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Get Off the Crazy Train, NOW!

Divorce can make you crazy.

The process is hard, confusing, emotional, and sometimes contrary to common sense.

It can be easy to lose yourself in the emotion and overreact. Don’t. Think before you act. Respond deliberately in a fashion calculated to help your case, your kids and ultimately yourself.

I have seen the Crazy Train too often. It always, always goes off of the rails. I have seen the horrible FaceBook postings about this parent and that parent. I have seen the game playing of bad mouthing one parent to school officials or friends. I have seen improper papers delivered demanding this result or that result. I’ve seen parents manipulate a child to fear and loathe the other. I have seen the schedule used to interfere with the other parent’s time.

Get off the Crazy Train NOW.

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce and Child Custody Attorney in Mississippi, the Hospitality State, and recommends you get off the crazy train.

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Friends Don’t Let Friends Post on the Internet

We’ve blogged on not posting ignorant or incriminating things on FaceBook. (5 FaceBook Don’ts)&(5 More Don’ts).

The prior posts really dealt with you avoiding bad behavior, or at least bragging about it publicly. But, your obligation to be smart should not stop there.

You should not let your friends post hate or trash either. Using a surrogate does not insulate you from the potential carnage.  That well-meaning friend being critical of your ex, or their new squeeze, is a direct reflection of your inner thoughts, even if it’s not!

Ask that your well-meaning friend refrain.  That they not post about how evil, vile and repulsive your ex is, about how ugly, inside and out, his/her new soul mate is.  They can think it, you will probably even talk about it over Mexican and margaritas, but don’t post it on the Internet.

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and uses FaceBook and other social media sites a lot more than you probably realize.

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FaceBook, the U.S. Supreme Court & Free Speech About your Ex

“Anthony Douglas Elonis, under the pseudonym ‘Tone Dougie,’ used the social networking Web site Facebook to post self-styled rap lyrics containing graphically violent language and imagery concerning his wife, co-workers, a kindergarten class, and state and federal law enforcement.” Elonis v. U.S.,  575 U.S. ___(June 1, 2015), quoting Slip Opinion. (**Caution, this post is longer than average and is incredible.**)

May 2010, Elonis’ wife of 7 years left him, taking their two children with her. Thereafter, Elonis began “listening to more violent music” and posting self-styled “rap” lyrics inspired by the music. Id.  Elonis changed the user name on his Facebook page from his actual name to a rap-style nom de plume, “Tone Dougie.” Id., at 249, 265.

The lyrics posted “included graphically violent language and imagery.”  He also interspersed  disclaimers that the lyrics were “fictitious,” with no intentional “resemblance to real persons.” Id., at 331, 329. Elonis described his writing as therapeutic.” Id., at 329.

“Elonis posted a photograph of himself and a co-worker at a Halloween event with Elonis  holding a toy knife against his co-worker’s neck. The caption Elonis wrote stated, “I wish.Id.

Elonis was fired for this posting and in response, posted a new entry: “Moles! Didn’t I tell y’all I had several? Y’all sayin’ I had access to keys for all the f***in’ gates. That I have sinister plans for all my friends and must have taken home a couple. Y’all think it’s too dark and foggy to secure your facility from a man as mad as me? You see, even without a paycheck, I’m still the main attraction. Whoever thought the Halloween Haunt could be so f***in’ scary?App. 332.

Shortly after he was fired, Elonis posted an adaptation of a satirical sketch that he and his wife had watched together. Id. In the “sketch” he is threatening his wife: “Hi, I’m Tone Elonis. Did you know that it’s illegal for me to say I want to kill my wife? . . . It’s one of the only sentences that I’m not allowed to say. . . . Now it was okay for me to say it right then because I was just telling you that it’s illegal for me to say I want to kill my wife. . . . Um, but what’s interesting is that it’s very illegal to say I really, really think someone out there should kill my wife. . . . But not illegal to say with a mortar launcher. Because that’s its own sentence. . . . I also found out that it’s incredibly illegal, extremely illegal to go on Facebook and say something like the best place to fire a mortar launcher at her house would be from the cornfield behind it because of easy access to a getaway road and you’d have a clear line of sight through the sun room. . . . Yet even more illegal to show an illustrated diagram. [diagram of the house]. . . .” Id., at 333.  The details about the home were accurate. Id., at 154.

Based on the above Elonis’ wife secured a Order of Protection. His response? “Fold up your [protection-from-abuse order] and put it in your pocket Is it thick enough to stop a bullet? Try to enforce an Order that was improperly granted in the first place Me thinks the Judge needs an education on true threat jurisprudence And prison time’ll add zeros to my settlement . . . And if worse comes to worse I’ve got enough explosives to take care of the State Police and the Sheriff ’s Department.Id., at 334. At the bottom of this post was a link to the Wikipedia article on “Freedom of speech.” Ibid.

Later,  Elonis posted “That’s it, I’ve had about enough I’m checking out and making a name for myself Enough elementary schools in a ten mile radius to initiate the most heinous school shooting ever imagined And hell hath no fury like a crazy man in a Kindergarten class The only question is . . . which one? Id., at 335.

