Category Archives: Divorce

Sometimes You Go to Bed Angry!

“Never go to bed angry,” they say.  Well sometimes that just leads to being overtired and angrier.

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We’ve all heard the advice to never go to bed angry, but what happens when you don’t get your disagreement resolved? Is watching the sunrise a magic antidote to resolving your issues?  I contend that it’s not and that sleep deprivation just contributes to the problem.  Sometime rest, a cool head and some time for inner-reflection help.

I am not saying that your grandmother was wrong, but several of those sayings have been debunked – you do not Feed a Cold and Starve a Fever, lightning does strike twice, and you will not drown of cramps if you swim immediately after eating.

While resolving your differences ASAP is usually the best policy, sometimes one size does not fit all.

“Get some sleep!” – Matthew Thompson

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law Attorney and recommends a good night sleep and keeping your routine, as much as possible, especially when dealing with conflict.

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Don’t be a Raisin…

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“Don’t be a Raisin in the Trail Mix of Life.” –

Chelsea Fagan – 24 Rules for being a Gentleman in 2014.

Merry Christmas!

Read Your Papers!

It may sound rude, but the question is nonetheless valid, “Have you even read your divorce papers?

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The very first step in determining your rights, answering your questions and determining whether you may get in trouble, all start with the same thing;  Reading your papers.  They define the type of custody, what you owe and the time you get for custody/visitation periods.

Agreements can be very difficult to remember.  It is easy to get confused and is easy to forget.  Read them.  Is it MY Christmas? Read the papers.  Do I owe for the car tags?  Read the papers.  Is it MY weekend or is it suspended due to an intervening holiday? Read the papers.

If you do not know how much support you owe, read the papers.  If you wonder if you have a claim for contempt because so-and-so did not have them back by 5:00 pm, you guessed it, read the papers.

“Read your Papers!” – Matthew Thompson

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law Attorney and reads lots of papers and will read yours too.

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How to be a TERRIBLE Person. (11 specific ways you can be mean & hateful.)

In my profession I get to see a lot of what not to do almost, every day; from videos, texts, and emails to actions and sometimes inaction.

So, I have compiled a list of what terrible people do.  If you want to be terrible do these things, in no particular order.

  • Curse and scream at your spouse, as loud as you can, as often as you can.
  • Curse and scream at your children.
  • Make false abuse claims.
  • Lie about the false abuse claims even when it’s clear they are false.
  • Bad-mouth your child’s other parent to the child.  (Hey, it’s the truth, right!)
  • Interfere with their time with the child.  Just do it.  Sure it hurts your child too, that’s what makes it even more terrible.
  • Abuse your spouse or child. (Any form – all are terrible, some more-so than others.)
  • Refuse to support your family.
  • File suit when your ex paid 5 days late, even though they told you. It’s the principal, right?
  • Threaten to make public private images. (and mean it when you say it, at least in the moment.)
  • Refuse Christmas visitation.  Just because.

There you have it, 11 mean, hate-filled things that you can do to be terrible.

Oh, and if you don’t want to be terrible don’t do these things.” – Matthew Thompson

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law Attorney in Mississippi and tries not to do terrible things or give terrible advice.

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You Are Your Own Worst Enemy!

In Court there are a lot of forces against you.  Your spouse or ex-spouse, their attorney, sometimes the Judge, at least seemingly, the GAL, the Court appointed expert all are not looking out for your best interests. But, who is your own worst enemy?  Your lawyer? NO!

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It’s YOU!

More often than not, when there is a disaster it is due to your own making or at least you are a major contributor.  Not following the advice of your lawyer is one of the main factors in you making your case worse.  Doing what you want or feel like is another.  Deliberately defying a Court Order is never smart either.

So, how do you avoid disaster.  Listen.  Heed the advice given.  Do NOT do things contrary to that advice.  If in doubt don’t act, but ask.  That alone is worth the price of this blog.

“If in doubt ASK, don’t ACT!” – Matthew Thompson

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law Attorney and gives lots of advice on a daily basis.

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Lose Over 180 lbs in Just 60 Days* (via Divorce)

Lose weight fast. This is not the type of “diet” usually recommended by Doctors, but it can free you from an unhealthy situation.

Mississippi law provides for an Irreconcilable Differences divorce process that can streamline divorce.  An “ID” divorce is the quickest, cheapest and most amicable means to get a divorce.  However, it is not always possible to take advantage of this type of divorce.

You and your spouse must;

  • Agree to a Divorce
  • Agree to all of the Terms of the Divorce Agreement (including custody, support, visitation, property division and financial terms)

The basic process is;

  • File a Joint Complaint for Divorce (this begins a 60 day waiting period)
  • Prepare and exchange financial Statements
  • Prepare and sign the Child Custody and Property Settlement Agreement
  • Prepare and sign the Final Judgment of Divorce
  • Present the paperwork to the Court for approval (after 60 days of the initial filing)

So, if you need to lose weight fast in the form of your spouse, please consult an attorney and consider the “ID” diet.

Matthew Thompson is a divorce attorney and can help you lose weight fast, via divorce.

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Laughter. They say it’s the best medicine…

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Laughter. Is it the best medicine or does it lead to the need for Meds?