Category Archives: Divorce

Divorce, Two Ways

In Mississippi it can be very difficult to be awarded a divorce.  There are basically two ways to get a divorce.

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The most common way is Irreconcilable Differences.  This is what is referred to as “no fault.”  However, MS is NOT a true no fault state, so in order to get a divorce on Irreconcilable Differences both parties have to agree to the divorce AND all the terms of the divorce, including; custody, visitation, support, alimony, division of the assets and debts.  If there is no agreement to all of the issues there may not be a divorce.

The other way to get a divorce in MS is based upon Fault Grounds.  In order to get a divorce on Fault Grounds you have to sue based upon fault grounds and prove your case.  Most commonly fault includes; adultery, cruelty, drug use, drunkenness, and abandonment.  There are a few other Fault Grounds, but are rarely used; incest, bigamy, insanity, etc.

It can be a frustrating circumstance when you and the other party cannot agree to all issues and neither party has grounds.  You may be stuck.  In this instance one party may resort to divorce blackmail, which is alive and well in MS.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law attorney and cautions that divorce 2-ways can be caused by 3-ways.

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Happy Mother’s Day!

Mother’s are the most important influence in a child’s life.  A mom’s job is never done and frequently is under-appreciated,  overworked and underpaid, except maybe “fringe” benefits.

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The modern holiday of Mother’s Day was first celebrated in 1908, when Anna Jarvis held a memorial for her mother in West Virginia. Jarvis began a campaign to make “Mother’s Day” a recognized holiday in the United States. Officially Mother’s Day was first celebrated in 1914. This holiday was adopted by other countries and it is now celebrated all over the world.  – Wikipedia

Mother’s Day is also routinely addressed in Custody and Visitation schedules. Under most Orders, Mom gets Mother’s Day regardless of whose weekend it is and it can include either the day or the entire weekend. In the few instances where this is overlooked, I still encourage dad to allow mom this time to be with the children.

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and wishes all the Mothers in his life Happy Mother’s Day!

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Change, Change, Change…Change of Child Support

I have previously blogged on the Mississippi Legislature, a.k.a. “the hissing possums” thanks to SNL, possibly taking action on proposed Child Support changes.  One such change was passed and will be in effect as of July 2013.

Senate Bill 2338 sought to increase the income levels that the child support guidelines are applied.  Child Support is a statutory amount on income. (Child Support, What you Owe).  If your income was between $5k -$50k per year, Adjusted Gross Income (AGI), the guidelines applied and the Court computed what you owed.  The new law increased the income range to $10k-$100k per year, AGI, for the Court to base Child Support. MCA 43-19-101(e)

Currently, if you make $50k per year support for one child would be around $585.  This figure is 14% of $50k.  From there the Court could skew it upwards based on the needs of the child or if you made higher income, if appropriate.  So, your obligation could range from $585 -$1,200 per month, give or take, depending on your AGI income.  The law change makes the 14% apply directly to all sums over $50k up to $100k.  So, support on $100k AGI would be $1,166.00 per month.  As stated prior, this change likely just keeps higher wage-earner’s support in line with what they are already paying and is not a substantial change, as the Court could always deviate upward, or downward, if warranted.

I think the “possums” got it right and this change, while in practical effect is not too significant, does address in some respects the low rates nationally that MS is known for.  H/T to Judge Primeaux’s blog, 12th Chancery Court District of MS.

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and reminds you to pay your child support and pay it often.

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Wild Divorce Laws; The Undivorce, Reconstructing a Marriage

One of my first posts on this site, way back, was a cut and paste job of an article I wrote a few years back for the Mississippi Bar Family Law Section Newsletter. It was entitled, I am an Undivorce Attorney.  I am re-blogging on it because, one) I have a significantly greater audience now, and two) I like writing about good news in divorce law.  I am still an Undivorce Attorney.

In Mississippi, you can legally UNDIVORCE!  Yes, you can have your judgment of divorce revoked by the Court that granted it.  This is not a remarriage, but rather judicially undoing the legal divorce. Why, you ask?  Well, just like sometimes people marry the wrong person, sometimes they got it right the first time and divorced the wrong person.

MCA 93-5-31, provides that a judgment of divorce may be revoked at any time by the Court that granted it.  The Court may require “satisfactory proof of reconciliation,” as well as “such regulation as it may deem proper.”  It requires a joint application of both parties. The process can be fairly simple and quick.

Upon approval by the Court, you can have your divorce erased and it’s as if you were never legally divorced.  You get “credit” for being married those years you were not, so 25 years still equals 25 years.

This is a very unique quirk in MS law and not widely known. In fact, a few judges, I have heard, have questioned whether they had the authority to do an undivorce and if it was legal.  They do and it is.

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and whether you marriage was a mistake or your divorce was a mistake, I can help!

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Rocket Surgery? Designating Court Experts.

