Category Archives: General Legal

2 Magic Words, “Thank You”

02/20/2015 BowTieLawyer Leave a comment

It’s amazing what showing gratitude will get you!

But, that’s not the main reason to express it. Thanking those that deserve it serves them. We do not say Thank You enough to our loved ones and friends. Sometimes were nicer to strangers or persons we just met than to our own family.

So say Thank You. Thank your spouse or partner. Thank your family and loved ones. Thank your boss and co-workers. Thank the people who have helped you get to where you are.

Matthew Thompson is an Attorney practicing Family Law in Mississippi and is grateful to those who have helped him along the way. Thank You! (You know who you are 😉)

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Child Custody, Divorce, General Legal, Opinion, Visitation

Do You Pass “The SleepOver Challenge?”

02/18/2015 BowTieLawyer Leave a comment

Sometimes being a Family Law Attorney leads to having information that you wish you did NOT have.

From swinging key parties to recreational substance abuse, you would be surprised to learn what good, normal people are doing, even your neighbors.

One way to determine if your conduct is “ok” is to ask yourself “Do I pass the SleepOver Challenge?” This simple test is would you allow your child(ren) to go to a sleepover at so-and-so’s house if you knew they were doing whatever it is that you are doing.

If your answer is “yes” then in the eyes of a Judge you’ll probably be fine, (assuming you are in the bounds of societal norms, whatever that means). If your answer is “no” it’s time to re-examine what you are doing.

And, if you have some rally bizarre behind closed doors conduct, just disregard this, keep it to yourself and don’t invite anyone for a sleepover.

Matthew Thompson is a Child Custody Attorney practicing Family Law in Mississippi.

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General Legal

The Rules Apply to You.

02/05/2015 BowTieLawyer Leave a comment

This is a lesson for Youths, Adults and Children of All Ages…

THE RULES APPLY TO YOU!

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“But, but…” Whether you are a Lawyer, Mother, Father, just a Child, or the Judge The Rules Apply to You.

A Court Order that requires you to do certain things in order to have privileges is valid, even if you disagree with it. Just because you think it unfair, unnecessary, sexist, biased, dumb or a waste of money does not change the fact that it is a Rule you have to abide by.

Following the Rules is not always fun nor easy, but not following the Rules leads to trouble and expense and may put your freedom in jeopardy.

Follow the Rules.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law Attorney in Mississippi and advises his clients to follow the Rules.

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Divorce, General Legal, Opinion

Less is More…Knowing the Dirt May Do More Harm Than Good.

02/04/2015 BowTieLawyer 1 Comment

Confession is good for the Soul.

However, what’s good for the Soul may not be so good for your marriage. Sometimes knowing the details, deeds and dirt makes it impossible to “forgive.” Knowing the location of the “scene of the crime” results in PTSD every time you pass by. Knowing the name of the paramour gives you the HeeBeeGeeBees when you have a waiter/waitress with the same name. Also, even when you know all the dirt, you still wonder if you really do.

If the goal is to attempt to reconcile and work through life’s difficulties, you may well be better served by the mantra- Less is More.

Read about “The Dirt” here, “The Book of Sins” here and more on “Reconciliation” here.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law Attorney in Mississippi and believes that sometimes ignorance is bliss. Consult your attorney, counselor or mental health professional for more info!

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Child Custody, Child Support, General Legal, Opinion

Family Law Bill of the Day; What Are They Thinking

01/30/2015 BowTieLawyer 1 Comment

Yesterday was about a proposed change in Fault Grounds in Mississippi law. Today is about a far different change…

House Bill 714, hb0714in, seeks to declare a presumption that a child’s best interests is NOT served by being placed in the custody of a homosexual person, even if it’s the biological Parent.

Regardless of one’s political and/or religious views this would create significant problems in the law. The law currently recognizes a concept called the Natural Parent Presumption. This means that a Natural Parent is the best parent to raise their own child as they deem best. This is well founded, accepted law. Additionally, you have a Constitutional Right, as a parent, to raise your child as you best see fit, assuming you are neither neglecting nor abusing your child.

