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Unfortunately, disappointment is a part of life. It can also be a major part of family law cases. Most often in a family law case, someone is going through just about the most difficult thing they do as an adult when dealing with a divorce/custody matter. Either they have done something, or their spouse has, which has caused significant upheaval, loss of trust and despair A large part of family law includes helping someone cope with those feelings and emotions.

While there is no easy answer on how to cope, there are a number of things that can be done to promote healing.

Seek Counseling. I recommend counseling to almost every client. This is NOT because I think something is wrong with them. It is because Counselors are people who have expertise in dealing with persons going through emotional crisis. A lawyer can deal with a legal crisis, and some are good at the emotional issues too, but all are not. A counselor can help and they have often heard and dealt with a similar circumstance. Counseling can be with a licensed counselor, a religious leader or a sage friend with experience.

Keep a Routine. Keeping a routine can help more than you think. A recent study showed that persons who made their bed each morning were more organized and felt better about themselves throughout the day. This routine made their day better. This is something easy to do and it only takes 2 minutes, but can make a difference in how you feel. I encourage my clients to get in a routine and keep it. I encourage them to continue their exercise regimen or start one. Let’s Go Walking (a la Haley Barbour!). I also encourage them to eat the right stuff. While this may sound dumb or not my business – a family law matter concerns mind, body, and spirit.

Listen to Your Attorney. One of the easiest things to say and hardest to do is to follow the advice of your attorney. Ideally, you are working with an attorney that has handled many situations, which have been similar to yours. Just like you, attorneys learn from experience. Hire one that knows what they are doing and then take their advice. This one factor alone is worthy of its own blog…

Disappointment is a part of life and, seemingly, a large part of family law. Effectively dealing with the “bumps” in the road will help you get back on track.

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Sometimes in life we bite off more than we can chew. I recently had a week where I had a Court appearance every day that week, and all over the state to boot. Normally I do not schedule things like that, but sometimes it happens. In a few instances I really don’t have control of my schedule. Emergency issues happen and they have to be addressed (which one of these was). A lot of times we put stress on ourselves unnecessarily due to what we are trying to do – seemingly too much. Also, doing too much can make or personal life suffer. Well as it turns out, more often than not, you can handle it, but the stress and anxiety leading up to a maxed-out schedule is not worth the relief of having it done.

So what is the take away? Don’t overload yourself, whether it be in your professional life or your personal life. Make sure you are in control of your schedule, at least as much as you can be and make a concerted effort to that end.

In the end you may still have emergency issues arise, but you will be able to handle them and everything else that you had to handle by not overloading yourself. (Do as I say, not as I do.)

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and says don’t get overloaded.

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