Category Archives: Marriage

Don’t get re-Married on the same day that you got Divorced.

Finding that one, true soulmate is magical. However, it does not mean you should immediately marry them.

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Do not get married to your true love on the same day that you got divorced from the first mistake.  Just don’t. Yes it’s legal, assuming the divorce was done right. But, it makes your anniversary also your divorceaversary. While starting anew is a great thing. Starting anew a little bit slower is a better thing.

Matthew Thompson is a divorce lawyer and wants you to get re-married, but does not think you should do it on the same day that your divorce became final.

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McLaurin Retains Bench

Sitting Chancery Judge John McLaurin cruised to victory in Tuesday’s election, garnering over 75% of the vote. No small feat since about half of the time one litigant in his Courtroom could easily end up very dissatisfied. The citizens of Rankin County did well to retain Judge McLaurin.

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John C. McLaurin, Jr.  

Votes 40,998   75.97%

Jim Nix 

Votes 12,747   23.62 %

WRITE‐IN Votes (presumptively for Matthew Thompson)

Votes 222     .41%

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#1 Rule for Witnesses

Show up.

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If you have Court and your testimony matters, show up. If the issues before the Court impact you in a “bigly” manner, show up. Rarely is a good outcome achieved in your absence, and no amount of explanation will be sufficient if you weren’t there to witness it for yourself.

When you do show up, tell the truth.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law Attorney in Mississippi and reminds you that 99% of the time that good results are earned, it is, in part, due to the fact that you showed up.

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Take a Break. 

You’ve tried it your way multiple times and are still getting the same results. Give it a rest. 


Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. 

Life does not always go as planned. Rolling with the punches is sometimes necessary. But if you find yourself in the same predicament again and again, stop. 

I routinely hear of issues between persons that continue to come up. If you find yourself in that situation stop what you’re doing. 

Child Testimony No-no; When having your child testify is the Wrong move.

Sometimes family law is the pits.

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You are in the fight of your life against the one person who promised before God and everybody to always love and cherish you. Where’s the love now?

But dragging others into the fight may be the wrong move. I routinely see parents wanting to bring the kids in to testify, while stating that they do not want to bring the kids in to testify. Kind of a sorry-not sorry attitude.

Child testimony is permissible.  There are some Gate-keeping obligations of the Court to apply prior to actual testimony being allowed. There are also various methods used by various Judges on taking child testimony. However, more basic than the trustworthiness of the testimomy and whether it should be in chambers or in open Court, is whether the child should be in that position at all.

The Mississippi Supreme Court stated, “We reiterate that parents in a divorce proceeding should if at all possible refrain from calling any of the children of their marriage…as witnesses, and counsel should advise their clients against doing so except in the most exigent cases.” Jethrow v. Jethrow, 571 So. 2d 270, 274 (Miss. 1990).

If there are not exigent circumstances, i.e.; abuse, criminal activity involving the child, physically dangerous activity and there is no other means to corroborate these facts, testimony may be required, but if it’s run of the mill dad did this or didn’t do that, or dad let the girlfriend give her a makeover, or mom’s boyfriend took them to Chik-fil-a, and these persons are not dangerous persons nor prohibited from being around per a Court Order, child testimony should be avoided.

Think about it from the child’s perspective, not your own. Your job is to do what is best for them, every time.

Matthew Thompson is a Child Custody attorney and cautions you on relying on child testimony when it’s not necessary.

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Burn the Couch!

Sometimes cleaning up the scene of the crime helps the healing process.

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I previously wrote about  knowing too much of the dirty details may make forgiveness impossible.  Knowing the who, what, where, and when and other dirt can mess with your mind and trigger PTSD-like symptoms.

However, sometimes you cannot forget and you may have a daily reminder in the living room. You are left with 3 options:

  1. You can choose to forgive. 
  2. You can choose NOT to forgive. 
  3. You can BURN the Couch.

Forgiveness takes time, choosing not to forgive takes a commitment, burning the couch takes a lighter.*

Matthew Thompson is a Mississippi Divorce Attorney and reminds you that if you are going to burn the couch, do so outside, in a safe manner and in full compliance of all applicable laws.*

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The Last Word: Mississippi, HB1523 and the icing on the cake.

 

It’s the law.  Mississippi HB1523 was signed into law on Tuesday morning by Governor Phil Bryant.  Afterwards he took to the airwaves to explain his reasons for doing so.

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This bill prevented “government from interfering with people of faith who are exercising their religious beliefs …in matters of marriage…[t]his bill does not create one action against any class or group of people. It doesn’t create a new action or a new defense of an action against those people.” Governor Bryant.  The Governor said it would not allow the discrimination of anyone.