Expert witnesses are routinely used in Divorce cases.  Expert testimony covers a wide gamut of topics, including; Financial, such as appraisals or accounting,  Counseling, regarding fault grounds or custody, Medical, regarding diagnosis and/or treatment, Attorney Fees and other areas.

Rule 26 of the Mississippi Rules of Civil Procedure governs the procedures that litigants must follow in designating expert witnesses. “A party may through interrogatories require any other party to identify;”

  • Each person whom the other party expects to call as an expert witness at trial,

  • To state the subject matter on which the expert is expected to testify, and

  • To state the substance of the facts and opinions to which the expert expected to testify and

  • A summary of the grounds for each opinion. (MRCP 26 (A)(I)).

Further, “A party is under a duty seasonably to supplement that party’s response with respect to any question directly addressed to…the identity of each person expected to be called as an expert witness at trial, the subject matter on which the person is expected to testify, and the substance of the testimony.” (MRCP 26 (f)(1)(B)).

“In regard to matters relating to discovery, the trial court has considerable discretion.” Dawkins v. Redd Pest Control Co., 607 So.2d 1232, 1235 (Miss. 1992).

The Mississippi Court of Appeals has upheld the non-allowance of an expert, not properly disclosed, when the party intending to use the expert did not comply with the Rules of procedure.  In Mallet v. Carter, 803 So.2d 504 (Miss. App. 2002), the Plaintiff was prohibited from using an expert, and her case was ultimately dismissed, for dilatory designation of the experts and providing insufficient discovery related to the experts after the time in which to do so had expired.

Expert testimony can be critical to prove certain aspects, even in seemingly routine cases.  Make sure that you know who your experts are, why you are using them, what their opinions are , what those opinions are based upon AND disclose all of this information to the other side in a timely fashion.

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and frequently certifies witnesses as experts when necessary and has testified as an expert with regard to attorney fees.

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Shackin’ Up? May = No Alimony!

Under Mississippi law, periodic alimony is subject to modification and termination, even if it’s based upon an agreement of the parties. See McDonald v. McDonald, 683 So. 2d 929, 931 (Miss. 1996) (The Court’s authority over periodic alimony award exists “regardless of any intent expressed by the parties to the contrary”).

Before 1994, Mississippi law provided that post-divorce sexual activity was illegal conduct which automatically terminated a wife’s right to alimony. This rule was changed in Hammonds v. Hammonds, 641 So. 2d 1211, 1216 (Miss. 1994), which held that in future cases the courts should consider only the economic effect of post-divorce cohabitation:

“[Our prior cases] clearly reflect a moral judgment that a divorced woman should not engage in sexual relations; the penalty for such activity is forfeiture of her right to support from her ex-husband. A secondary rationale in these cases for termination of alimony is the presumption that the divorced woman’s partner/cohabitant is providing financial support, thereby eliminating or reducing her need for support from her ex-husband. We find that only the latter issue—that of support—is properly before the court in its consideration of a request for alimony reduction or termination.” Id.

Three years later, in Scharwath v. Scharwath, 702 So. 2d 1210 (Miss. 1997), the Chancery Court held that the husband had not proven that the wife and her male companion were financially dependent upon one another and denied a termination of alimony. The MS Supreme Court reversed, adopting a formal presumption that cohabitation is a material change in circumstances sufficient to terminate alimony.

“This rationale, along with the facts of this case, accurately reflects the difficulty a providing spouse faces in presenting direct evidence of mutual financial support between cohabiting parties. The parties who live in cohabitation can easily and purposely keep their condition of mutual financial support concealed from the paying spouse, as well as from courts seeking only financial documentation before it will grant a modification. Such is the reason that we will, in future cases, apply the rule that proof of cohabitation creates a presumption that a material change in circumstances has occurred. See DePoorter v. DePoorter, 509 So. 2d 1141 (Fla. App. 1 Dist. 1987) (stating that presumption of material change in circumstances exists where recipient party cohabits with another). This presumption will shift the burden to the recipient spouse to come forward with evidence suggesting that there is no mutual support within his or her de facto marriage. While this presumption does not alter the overall burden of proof or the standard used to determine whether a modification is warranted, it does create a middle ground for this Court, between making moral judgment on the parties and condoning cohabitation outright.” Id., 702 So. 2d at 1211.

Under Hammonds, when a spouse receiving alimony is being supported by another person, that support is a sufficient change in financial circumstances to terminate alimony. To ensure that all relevant evidence was produced for the Court’s consideration, Scharwath placed the burden of proving financial independence upon the alimony recipient—the party with best access to the facts.

If an alimony recipient is cohabiting, the effect of that cohabitation cannot be removed by ending the cohabitation after a claim for termination of alimony is made. If that were the law, there would be little point in terminating alimony upon cohabitation at all, as alimony recipients would simply cease cohabitation whenever the rule is invoked.

So, if you are receiving alimony that terminates upon remarriage, cohabitation may also be included as a terminable event.

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and says shackin’ up can be expensive.