Following this posting the FBI were notified and began monitoring Elonis and interviewed him. Following their visit, during which Elonis was polite but uncooperative, Elonis posted another entry on his Facebook page, called “Little Agent Lady.” “You know your s***’s ridiculous when you have the FBI knockin’ at yo’ door Little Agent lady stood so close Took all the strength I had not to turn the b**** ghost Pull my knife, flick my wrist, and slit her throat Leave her bleedin’ from her jugular in the arms of her partner [laughter] So the next time you knock, you best be serving a warrant And bring yo’ SWAT and an explosives expert while you’re at it Cause little did y’all know, I was strapped wit’ a bomb Why do you think it took me so long to get dressed with no shoes on? I was jus’ waitin’ for y’all to handcuff me and pat me down Touch the detonator in my pocket and we’re all goin’ [BOOM!] Are all the pieces comin’ together? S***, I’m just a crazy sociopath that gets off playin’ you stupid f***s like a fiddle And if y’all didn’t hear, I’m gonna be famous Cause I’m just an aspiring rapper who likes the attention who happens to be under investigation for terrorism cause y’all think I’m ready to turn the Valley into Fallujah But I ain’t gonna tell you which bridge is gonna fall into which river or road And if you really believe this s*** I’ll have some bridge rubble to sell you tomorrow [BOOM!][BOOM!][BOOM!]Id., at 336.

Elonis was convicted of violating Section 875(c), stating, an individual who “transmits in interstate or foreign commerce any communication containing any threat to kidnap any person or any threat to injure the person of another” guilty of a felony . 18 U. S. C. §875(c). He was sentenced to three years, eight months’ imprisonment and three years’ supervised release. Elonis appealed.

The U.S. Supreme Court reversed and remanded, holding in part, “that Elonis’s conviction was premised solely on how his posts would be viewed by a reasonable person, a standard feature of civil liability in tort law inconsistent with the conventional criminal conduct requirement of “awareness of some wrongdoing,” Staples, 511 U. S., at 606–607. This Court “ha[s] long been reluctant to infer that a negligence standard was intended in criminal statutes.” Rogers v. United States, 422 U. S. 35, 47 (Marshall, J., concurring). And the Government fails to show that the instructions in this case required more than a mental state of negligence. Hamling v. United States, 418 U. S. 87, distinguished. Section 875(c)’s mental state requirement is satisfied if the defendant transmits a communication for the purpose of issuing a threat or with knowledge that the communication will be viewed as a threat” and the Government failed to prove that Elonis intended to threaten or that his words would be viewed as a threat. Id. Slip Opinion.

Commentary:

The Court’s rationale primarily dealt with the standard that the Government had to prove and whether Elonis had to have the intent that his words be intended to be a threat or that he knew they would be taken as a threat. The Court was NOT concerned with how the recipients of the statements took them, nor was the Court concerned with the impact that the statements had on the person who were subject to the statements. When I first heard about this case, I thought a man was convicted for bad-mouthing his Ex on FaceBook.  This went well beyond that.  The Court’s reasoning was on the intent of the person making the comments and the standard that must be applied for Criminal penalties to apply.  Sometimes the Courts, out of an abundance of caution, make nonsensical decisions. The case was not about Free Speech. The case was whether it could be proven that Elonis intended a threat or knew it would be taken as a threat.  I think he intended it to be taken as a threat.

Matthew Thompson is a Domestic Relations Attorney in Mississippi, admitted to practice in the U.S. Supreme Court, and regardless of the Elonis decision advises that you not bad-mouth your ex on FaceBook whether you mean it or not.

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FaceBook, At Your Service; How You May be Able to use FB to Serve Your Spouse

FaceBook is not just for stalking your ex anymore…

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A New York Court has authorized a Divorce litigant to attempt service on her hopefully, soon-to-be-ex via FaceBook.

This is unusual because under normal circumstances “personal service of process” is required.  That is, the filed divorce papers are required to be handed to your spouse by a non-party, non-attorney for the parties. The rules do provide for service by publication when you do not know where the other party is, but you have to attest to having made a diligent search and inquiry into their whereabouts.

This case is unique in that the Wife does not know where the Husband is, but knows that he is an active user of FaceBook. The Court has determined that service through FaceBook may be proper.

This does not mean that sending your ex a FB message is valid service, however.  Please consult your experienced family law attorney for rules on service and any additional questions.

Matthew Thompson is a  Family Law Attorney and read here for what NOT to do on FaceBook.

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5 Family Law FaceBook Don’ts

FaceBook is mainly used for comparing yourself to your high school friends and stalking persons you just met. Perhaps it can also be useful for bragging on yourself, your child’s latest, cutest thing and driving up “hits” on your blog. However, it is NOT to air your DIVORCE DRAMA!

FaceBook (FB) based evidence has been linked to over 1/3 of divorces filed since 2011 and is increasing. The American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers states that 81 % of its members have used or been faced with evidence plucked from Facebook, Twitter and other social media sites in divorce cases over the last five years.

What are some of the things NOT to post on FaceBook?