The firestorm prior to, during and immediately after is still reverberating throughout the Country.  If you are in favor of this law, you do not care.

Travel to Mississippi has been banned by 4 states and 7 cities. If you are in favor of this law, you do not care.

CEOs and attorneys of major tech industries have expressed their disappointment in Mississippi, such as Microsoft, IBM and Salesforce. If you are in favor of this law, you do not care.

The legislators who wrote and proposed this law have been publicly listed.  One legislator who voted for it, two days later, his major tech corporation came out against it. Irony is like sweat in Mississippi. Ever present.

Passionate pleas and positions on FaceBook have been staked out. Though no one’s mind has ever been changed by a FaceBook post it provides a barometer of public sentiment. Some of the posts are absurd, irreverent and wrong. One in particular, by a lawyer, stated conclusively the law was constitutional, but to claim so you first had to set aside the finding that there is a fundamental right to marriage.  Complete nonsense. That fact is no longer up for debate.

The debate essentially centers around at least two competing interests.  Those in favor of the law – state that a small business owner, hardworking, toiling and of strong Christian conviction should not lose their business and livelihood due to getting sued for not baking a cake for a gay wedding. Those opposed to the law – state that this law affords no protections to a class in need of protection. The First Amendment prohibits the federal government from making a law “respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof.” This provision was later expanded to state and local governments, through the Incorporation of the Fourteenth Amendment.

This state law demands the respecting of an establishment of religion. It specifically allows state employees to discriminate against other citizens based upon a “sincerely held religious belief” or “moral conviction.” This means that the State employee whose job is to issue marriage licenses can refuse because they do not approve of your proposed spouse.

The intent is to prevent same-sex marriage, but it also prevents persons who were previously divorced from being married, persons pregnant out-of-wedlock who seek to be married, those that have had a child out of wedlock, and those having sex out of wedlock from getting married. These facts, by the way, are not an interpretation. It appears that most of the supporters of the law either don’t know how far it goes or don’t care to discuss the fact it demands the respecting of an establishment of religion by the State.

Interestingly, there has not been a reported instance of a small business in the State of Mississippi being sued or facing any consequences for refusing service to same-sex persons prior to this law. The Oregon case where a baker had a money judgment entered against him was due to the admitted violation of an Oregon State law and aggravating factors, such as the baker published the Complaintant’s name, home address and personal phone number on the internet. FaceBook no less. The money damages were for violating Oregon State law and the emotional distress that accompanied the intended private complaint being publicly posted.

One local Mississippi baker, Mitchell Moore of Cambell’s Bakery, whose interview with NPR went viral, stated, “I don’t think that there is such a thing as a deeply held religious belief that you should not serve people. There is no sincerely held religious belief to think that I am better than other people – to think that my sin is different than other people. And so I am a deeply Christian man, and those go counter to my belief system.Mitchell Moore 4/6/16 interview with NPR.

With respect to the Governor’s comments, that this law prevents “government from interfering with people of faith who are exercising their religious beliefs … in matters of marriage.” It actually allows the government to interfere. 

“It does not create one action against any class or group of people”  It specifically allows a state employee’s subjective belief to deny another citizen a right afforded by the U.S. Constitution and contradictory State Law.  

“It would not allow the discrimination of anyone.” It specifically allows for discrimination and actually protects the person doing the discrimination under the color of law.

This law violates the 1st and 14th Amendments to the Constitution. It will be struck down. It allows the State to discriminate against you and/or someone you know and love, based upon a subjective belief that can change depending on who is seeking that State employee to do their job. Private businesses were not in need of protection, nor are State employees in need of protection from following the law that they have sworn to uphold.

Matthew Thompson is an Adjunct Professor at MC Law and a Divorce Attorney encouraging you to believe in your beliefs, but follow the law.

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Tip of the Day:”Hott Sexxy Gurl”

If your email or text signature ends with Emojis and
Hott Sexxy Gurl,” it’s time for a change.

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In a Family Law situation you will be judged. You will be judged by the Judge, as that is his/her job. You will be judged by the other party’s attorney, the Guardian Ad Litem, and, frankly, every other person you come into contact with.

If every email ends in “😉 Hott Sexxy Gurl,” you will be judged. Rightly or wrongly, you will be judged.

Change your email and text signatures. It could just be your first name. Also, get a new email address if it’s “CuteBunnyLove@aol.com” or “JuneLovesJohnny@gmail.com.” One, you do not want to be reminded that June no longer loves Johnny and, two, it’s no longer cute.

Will it really make a difference? One would hope not, but why leave it to chance. It’s an easy quick change and it cannot hurt your case.

Sincerely,

Matthew

Matthew Thompson is a Child Custody  Attorney in Mississippi and reminds you that you are being judged.

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