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Guilty of Domestic Violence? = No Custody.

Divorce, family conflict and high emotion can sometimes lead to domestic violence, and sometimes domestic violence leads to high emotion, family conflict and divorce.  In addition to Domestic Violence being a crime, the perpetrator of family violence is presumed to be unfit for custody by law.

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Mississippi Law provides that a parent with a history of family violence shall not have custody.  MCA Section 93-5-24 (9) applies to “every proceeding where the custody of a child is in dispute.  The court may find a history of perpetrating family violence if the court finds, by a preponderance of the evidence, one (1) incident of family violence that has resulted in serious bodily injury to, or a pattern of family violence against, the party making the allegation or a family household member of either party. The court shall make written findings to document how and why the presumption was or was not triggered.  Miss. Code Ann. § 93-5-24 (9)(a)(1).

Once proof of family violence is offered and findings of family violence is made by the court, the following must be enforced by the Court.

  1. That “there shall be a rebuttable presumption that it is detrimental to the child and not in the best interest of the child to be placed in…physical custody of a parent who has a history of perpetrating family violence.”
  2. That the Court “shall make written findings to document…why the presumption was or was not triggered.
  3. That the presumption… be rebutted only by a preponderance of the evidence.
  4. That the six factors set forth in the statute be considered in determining whether the presumption was overcome. Miss. Code Ann. § 93-5-24 (9)(a)(iii)(1-6)  
    •  1.  Whether the perpetrator demonstrated that gaining custody …is in the best interest of the child because of the other parent’s absence, mental illness, substance abuse or such other circumstances;

    • 2.  Whether the perpetrator  completed a  treatment program;

    • 3.  Whether the perpetrator  completed  alcohol or drug abuse counseling;

    • 4.  Whether the perpetrator completed a parenting class;

    • 5.  If the perpetrator is on probation, whether he or she is restrained by order, and whether he  has complied with conditions; and

      6.  Whether the perpetrator has committed any further acts of domestic violence.

  5. That the Court “make written findings…why the presumption was or was not rebutted.”
  6.  That if both parents had a history of family violence, that custody “be awarded solely to the parent less likely to continue to perpetrate family violence.”
  7. That the Court “award visitationonly if the court finds that adequate provision for the safety of the child and the parent who is a victim can be made.”

It is error for the  Court to not address the statutory requirements upon a showing of family violence.  Lawrence v. Lawrence, 956 So.2d 251 (Miss. App. 2006).

It is clear that the statute applies to all child custody matters.  93-5-24 (9) applies to “every proceeding where the custody of a child is in dispute.” Id.   Additionally, the statute contains no requirement that a party ask for its application. Instead, the statute requires a mandatory duty to make findings as to whether or not the presumption was or was not triggered by the history of family violence.  Lawrence v. Lawrence, 956 So.2d 251 (Miss. App. 2006).

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and cautions clients that violence makes everything worse.

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How NOT to Ask for Free Advice; Tips for On-Line Lawyer Q&A

There are a number of free, on-line Q&A opportunities for unrepresented persons to pose general questions of law and have lawyers answers those questions.  This is really in the form of a public service and the responses do not create an attorney-client relationship, nor are they considered legal advice.  But, they do prove helpful. (Examples include; AVVO, Law Q A, LawGuru, LawZam, JustAnAnswer)

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However, I have noticed several trends by Askers of the questions that result in no responses.  Below are just a few of “what not to say.”

  • DO NOT start the Question with “I am __ (age 13-17 ).
    • You won’t get a response if you are a young’un, and if you are older than that it probably is not a necessary fact for the Q&A.
  • DO NOT start the Question “I ain’t got no money, but….”
    • We already assume that. You’re posting on a free Q&A.
  • DO NOT start the Question with “My attorney said ____, but…
    • We know what you want (I want you to say what I wanted to hear, instead of what he said)…” We won’t.
  • DO NOT start the Question with “Don’t you attorneys have to do free cases or pro bono cases…”
    • We do, but it does not have to be your case.
  • DO NOT use ALL CAPS, ALL THE TIME. IT IS PERCEIVED AS YELLING, IS POOR SOCIAL INTERNET MANNERS AND MAKES IT MORE DIFFICULT AND PAINFUL TO READ YOUR QUESTIONS.
  • DO NOT use terrible grammar.  It’s not an English Composition exam, but it needs to be coherent.  Sentences should have a beginning AND an end.  There should be multiple sentences, but…
  • DO NOT write a novel.
  • DO NOT leave out necessary facts.
    • If you’re question is about how much child support you will receive  have an idea on the paying parent’s income.  If you don’t have an idea, how would the lawyer?
  • DO NOT ask the same question multiple times.

Finally, a free Q&A is not an excuse to not hire an attorney when you need one.  After all, the saying you get what you pay for comes from somewhere.

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and cautions those that use the free Q&A sites to be careful, you might get what you pay for.

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