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Divorce, General Legal, Opinion

The #1 Reason Why Friends Vanish During Your Divorce.

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Sure, you may be losing a spouse, but you still have your friends, right?

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Divorces are hard, messy, time-consuming, energy and money draining. They impact not only your relationship with your spouse and children, but also your relationships with your friends.

Friends, all of a sudden, become witnesses.  That time that Jimmy drank too much at the BBQ and screamed and cursed at you.  Well, Paul witnessed the whole thing, thought Jimmy was out of line and even said as much. It made him wonder what Jimmy was like behind closed doors. But, given some time and the threat of a witness subpoena and Paul does not really “remember” exactly who said what.

When Maggie finds out she may be deposed about what you told her, she all of a sudden is an expert on hearsay and probably won’t be allowed to testify anyway…

The #1 reason on why friends vanish…THEY DO NOT WANT TO GET INVOLVED.

They do not want your problems to become their problems.  They do not want to “pick sides.”  They may be willing to be there for moral support, but when faced with Court, and cross examination – most would prefer not to.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law Attorney and reminds you that friends don’t let friends go into Court unprepared.

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Child Custody, Divorce

What you “Lose” in a Divorce.

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There’s an old joke about “What do you get if you play a Country music song backwards?“

“You get your wife back, your house back and your dog back.“

Similarly, there are things you potentially can “lose” in a divorce, such as;

  • Your Spouse.
  • Your home, possibly.
  • 1/2 of your retirement.
  • Unfettered access to your children.

There are also things you can potentially lose, which you may not even realize, such as;

  • Your Church, through the ability or comfort to continue attending.
  • Your Financial Security.
  • Your Friends – they either don’t want to get involved or they pick the other side…

Divorces can be messy, stressful, time consuming and costly and there are costs beyond time and finances.

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce Lawyer in Mississippi and advises you to consider the true costs of a divorce.

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You may also contact Matthew with your family law case, question or concern at 

(601) 850-8000 or Matthew@bowtielawyer.ms.

Child Custody, Divorce, General Legal, Marriage, Modifications, Opinion

Leaked Photos!

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The headlines have been abuzz of leaked celebrity photos in compromising positions, including Jennifer Lawrence and Kate Upton.

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However, celebrities aren’t the only targets of this type of conduct.  All too often these are threatened to be made public or sent to your mother by your former significant other when pitted against one another in a heated divorce or custody case.  You mean your soul-mate may turn on you?  In a second!

In addition to being embarrassing the pictures can influence a Court’s determination on contributions to the stability of the marriage and custody.  I am not saying you lose your kids because you took naughty photos, but depending on what they depict and whether they include illegal activity they may well impact your case and may also impact negotiations. You may settle for less than you should to prevent them from being used.

So, how do I keep these from being used against me? Easy, don’t allow them to exist in the first place.

What if they already do?  Tread carefully…

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce Lawyer in Mississippi and cautions you to NOT put yourself in compromising positions.

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(601) 850-8000 or Matthew@bowtielawyer.ms.

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So, Two Alligators Get a Divorce…

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Divorce, General Legal, Opinion

Don’t Want Things to Get Worse? Don’t do Something to Make Things Worse

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Want things to get worse? Do something worse!

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In family law it is often desired by a party to do something to get back at the other spouse.  The awful soon-to-be-ex did something first that was mean, so they want retribution and to do something meaner.  Usually this is a very bad idea. Two wrongs don’t make a right and it may well get you into trouble.

John and Jenifer were married. John had an affair with Jane. Jane was married to Jim.  So, guess what Jenifer did? She had an affair with Jim!  It did not make things better…

There’s a reported case where the soon-to-be-ex-husband threw all of the wife’s clothes in the driveway, squirted them with lighter fluid and lit them afire.  This conduct did not make things better.

Unless you want to end up in the War of Roses, stop doing things to make things worse.

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce Attorney in Mississippi and advises all of his clients to abstain from doing things to make things worse.

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Child Custody, Divorce, General Legal, Irreconcilable differences, Marriage, Opinion

Lying Eyes & Other Signs of Lies and the People That Tell Them.

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If you’ve ever been involved in a family law case then you’ve dealt with someone lying.

Clients, witnesses and even lawyers sometimes lie.  It could be a little white lie or a huge whopper. A former CIA officer said to watch out for these cues that you might be being lied to;

  • The Eyes Tell the Tale.  When asked a question the witness looks up, closes their eyes or looks down, especially on a question they should know.
  • Shielding the Face.  When speaking the person have their hand in front of their eyes or mouth.
  • Verbal Answer/Body Language Disagree.  The best example of this was when the deponent was asked if she was having an affair.  She said, “No,” but shook her head Yes.  When confronted with this she spilled the beans.
  • The Delayed Response.  Some things you should not have to think about.
  • Fidgeting.  Messing with your hair, your cup, or your pen when answering.
  • Nose Grows.  Think Pinocchio.  Very rare*

Want to know more about lies and the people that tell them?  Try these;

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce Attorney in Mississippi and advises you to NEVER lie while under oath.

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Bow Tie, Divorce, Food Related

A Glimpse in the Divorce Attorney’s Freezer

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Capital One features Vikings asking “What’s in your wallet?”  A question for a divorce attorney is “What’s in your freezer?”

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Currently in the Freezer.

  • a piece of the top tier of a Wedding cake – it was returned, upon request, from the Ex.
  • a bottle of Reyka Vodka – from Iceland
  • popsicles
  • ice

Formerly in the Freezer.

  • panties
  • other things not as exciting

Things to NOT put in the Freezer.

  • coke, which is forgotten
  • a body
  • hot food items

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce Lawyer in Mississippi and reminds you that sometimes you need to clean out the Freezer.

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Check the Thermostat! Bringing the Heat to a Divorce.

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A recent review on Amazon.com of a Wi-Fi enabled thermostat has the divorce world heating up!

A now ex-husband described his glee with a Honeywell Wi-Fi enabled thermostat, which allowed him to remotely control the a/c and heat in his former marital home.

“The device works flawlessly. You can adjust the temp from anywhere you have a Wi-Fi or cellular signal. Little did I know that my ex had found someone that had a bit more money than I did and decided to make other travel plans. Those plans included her no longer being my wife and finding a new travel partner (Carl, a banker). She took the house, the dog and a good chunk of my 401K, but didn’t mess with the wireless access point or the Wi-Fi enabled Honeywell thermostat…”

So, if you’re getting a divorce; change the locks, re-code the garage door opener, change beneficiaries and change your wi-fi password.

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce Lawyer in Mississippi.  It is often said that revenge is a dish best served cold…or hot as in this case.

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