  • Don’t put that the other party was just a sperm/egg donor
  • Don’t put that the other party is CRAZY, SATAN or PSYCHO!
  • Don’t post pictures of yourself licking someone’s face at The Electric Cowboy.
  • Don’t put pictures of yourself holding an alcoholic drink with 16 empties on the table.
  • Don’t “check-in” at the Club, at 2:00 a.m., during your custody time with the children.

I have seen FB postings used in Court as circumstantial proof of fault. (Mushy messages to the old flame and hate-filled diatribes against that “dead beat.”) And, FB info has been used as proof with regards to moral fitness in custody battles. Parties in litigation have posted vulgar things about the other party and parties have put pictures of themselves behaving inappropriately on FB.

So you are thinking, “But my FB is set to private. Only my friends can see it and I blocked little Miss So and So.” Well the block may prevent them from gaining direct access, but guess what, you have a mutual friend that is forwarding the postings to your ex and/or that mutual friend is letting them log in under their name.  Nothing is private.

Want to know what else to NOT put on FB? 5 more Don’ts.

Share your FB Family Law horror story…maybe I’ll blog about it.  Oh, and LIKE me on FaceBook.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law Attorney in Mississippi and recommends you not post your business on FaceBook.

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Child Support, FaceBook and Poor Judgment = Rich Consequences

Pay your Child Support.  It’s been said and blogged before, but a few payors have yet to get the message…

Newly Internet famous, John McCroy, reportedly paid his $100.00 per month child support only one time.  He allegedly refused to pay because he  died and could not afford it.  Neither appears true.  Above is the recent photo of himself with at least $100.00 and being alive.

Social media like FaceBook (also, don’t do this on FB) and other sites are now routinely reviewed in determining a potential party’s whereabouts, goings-on and can be used as a snap shot into their financial status.

I have personally prepared to use FaceBook photos of an ex, severely behind on their obligations, claiming they cannot afford it, but had numerous pictures of their new car and the recent vacation they just took to the beach.  Certainly, there are circumstances where persons cannot afford their obligations when life gets in the way, but pictures of your new car and recent vacation are proof positive you are choosing to not pay your obligations.

Just like McCroy, it was proof they could meet the obligation, but chose not to.  McCroy posted numerous photos and comments once his “story” broke. He noted that no one in the media has mentioned that his Baby’s Mama was keeping the child away from him.  If true he should seek Contempt against her or specified visitation rights, it is not a basis to not pay your child support.

Matthew Thompson is a Child Support Lawyer in Mississippi and reminds you that as a parent you have a moral and legal obligation to pay Child Support.

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5 More What NOT To-Dos in Family Law

I have blogged on FaceBook Don’ts several times.  5 Family Law FaceBook Don’ts & 5 More FaceBook Don’ts.  This one is a little more general, but are still things NOT to do in Family Law matters.

  • Don’t Follow Bad Advice Blindly.  If your attorney advises you to break into the house and take everything, including the dishwasher and the stove, think twice. Who does that? Who gives that advice? How could a Judge ever think that was a good thing? Click here for more. Bad Advice = Bad Lawyer.
  • Don’t Make it a WAR if you Don’t Have to. It only makes the lawyers more money.  You get less. Go to WAR only when it is absolutely necessary. Life and safety.
  • Don’t Solely Blame the Other Side. This piece is sometimes tough to swallow. That SOB you married may be mostly at fault, and sometimes completely at fault, but it’s rare that it is one side’s fault 100%. Acknowledging your culpability, at least to yourself, will help you process what you are going through.
  • Don’t Bad Mouth the Other Parent. It may be true. He may deserve it. You may tell the Judge, your counselor and your lawyer. No one else needs to know.
  • Don’t Forward the Children Communications Between you and the Other Parent. This is so inappropriate. Placing the children in the middle of a parental dispute is a classic symptom of parental alienation. If you are doing this you better watch out. You may not be able to stop the advice given in number 2, above.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law attorney and tries to give good advice.  It may still not be easy to follow, but it is designed to create less havoc, not more, usually.

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5 More Family Law FaceBook Don’ts

I previously blogged on 5 Family Law FaceBook Don’ts.  This was a very popular blog topic and continues to generate a lot of traffic. This post lists 5 more things you should not be doing on FaceBook with regards to your family law case.

Posting inappropriate stuff on FB is not just an American thing. 1/5 of Australian divorces use FB postings to discredit some testimony that was offered by one party and FB activities are showing up in about 1/3 of United Kingdom divorce cases. Familyandthelaw.com.au 

5 More Things not to Put on FaceBook:

  • Don’t post Pictures of the other party, whether they be flattering or not. 
  • Don’t post Pictures of the children doing activities with captions that note the other parent’s absence.
  • Don’t post Pictures of your new squeeze in a “Parenting Role” that is intended to inflame the other side.
  • Don’t comment on your friend’s drama and “one-up” them with your own.
  • Don’t allow your FB friends to bash your Ex. 

Stay tuned for more FaceBook don’ts, as I have enough material to make this one a series and unfortunately am learning of new things not to do on an almost daily basis.

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi that strives to not put inappropriate things on FB and thinks you should too!  #Trust the Bow Tie.

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