Category Archives: Marriage

The Goode Olde Daze!

03/02/2015 BowTieLawyer 1 Comment

Let’s wax nostalgic…

We always hear about “the Good Ol’ Days.” Times past when the world moved at a slower pace and was safer place. The air fresher, the sun shinier, and the water more pure. People got along better, rainbows were more colorful and every town was like Mayberry.

Hogwash!

The good old days were not amazingly different than today. There was less technology and less mass media, but otherwise the same struggles, pressures, vices, temptations and conflict existed.

Those clamoring for the good old days are really clamoring for reliving their childhood. Being young, carefree, and blissfully ignorant made for the times we reminisce about. Sure there were specific and momentous events in the past that were exciting and by virtue of being new were exciting, but new discoveries and excitement happen every day.

People tend to remember things more fondly than they really were. That school teacher that you could not wait to be rid of was the best one ever. That camping trip that you cursed taking because of the torrential rain and the 13-mile hike, which was 17 because you got lost, were amazingly fun- 5 years later.

The good old days..or rather daze, is the fog of memory. These days, right now, are the Good Days. Make the most of it before the get old.

Matthew Thompson is an Attorney practicing Family Law in Mississippi and reminds you that these are the Good Days!

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Child Custody, Divorce, General Legal, Irreconcilable differences, Marriage

The Worst Fault Grounds Ever = A Divorce.

02/26/2015 BowTieLawyer 1 Comment

Emotional abuse, verbal abuse, multiple affairs are all grounds for divorce in Mississippi.

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But, what if your spouse was really bad? What if they said, as my grandmother-in-law used to say, “both words?” IE: “I was so mad that I said ‘both words!'” What if you had really, really bad grounds and lots of it?

That gets you a divorce.

One affair or 1,000= a divorce. Being incarcerated for 1 year or for life = a divorce. Abandonment and the other grounds, if proven, gain you a divorce.

Here’s what Fault does not equate too. “Getting taken to the cleaners.”

A mother having an affair does not lose custody because of that fact alone. A father who cheats does not have to pay the wife due to that fact alone. The Court, instead, looks at the totality of the circumstances. If you are a good parent despite your fault you will still get to see your child. If it was a short marriage or your spouse makes more than you, you will not have to pay a boat load just because you messed up. Courts do not “punish” you financially for affairs, usually.

Just because you messed up does not mean you have to continue messing up. Just because you messed up does not mean you will pay for it the rest of your days. But, if you are messing up Stop now and call an attorney.

Matthew Thompson is an Attorney practicing Divorce Law in Mississippi and may can help you even if you really, really messed up.

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Child Custody, Crime, Divorce, General Legal, Marriage, Pets

It’s NOT the Lawyer’s Fault that You Don’t See Your Kids

01/12/2015 BowTieLawyer 1 Comment

But, for that d@#^lawyer!

I hear this a lot. “My life was great until my lying ex and her d@#^ Attorney messed it all up!”

Right.

It was all peachy until you;

Had an Affair; or
Physically Assaulted Your Spouse; or
Habitually Abused Illegal Drugs; or
Threatened Physical Violence; or
Took Your Children and Refused to Return Them or Disclose Their Location; or
Refused to Support Your Family; or
All of the Above, and then some…

Is life fair? Certainly NOT. Do your actions directly impact the quality of that life? You better believe it. So maybe your lying ex and her d@#^ attorney are NOT totally to blame.

Do What has Been Ordered of You
Be the Best Parent you Can be
Don’t Threaten, Harass, or Make False Allegations

Matthew Thompson is a Child Custody Litigation Attorney in Mississippi and believes that you reap what you sow.

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Child Custody, Divorce, Marriage, Opinion

Don’t Make Up Stuff About Your Ex.

01/09/2015 BowTieLawyer Leave a comment

It can be fun to “run them down the road” or “throw ’em under the bus,” figuratively speaking, of course.

They were, after-all, mostly responsible for the worst thing that happened to you as an adult. (Or the best, if you consider you no longer live with that cretin?)

But, why make stuff up about how bad they were? It serves no purpose. Recently, I heard the other side of the story from a friend of the ex. It was chock full of outrageous conduct, statements and actions- some criminal, that were just not true.

I thought, “Wow, if he was that bad I would have divorced him too!”

However, the conduct, statements and actions were not true. I know because I deposed the ex during the case. I asked, under oath, about all the dirty deeds. They were not mentioned.

People seem to have one of two predispositions. 1) We remember things better than they were, ie: childhood years, college days, or 2) We remember things much worse than they were, ie: “he never loved me.”

Making things up about your ex may be fun, but it serves no purpose and delays the “healing process.” It also may backfire down the road when you finally forgive and resume some semblance of a relationship.

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce Litigation Lawyer in Mississippi and believes the truth can set you free.

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Divorce, Marriage, Opinion

How Cold is Your Ex’s “Cold, Dark Soul?”

01/08/2015 BowTieLawyer Leave a comment

On the drive in to the office this morning I heard our local Meteorologist, Brad Maushart, say…

“It is colder than your Ex’s cold, dark soul…”

The official low was 13 degrees!

So, How Cold is Your Ex’s “Cold, Dark Soul?”

Approximately 14-15 degrees!

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce Lawyer in Jackson, Mississippi and can help bring the heat if your relationship is too cold to survive.

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Divorce, Marriage, Opinion

One Divorce, Two Divorce, Three Divorce…The Third Time is not the Charm, Even for a Billionaire

01/06/2015 BowTieLawyer 1 Comment

Elon Musk, Justine Musk and Talulah Riley, names you don’t know and probably don’t care about. Their marriages and divorces, however, provide a unique look into money, power, spaceships and electric cars.

Elon Musk is a billionaire, co-founder of PayPal, Tesla and SpaceX. He is three times divorced. Once from his “starter wife,” Justine Musk and twice from his “trophy wife” aka “soul mate” Talulah Riley.

Justine Musk is a writer, blogger and mother-of-five. Elon gave her an ultimatum some-years into their marriage. “Fix this today or I am divorcing you tomorrow…” Justine, as part of the divorce, sought “The house; alimony and child support; $6 million cash; 10 percent of his stock in Tesla; 5 percent of his stock in (ed: space transport company) SpaceX (and he retains all voting rights) and a Tesla Roadster (I really, really want one …).” A seemingly paltry sum for a billionaire.

Talulah Riley married Elon twice. Once in 2010, approximately ten minutes after his first divorce and again in 2013. Elon and Talulah divorced in 2012, and Talulah received an estimated $4.2 million and a year or so thereafter their romance rekindled. It was short-lived however, as Elon filed for divorce in December of 2014. This time Talulah is looking at a reported $16 million dollar settlement.

So, what do we learn from this? No amount of money guarantees a happy marriage. One should never use the terms “starter wife” or “trophy wife.” Neither Spaceships nor Electric cars are the secret to a healthy relationship.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law Attorney in Mississippi and can help guide the division of spaceships and electric cars in your next divorce.

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