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Red Flags of an Affair

Warning signs to look for…

Warning signs that may show that your significant other may be seeing another!

  • A Secret Cell Phone.  They have a 2nd phone without a need or the other phone is secret.
  • Change in Attire.  The spouse is dressing in trendier clothes or “younger” or more “revealing” clothes.
  • New Undies.  Provocative undergarments appear that you don’t see in use.
  • Working out.  A sudden change in their workout regimen, without a scare from the Dr. and it’s not New Year’s Day.
  • Body Grooming.  Manscaping, or new cologne, perfumes, etc.
  • Body Augmentation.  Having lifts or lipos.
  • Longer Work Hours.  Having to work late, a lot more often, and out-of-town travel when they previously did not.
  • Unexplained Absences.  Going to the store for some milk and being gone 6 hours.
  • Bad On-Line Habits.  Surfing at all hours of the night, deleting the browser history.
  • FaceBooking Old Flames.

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and admits while these signs can certainly exist with nothing going on, that if 3 or more are happening Watch Out!

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“What Rhymes with Hug Me?” (hey, hey, hey)

Robin Thicke has a song out called Blurred Lines.

In the song he sings about sending mixed signals and how a response intended to mean one thing can be interpreted or mean another to the receiver.

Are your communications with your spouse doing the same thing?

Communication is critical.  It’s critical in a healthy relationship and it’s critical in the aftermath.  I have seen many, many post separation communications be misinterpreted and then used against the sending party. Email and text messages do not connote tone.  Glib comments, being cute or even a smart aleck can easily be inferred or not.

Also, too much communication leads to mixed signals, mixed emotions, false hope and opportunity for your words to be used against you.  Usually, I recommend limited communications and that those be about the children or emergencies, or course.  Sometimes, however, I recommend no contact.  You hired attorneys, let them do it.

Don’t blur the lines.

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and while Blurred Lines may be a catchy song, blurred lines of communication can lead to trouble.

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The DIRT!** (24 Dirty Deeds in Family Law)

One of the unique things about my profession is that I routinely get paid to discuss the embarrassing, wild and sometimes just ignorant things people do.

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The DIRT is/are the things that the other side says you did, even if you did not do them; substance abuse, crimes, non-payment, hateful things…

What cannot be stressed enough is that you have to be honest and forthright with your attorney. If you hold something back and do not disclose the full story it can come back to bite you. Being bitten could mean not getting custody, having to pay attorney’s fees, going to jail or any combination of these.

What are Examples of Dirt you ask?

  • 1) Instances of substance abuse,
  • 2) DUIs,
  • 3) Public Drunks,
  • 4) Child Endangerment charges for DUI with the children present,
  • 5) Arrests for assault,
  • 6) Battery,
  • 7)Crimes of moral turpitude or
  • 8) Violence,
  • 9) Substance abuse, even if not caught,
  • 10) Knowing you would test “hot” or “positive” for an illegal drug or
  • 11) Prescription drug for which you do not have a prescription.
  • 12) And not telling your attorney any of the above is dangerous, even if they don’t ask. Sometimes we don’t know or think to ask if you
  • 13) Are on probation from any crime.
  • 14) Is there a no contact Order against you,
  • 15) Domestic violence charges pending,
  • 16) Active warrants for your arrest,
  • 17) Suspended license.
  • 18) Are you under investigation?
  • 19) Meth lab in the garage,
  • 20) Not to mention having a paramour, an affair,
  • 21) Multiple affairs,
  • 22) Paying for your mistresses’ vacation,
  • 23) Buying the mistresses’ child a car, or
  • 24) Expending large sums of money on frivolous things.

These are just 24 examples of DIRT that I saw…last week. These dirty deeds may be done dirt cheap, but it’s going to cost you to clean it up!

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and can only attempt to clean up the DIRT that the client admits.

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Happy Anniversary; The “Secret” to Wedded Bliss.

My parents recently celebrated their 45th wedding anniversary!

As I was inquiring about how long it “felt,” I was struck by the fact it was literally longer than a lifetime for my two brothers and me.  I was asking dad about his “advice” and he recounted that in those 45 years that mom “never forget anything.”  Mom laughed out loud.  That’s LOL for the texting generation.

What I did NOT get were the clichés of never going to bed angry, that they just grew apart, or that us moving out(the kids) left them with nothing in common.  So what did I takeaway from that?  Keep a sense of humor.  It was a big part of my life growing up.  Laughing at yourself and others, primarily others. The cliché that did work and that is still working “laughter is the best medicine.”

