Category Archives: Opinion

SpeakerPhone Faux Pas; Advise if it’s “OK” to Speak Freely!

Our hands free devices, speaker phones and Bluetooth devices make connecting super convenient.  They also make it super easy to speak out of turn!

That inappropriate joke, the slew of curse words that you harangue your old college buddy with may not be appropriate over the Bluetooth speakers in the minivan.

Likewise, conversations between you and your attorney may not be appropriate to have in a public place or in front of others, even if they are not curse-filled diatribes. The fact that another person is present means the information they heard is not protected by attorney-client privilege.

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce and Family Law Attorney in Mississippi and reminds you to respect the duck and ask if it’s ok to speak freely.

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Fake It Until You Make; Why Pretending Like You Care Now Helps You in the Future.

Law school class attendance is mandatory per the ABA, at least a certain percentage of class meetings. Yet a number of students treat it as if it is optional. However, attending now will pay dividends later.

I have been an adjunct professor since 2013. I graduated from MC Law in 2005, and my attitude was likely much like yours. The classes I enjoyed, I went to most of the time and the ones I did not I may have missed a time or two.

Having practiced law for over a decade, taught over 135 students and having founded and managed my own law firm, a few things have stood out. 

You should to go to class. You should be prepared. You should participate and you should care. And, if you cannot do these things, fake it. While you cannot fake attendance, you can fake the rest. You can act like you care and participate in class discussions.

Recently, I was contacted by a former classmate, who is the managing partner of a regional firm. They were looking to make an immediate hire and had a number of resumes. Of the ones that attended MC, the lawyer asked me if I knew “so-and-so.” I knew all of the MC candidates. They wanted the scoop. I gave it.

Candidate X. Great student, participated in class, cared, good attitude. They would be a good fit.

Candidate Y. Good student, tried hard, attended class, participated. You would be fine hiring this one.

Candidate Z. Vaguely remember the name. Took my class, at least I’m pretty sure they did. I don’t remember anything distinguishable about that person.

If you need any more motivation to care or pretend like you do, then I hope your uncle is the managing partner of the regional firm so you will at least get an interview.

Matthew Thompson is the Founder of Thompson Law Firm, pllc, an Adjunct Professor of Law, an MC Law Alum and wears bow ties to court. You can learn more about the firm at http://www.BowTieLawyer.MS

Sometimes you Just Can’t Stay Friends…

“Lets just be friends.” 

We’re all adults here, right? Sure, we think we can remain friends even if our partnership didn’t work out, but sometimes you cannot stay friends. It’s too hard. It brings up the same issues that made the partnership not work.

It does not mean you have to be enemies. It does not mean you have a nemesis and have to hate each other, but staying friends can be hard.

Having and keeping a relationship is hard work. Both have to be committed to make it go. If one is not, it will not work.

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce and Family Law Attorney in Mississippi and reminds you that there are approximately 7 billion people on the planet. There are plenty of other persons that can be your friend.

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The Hardest Check to Return; Paying Your Alimony Early and the Pitfalls of “Acceptance”?

Harold Hamm, oil tycoon of Continental Resources sent his ex a check for $974.8 million!

However, she rejected the check delivered to her lawyers.

Hamm immediately sent the full cash value of what a divorce ruling by an Oklahoma County judge determined he owed.  The check was refused because “Ms. Arnall did not want to risk the dismissal of her appeal by acceptance of the benefits.”

Reports indicated that Mr. Hamm was worth some $18 billion and Ms. Arnall’s near-billion dollar payoff seemed paltry to she and her legal team, hence her appeal of the Court’s ruling.

That would be a hard check not to accept!

*Ultimately she did accept the payment and her appeal was dismissed.

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce and Alimony Attorney in Mississippi and reminds you that the #1 rule, when we’re fighting over stuff and not people, is to take the money.

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The Problem With People; Why Relying on Others for Your Happiness is Destined to Fail

Mankind is not perfect. Human beings constantly mess up, disappoint and let others down. This is a fact.Untitled

The #1 way to guaranty disappointment is to rely on someone else for your satisfaction.  The old adage “if you want something done right, do it yourself” is sage advice. If you find yourself constantly frustrated, irritated and aggrieved, stop and examine why.

Everyday, I see people let down by the very ones that promised to never let them down, contractually obligated to act right and they still do NOT. People will let you down.  Plan accordingly.

Matthew Thompson is a Mississippi Family Law Attorney and is not as cynical as you may think. However, relying on others for your own self-worth is a mistake and will lead to disappointment.

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The Secret to Unconditional Love Revealed!

The search for your soulmate can be that epic hunt that novels, movies and romantic sonnets are made of.

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But, the one sure-fire way to attain unconditional love is …

Get a Puppy.

Otherwise it takes time, work, effort, commitment, give-and-take, risk and uncertainty. A puppy is much easier and guaranteed.

Matthew Thompson is a Mississippi Family Law Attorney and dog admirer. Also, don’t really get a puppy unless you are prepared to commit to that too, as it does take work and commitment, but the love is guaranteed, or your honey back!

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The #1 Way to Make Things Better? STOP making the same bad decisions…

Albert Einstein is credited with saying that Insanity is “doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

Whether he said it or not, the premise holds true in family law. If you keep making the same bad decisions you will continue to get the same bad results.

Illegal substance use or alcohol abuse, not paying your Court-Ordered obligations, and ignoring legal proceedings all lead to more trouble, more expenses and bad results.

So what can you do? STOP.

Stop using illegal drugs. Stop drinking alcohol. Get help. It’s out there and worth it. Start paying your Court-Ordered support. At least pay something. Stop ignoring your lawyer. Stop ignoring the legal process. Judges love a comeback story.

Matthew Thompson is a Mississippi Divorce Attorney and advises you to stop making bad decisions.

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SECRETS REVEALED! What REALLY Goes on in the Judge’s Chambers…

In every courtroom there is a mystery door, usually in the back corner.  Within this door are the secrets of Court…

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Litigants see the Judge and Lawyers disappear into this door. What seems like an eternity later, they emerge. Is one smiling? Does one have a scowl? What does it all mean?

These “chamber conferences” matter.  This is where the Judge hears what the case is about.  Each attorney is allowed a few minutes to tell their client’s side of the story, factually.  The Court hears legal arguments as to this issue and that issue.  In this conference the Judge may indicate what they are inclined to do.  This is actually a good thing, usually.

You find out whether or not you are fighting a losing battle, or whether there will even be a fight.

I had a case where the parties were fighting over “Legal Custody.” Legal custody is the decision making right regarding the child, such as education, medical and general welfare areas.  It’s extremely common for the parties to have Joint Legal Custody.  However, this particular lawyer and client would not agree to Joint Legal Custody.  It was about 2 minutes of discussion and the Judge said, “I almost always do Joint Legal Custody, unless there is a really good reason not to.”  There was not a good reason. That resolved the last remaining issue.

Sometimes the conferences go against you.  That causes questions of doubt between the lawyer and client. “Did my lawyer fight for my side?” You have to trust your lawyer and believe them. Also, they should advise you that the Judge indicated they were inclined to rule this way, but we can still have a hearing and we may be able to convince them otherwise. Probably not, but we may be able to. Ultimately, it is the client’s decision.

Usually, conferences help. It’s not underhanded nor improper if lawyers for both parties are participating.

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and usually welcomes Chamber Conferences.