The problem that HB 714 creates is that it will in fact require a Court to conclude that a parent is presumptively fit and unfit if that parent was the natural parent and homosexual. It ignores the fact that a homosexual can be a biological parent triggering the Natural Parent Presumption, it creates a presumption of unfitness based solely on sexual orientation with NO criteria of whether that parent “acts” on said orientation and it provides no litmus test for homosexuality. This also ignores the fact that a Court may already consider the morals of parents and take that into considerations when determining Custody. It assumes bad parenting when there is no reasonable basis to do so (Click for Real Bad Parenting).

This appears, at best, to be election year pandering and, at worst, an unconstitutional restraint on a Parent’s Right to Parent. This would not withstand a Constitutional challenge, in my opinion. And, is another reason that MS will catch ridicule as being so Heavenly Focused that we’re no Earthly good.

Matthew Thompson is a Child Custody Lawyer in Mississippi and believes that the Albright Custody Factors allow for the Court to consider ALL issues that the Court deems necessary to determine custody of a child- and that’s a fact!

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Child Custody, Divorce, General Legal

Family Law Bill of the Day – Mississippi Style

01/29/2015 BowTieLawyer 1 Comment

The legislature is in session. Saturday Night Live once referred to the Mississippi Legislature as the “hissing possums.”

But, today’s blog is about proposed legislation. Senate Bill 2342-(sb2342in).

This Bill’s intent is to add a 13th “fault ground” to Mississippi Law. This ground would provide for a divorce being granted upon 5 years of separation in fact. This means if you and your spouse are married, but not living together for five years or longer and at least one of you wants a divorce, you can get a divorce. It further provides that if there are minor children that the Chancellor may deny the divorce if a divorce is found to not be in the children’s best interests.

This is a much needed change in Mississippi law and a step in the right direction. Some may say 5 years is too long, but it is better than nothing and better than the law as it currently is.

Who says that? I do.

Read about the current 12 fault grounds.

Read Why You Should Care About This Legislation here and here.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law and Child Custody Attorney in Mississippi, Adjunct Professor at MC Law in Domestic Relations and believes this provides a much needed remedy in the current law.

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General Legal

“I am sorry…”

01/27/2015 BowTieLawyer Leave a comment

Everyday people do and say things that they regret or are sorry they did. It’s not said enough. It must be meant.

In life three little words can make a difference. They can help determine whether you will have a good day or a bad day. They hold power. They can alter the course of History!

Three little words not said enough;

I love you.
I need you.
I trust you.
I am sorry.

If you are having problems in life, in work, in relationships, start using these three little words.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law attorney in Mississippi and if you need help in knowing when to use the right ‘three little words,’ he may be able to help.

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Divorce, General Legal

Being NOT Divorced Does Not a Marriage Make.

01/23/2015 BowTieLawyer 2 Comments

In Mississippi it can be ridiculously hard to get a divorce. Untying the knot can be quite the task…

Mississippi is NOT a true “No Fault” divorce state. Instead, MS requires the parties agree to the divorce and all the terms for an Irreconcilable Differences Divorce and absent that agreement you must have Fault Grounds, that can be proven.

If no agreement and no Fault Grounds, guess what? You cannot get divorced, but that does not mean you have a marriage!

Sure, legally you are married, but there is no requirement that you reside with your spouse and even if you commit an act which would entitle your spouse to a divorce it does not mean you can get the divorce- – only if they choose to seek fault grounds against you.

Time and again legislation has been proposed to eliminate this “divorce blackmail” chasm that is MS law. Time and again any compromise on divorce law has died on the vine under the auspices of “protecting families.”

Families are not being protected by laws which create legal blackmail situations. This change, by the way, if it ever happens is contrary to divorce lawyer’s self interests! If there is a more reasonable process to get a divorce, divorce lawyers make less money.

Marriages are wonderful blessings, unless they are not. It’s time for Mississippi laws to reflect that.