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Paternity; Determining Baby Daddy

Paternity…Filiation…Who’s Your Daddy, whatever you call it, it’s the process where the Court determines who the biological father is and what his rights and obligations are.

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Mississippi Law provides a number of statutes dealing with the Law on Paternity. Miss. Code Ann. 93-9- 1, et seq.

93-9-7 provides that the father of a child born out-of-wedlock is liable to the same extent as the father of a child born of lawful matrimony.  The father can be liable for the “reasonable expenses of the mother’s pregnancy and confinement, and for the education, support, maintenance and medical expenses related to the child.”  Additionally, a father can be liable for past support and maintenance for a period of one year prior to the filing of the paternity action.  The father may also be ordered to pay the mother’s reasonable attorney fees.

Either the mother, the father, or any public authority chargeable by law with the support of the child may bring a paternity suit.  This is what allows DHS to pursue these matters.  The statute provides that once paternity is established the child shall have the surname of the father.

These actions may be brought in Chancery Court, Circuit Court or County Court, though most often are brought in Chancery.

Any agreements between the mother and father must be approved by the Court to be enforceable.  A voluntary acknowledgement of paternity by a father is subject to a one year limit to challenge paternity.  After one year, the only way to set aside a paternity Order is to show fraud, duress or material mistake and that you are not the father.  Be careful about this.  I always recommend a DNA/blood test, even if you “know.”  If you are wrong you may still end up on the hook financially.

Also, if you find yourself in a paternity suit be sure to file for a determination of custody and visitation.  DHS will not always do this and you could end up with financial obligations and no specific rights to see your child.

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and encourages you to hire an attorney if you find yourself in a paternity case.

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Want Unconditional Love? Get a Puppy.

A happy, healthy husband-wife relationship is a wonderful thing. Though some would argue, increasingly rare.

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Due to various reasons that relationship can break down. Recently, I was inquiring about the reasons for the breakdown of a marriage and it came down to the feeling of the lack of unconditional love (UL).

Upon some additional questions I learned that UL, in this instance, meant something to the effect of, “I can do whatever I want, and you HAVE to love me…” Or stated in less offensive terms, “while I may not always put you first, I NEED to always be put first.”

I thought that’s not really UL. Then I thought, how can a relationship on this Earth between a husband and a wife, or any relationship between consenting adults really be one based upon UL? If it really was UL, would that be a healthy relationship? Would the receiver of UL fully appreciate what they are getting? Would the giver of UL ever be satisfied?

UL is what a puppy gives. ALWAYS happy to see you. Always eager to please. Cannot wait to be with you again and cute as the dickens. But even puppies get tired and poop on the floor…

Want the closest thing to unconditional love? Get a puppy. Want a healthy relationship? It takes work, mutual companionship and a desire to make it last.

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Attorneys are a lot like Sunscreen

I am attending the MS Bas Convention in sunny Sandestin for the next several days.

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This is where the new officers are installed and the general business of the state lawyers association is handled.

It is also a welcomed respite from the hustle and bustle that go along with law practice.

As I am watching the sunny skies, the crashing waves, the airplanes and the people it reminds me that you need sunscreen.

It seems a divorce attorney is a lot like sunscreen; kind of a hassle to deal with, could be messy, but is protection from a much later and bigger problem.

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and reminds you to wear your sunscreen.

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Why I Like the Fist Bump.

A Fist Bump is a hand gesture similar in meaning to a handshake or high-five, used as a greeting or in a celebratory fashion.

“The gesture is performed when two participants each form a closed fist with one hand and then lightly tap the front of their fists together. The participant’s fists may be either vertically oriented (perpendicular to the ground) or horizontally oriented.” Wikipedia

The history of the fist bump is as great as the gesture itself!  One origin has the fist bump being “invented” by Stan Musial, a.k.a. “Stan the Man”, the greatest St. Louis Cardinal to ever don a baseball jersey.  There are other theories, but I like this one.

Recently I suffered a minor cut to my hand while doing some home maintenance.  This injury, while minor, just so happened to be in a place prone to being squeezed in a hand shake.  It aggravated the injury, and me, upon a handshake.  I thought to myself, “How can I show a greeting or celebration in a manner similar to a handshake or a high-five? Aha, the fist bump!”

In my opinion the fist bump is here to stay, for the following reasons;

  • safer than a handshake or high-five
  • more hygienic
  • looks cooler
  • able to do with either hand
  • more efficient
  • invented by Stan Musial

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and had an epiphany regarding fist bumps after a recent minor injury due to routine home maintenance.  Matthew recommends that the fist bump be more commonly used and to wear gloves when doing routine home maintenance.

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