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Divorce, General Legal, Opinion

Don’t Want Things to Get Worse? Don’t do Something to Make Things Worse

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Want things to get worse? Do something worse!

http://www.rogerebert.com/far-flung-correspondents/a-marriage-made-in-hell

In family law it is often desired by a party to do something to get back at the other spouse.  The awful soon-to-be-ex did something first that was mean, so they want retribution and to do something meaner.  Usually this is a very bad idea. Two wrongs don’t make a right and it may well get you into trouble.

John and Jenifer were married. John had an affair with Jane. Jane was married to Jim.  So, guess what Jenifer did? She had an affair with Jim!  It did not make things better…

There’s a reported case where the soon-to-be-ex-husband threw all of the wife’s clothes in the driveway, squirted them with lighter fluid and lit them afire.  This conduct did not make things better.

Unless you want to end up in the War of Roses, stop doing things to make things worse.

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce Attorney in Mississippi and advises all of his clients to abstain from doing things to make things worse.

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Child Custody, Divorce, General Legal, Irreconcilable differences, Marriage, Opinion

Lying Eyes & Other Signs of Lies and the People That Tell Them.

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If you’ve ever been involved in a family law case then you’ve dealt with someone lying.

Clients, witnesses and even lawyers sometimes lie.  It could be a little white lie or a huge whopper. A former CIA officer said to watch out for these cues that you might be being lied to;

  • The Eyes Tell the Tale.  When asked a question the witness looks up, closes their eyes or looks down, especially on a question they should know.
  • Shielding the Face.  When speaking the person have their hand in front of their eyes or mouth.
  • Verbal Answer/Body Language Disagree.  The best example of this was when the deponent was asked if she was having an affair.  She said, “No,” but shook her head Yes.  When confronted with this she spilled the beans.
  • The Delayed Response.  Some things you should not have to think about.
  • Fidgeting.  Messing with your hair, your cup, or your pen when answering.
  • Nose Grows.  Think Pinocchio.  Very rare*

Want to know more about lies and the people that tell them?  Try these;

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce Attorney in Mississippi and advises you to NEVER lie while under oath.

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Bow Tie, Divorce, Food Related

A Glimpse in the Divorce Attorney’s Freezer

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Capital One features Vikings asking “What’s in your wallet?”  A question for a divorce attorney is “What’s in your freezer?”

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Currently in the Freezer.

  • a piece of the top tier of a Wedding cake – it was returned, upon request, from the Ex.
  • a bottle of Reyka Vodka – from Iceland
  • popsicles
  • ice

Formerly in the Freezer.

  • panties
  • other things not as exciting

Things to NOT put in the Freezer.

  • coke, which is forgotten
  • a body
  • hot food items

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce Lawyer in Mississippi and reminds you that sometimes you need to clean out the Freezer.

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Divorce

Check the Thermostat! Bringing the Heat to a Divorce.

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A recent review on Amazon.com of a Wi-Fi enabled thermostat has the divorce world heating up!

A now ex-husband described his glee with a Honeywell Wi-Fi enabled thermostat, which allowed him to remotely control the a/c and heat in his former marital home.

“The device works flawlessly. You can adjust the temp from anywhere you have a Wi-Fi or cellular signal. Little did I know that my ex had found someone that had a bit more money than I did and decided to make other travel plans. Those plans included her no longer being my wife and finding a new travel partner (Carl, a banker). She took the house, the dog and a good chunk of my 401K, but didn’t mess with the wireless access point or the Wi-Fi enabled Honeywell thermostat…”

So, if you’re getting a divorce; change the locks, re-code the garage door opener, change beneficiaries and change your wi-fi password.

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce Lawyer in Mississippi.  It is often said that revenge is a dish best served cold…or hot as in this case.

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Child Custody, Divorce, General Legal, Opinion

LET it GO! Disney on Divorce.

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You’ve heard of Disney on Ice, well, this is Disney on Divorce…

Let it go, let it go!
Can’t hold it back any more.
Let it go, let it go!
Turn away and slam the door.
I don’t care what they’re going to say…


Idina Menzel – (Disney’s Frozen) Let It Go

Let it Go is quite possibly the best advice Walt Disney has on Divorce.

