do it yourself” is sage advice. If you find yourself constantly frustrated, irritated and aggrieved, stop and examine why.

Everyday, I see people let down by the very ones that promised to never let them down, contractually obligated to act right and they still do NOT. People will let you down.  Plan accordingly.

Matthew Thompson is a Mississippi Family Law Attorney and is not as cynical as you may think. However, relying on others for your own self-worth is a mistake and will lead to disappointment.

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SECRETS REVEALED! What REALLY Goes on in the Judge’s Chambers…

In every courtroom there is a mystery door, usually in the back corner.  Within this door are the secrets of Court…

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Litigants see the Judge and Lawyers disappear into this door. What seems like an eternity later, they emerge. Is one smiling? Does one have a scowl? What does it all mean?

These “chamber conferences” matter.  This is where the Judge hears what the case is about.  Each attorney is allowed a few minutes to tell their client’s side of the story, factually.  The Court hears legal arguments as to this issue and that issue.  In this conference the Judge may indicate what they are inclined to do.  This is actually a good thing, usually.

You find out whether or not you are fighting a losing battle, or whether there will even be a fight.

I had a case where the parties were fighting over “Legal Custody.” Legal custody is the decision making right regarding the child, such as education, medical and general welfare areas.  It’s extremely common for the parties to have Joint Legal Custody.  However, this particular lawyer and client would not agree to Joint Legal Custody.  It was about 2 minutes of discussion and the Judge said, “I almost always do Joint Legal Custody, unless there is a really good reason not to.”  There was not a good reason. That resolved the last remaining issue.

Sometimes the conferences go against you.  That causes questions of doubt between the lawyer and client. “Did my lawyer fight for my side?” You have to trust your lawyer and believe them. Also, they should advise you that the Judge indicated they were inclined to rule this way, but we can still have a hearing and we may be able to convince them otherwise. Probably not, but we may be able to. Ultimately, it is the client’s decision.

Usually, conferences help. It’s not underhanded nor improper if lawyers for both parties are participating.

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and usually welcomes Chamber Conferences.

Be the CAPTAIN of the Ship! (Or at least know how to be…)

“O’ Captain! My Captain!”

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Divorce, separation and break-ups are hard. They create situations where you have to do things that you normally did not have to do.

A recent fight over the boat brought this lesson home.  The parties had a nice boat.  Both wanted it. Stereotypes would have you to believe that the Husband was really the Captain and the Wife was posturing.  However, you would be wrong.  The wife could Captain that boat with the best of them.  Somewhat intrigued, I asked why would you Captain the boat.  The response was, “What if I did not have someone else to do it? I needed to know how...”

This is why you teach your kids how to change a flat, even in days of AAA and cell phones.

The best advice for today, “Be Your Own Captain!

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and can Captain the ship.

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