Divorce is hard. It’s emotional. It’s never-ending with respect to still having to co-exist, co-parent and cooperate with your ex, at least with regards to children.  There are hard feelings, feelings of regret, anger and resentment. Let it Go.

He’s a jerk.  Let it Go.

She’s mean. Let it Go.

You were wronged in ways you can never forget. Let it Go.

Don’t let that anger, resentment, sabotage, and ill-will consume you. Let it Go.

Matthew Thompson is a Child Custody and Family Law Attorney in the Hospitality State (MS) and encourages you to Let it Go.

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Divorce, Food Related, Opinion

Being Divorced Means…

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Being Divorced, for the Stereotypical Male, Means…

  • You have to do your own laundry; sheets, towels, clothes, underwear. Washing, drying, folding, putting away…
  • You have to pay your bills, like actually writing checks, stamping envelopes, mailing mail…
  • You have to cook, including; shopping for foodstuffs, ingredients, etc…
  • You have to do dishes; washing dirty dishes, pots and pans…

Think about that, before you think about divorce!

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce Attorney in Mississippi, and while he enjoys cooking all that other stuff is work!

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Divorce, General Legal

We’ll See What the Judge has to say About That…

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“We’ll just let the Judge decide…”

The Judge.  The (near) Final Ruler on all legal disputes that cannot be resolved otherwise.  There is likely not a more misunderstood and much maligned position. Judges are expected to know-it-all and get it right every time, all the while without acting like a know-it-all. Judges have multiple roles in hearings and trials. Judges have these tasks, among others;

  • Determines whether the correct legal procedures were followed.
  • Determines to some extent the procedures for conducting the Court Room.
  • Determines the witness’ credibility- whether they are truthful or not.
  • Determines the admissibility of evidence and the weight it should be given.
  • Whether an attorney’s stated objection to something being introduced or considered is legally proper.
  • Whether there is a reason to overrule said objection.
  • How a witness is treated by the opposing attorney.
  • How the attorneys treat one another.
  • Maintaining Order among the chaos that the stress, anxiety and emotion that Court brings out of people.

Judges have a large responsibility and the buck stops with them (…mostly, though Appellate relief may be possible).  Judges are also human (mostly, I think) and have to adjudge your case based on snap shots presented.  Your attorney and your side put a smiley face on your case and a frowny face on the other and the other side does the opposite.  The Judge, after a relatively short amount of time, will then make a decision that could very well impact you for the next 20 years or the rest of your life.

Judges try to get it right and are bound to base their rulings on the law as it currently reads applied to the admitted facts and evidence presented.  Their decision cannot be based on things not “of record,” meaning facts or evidence not introduced, nor can the Judge do what they or you think the law should be, but rather must apply the law as it is.

Matthew Thompson is a Domestic Relations Attorney in Mississippi and like the old saying goes,”A Good Lawyer knows the law, a Great Lawyer knows the Judge!”

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Divorce

Don’t Kill the Golden Goose!

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That dirty, no good, weasley, little, you-know-what deserves to be run out-of-town on a rail and have it shouted from the roof tops that he’s sorry and no one should do business with him! Right??

Goose that Laid the Golden Egg Hand pulled silkscreen ca. 1950

WRONG!

Your initial reaction of disdain and disgust are understandable.  But, bad mouthing the bread-winner in a divorce situation is akin to cutting off your own nose to spite your face.  A New York divorcee recently learned the hard way, costing herself six figures in the process.  She attacked her husband publicly for his reprehensible conduct and cost him significant business and dramatically decreased the value of his law firm.

It was needlessly self-destructive.  That bread-winning spouse maintaining the ability to bring home the bacon will allow you to get more cheddar!

So, bad-mouth him to your lawyer, to your counselor and  your mamma, but don’t run him down the road to his co-workers, don’t email all of her clients that she’s a home-wrecker.

Will it be easy? No.  Is it the right thing?  Maybe.                                                        Is it the Smart Play? Absolutely.

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce and Domestic Relations Attorney in Mississippi and if your goal is to have more bread in your pocket do NOT kill the Golden Goose.  

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