Category Archives: General Legal

Fake It Until You Make; Why Pretending Like You Care Now Helps You in the Future.

Law school class attendance is mandatory per the ABA, at least a certain percentage of class meetings. Yet a number of students treat it as if it is optional. However, attending now will pay dividends later.

I have been an adjunct professor since 2013. I graduated from MC Law in 2005, and my attitude was likely much like yours. The classes I enjoyed, I went to most of the time and the ones I did not I may have missed a time or two.

Having practiced law for over a decade, taught over 135 students and having founded and managed my own law firm, a few things have stood out. 

You should to go to class. You should be prepared. You should participate and you should care. And, if you cannot do these things, fake it. While you cannot fake attendance, you can fake the rest. You can act like you care and participate in class discussions.

Recently, I was contacted by a former classmate, who is the managing partner of a regional firm. They were looking to make an immediate hire and had a number of resumes. Of the ones that attended MC, the lawyer asked me if I knew “so-and-so.” I knew all of the MC candidates. They wanted the scoop. I gave it.

Candidate X. Great student, participated in class, cared, good attitude. They would be a good fit.

Candidate Y. Good student, tried hard, attended class, participated. You would be fine hiring this one.

Candidate Z. Vaguely remember the name. Took my class, at least I’m pretty sure they did. I don’t remember anything distinguishable about that person.

If you need any more motivation to care or pretend like you do, then I hope your uncle is the managing partner of the regional firm so you will at least get an interview.

Matthew Thompson is the Founder of Thompson Law Firm, pllc, an Adjunct Professor of Law, an MC Law Alum and wears bow ties to court. You can learn more about the firm at http://www.BowTieLawyer.MS

Sometimes you Just Can’t Stay Friends…

“Lets just be friends.” 

We’re all adults here, right? Sure, we think we can remain friends even if our partnership didn’t work out, but sometimes you cannot stay friends. It’s too hard. It brings up the same issues that made the partnership not work.

It does not mean you have to be enemies. It does not mean you have a nemesis and have to hate each other, but staying friends can be hard.

Having and keeping a relationship is hard work. Both have to be committed to make it go. If one is not, it will not work.

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce and Family Law Attorney in Mississippi and reminds you that there are approximately 7 billion people on the planet. There are plenty of other persons that can be your friend.

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The Problem With People; Why Relying on Others for Your Happiness is Destined to Fail

Mankind is not perfect. Human beings constantly mess up, disappoint and let others down. This is a fact.Untitled

The #1 way to guaranty disappointment is to rely on someone else for your satisfaction.  The old adage “if you want something done right, do it yourself” is sage advice. If you find yourself constantly frustrated, irritated and aggrieved, stop and examine why.

Everyday, I see people let down by the very ones that promised to never let them down, contractually obligated to act right and they still do NOT. People will let you down.  Plan accordingly.

Matthew Thompson is a Mississippi Family Law Attorney and is not as cynical as you may think. However, relying on others for your own self-worth is a mistake and will lead to disappointment.

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The #1 Way to Make Things Better? STOP making the same bad decisions…

Albert Einstein is credited with saying that Insanity is “doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

Whether he said it or not, the premise holds true in family law. If you keep making the same bad decisions you will continue to get the same bad results.

Illegal substance use or alcohol abuse, not paying your Court-Ordered obligations, and ignoring legal proceedings all lead to more trouble, more expenses and bad results.

So what can you do? STOP.

Stop using illegal drugs. Stop drinking alcohol. Get help. It’s out there and worth it. Start paying your Court-Ordered support. At least pay something. Stop ignoring your lawyer. Stop ignoring the legal process. Judges love a comeback story.

Matthew Thompson is a Mississippi Divorce Attorney and advises you to stop making bad decisions.

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SECRETS REVEALED! What REALLY Goes on in the Judge’s Chambers…

In every courtroom there is a mystery door, usually in the back corner.  Within this door are the secrets of Court…

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Litigants see the Judge and Lawyers disappear into this door. What seems like an eternity later, they emerge. Is one smiling? Does one have a scowl? What does it all mean?

These “chamber conferences” matter.  This is where the Judge hears what the case is about.  Each attorney is allowed a few minutes to tell their client’s side of the story, factually.  The Court hears legal arguments as to this issue and that issue.  In this conference the Judge may indicate what they are inclined to do.  This is actually a good thing, usually.

You find out whether or not you are fighting a losing battle, or whether there will even be a fight.

I had a case where the parties were fighting over “Legal Custody.” Legal custody is the decision making right regarding the child, such as education, medical and general welfare areas.  It’s extremely common for the parties to have Joint Legal Custody.  However, this particular lawyer and client would not agree to Joint Legal Custody.  It was about 2 minutes of discussion and the Judge said, “I almost always do Joint Legal Custody, unless there is a really good reason not to.”  There was not a good reason. That resolved the last remaining issue.

Sometimes the conferences go against you.  That causes questions of doubt between the lawyer and client. “Did my lawyer fight for my side?” You have to trust your lawyer and believe them. Also, they should advise you that the Judge indicated they were inclined to rule this way, but we can still have a hearing and we may be able to convince them otherwise. Probably not, but we may be able to. Ultimately, it is the client’s decision.

Usually, conferences help. It’s not underhanded nor improper if lawyers for both parties are participating.

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and usually welcomes Chamber Conferences.

Be the CAPTAIN of the Ship! (Or at least know how to be…)

“O’ Captain! My Captain!”

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Divorce, separation and break-ups are hard. They create situations where you have to do things that you normally did not have to do.

A recent fight over the boat brought this lesson home.  The parties had a nice boat.  Both wanted it. Stereotypes would have you to believe that the Husband was really the Captain and the Wife was posturing.  However, you would be wrong.  The wife could Captain that boat with the best of them.  Somewhat intrigued, I asked why would you Captain the boat.  The response was, “What if I did not have someone else to do it? I needed to know how...”

This is why you teach your kids how to change a flat, even in days of AAA and cell phones.

The best advice for today, “Be Your Own Captain!

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and can Captain the ship.

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Friends Don’t Let Friends Post on the Internet

We’ve blogged on not posting ignorant or incriminating things on FaceBook. (5 FaceBook Don’ts)&(5 More Don’ts).

The prior posts really dealt with you avoiding bad behavior, or at least bragging about it publicly. But, your obligation to be smart should not stop there.

You should not let your friends post hate or trash either. Using a surrogate does not insulate you from the potential carnage.  That well-meaning friend being critical of your ex, or their new squeeze, is a direct reflection of your inner thoughts, even if it’s not!

Ask that your well-meaning friend refrain.  That they not post about how evil, vile and repulsive your ex is, about how ugly, inside and out, his/her new soul mate is.  They can think it, you will probably even talk about it over Mexican and margaritas, but don’t post it on the Internet.

Matthew Thompson is a family law attorney in Mississippi and uses FaceBook and other social media sites a lot more than you probably realize.

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You may also contact Matthew with your family law case, question or concern at (601) 850-8000 or Matthew@bowtielawyer.ms

Tip of the Day: Speak with Efficiency

ef·fi·cient
(especially of a system) achieving maximum productivity with minimum wasted effort or expense.
(of a person) working in a well-organized and competent way.
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Too often in Court, depositions, and generally responding to questions, witnesses provide too much information.  In an attempt to tell the “whole truth” the facts get muddled and the point gets lost.

I routinely ask client questions that can be answered simply, but rarely get the simple, straight forward response.

“How much child support are you Ordered to pay?”

“”$750.00 per month.”

“Have you paid it?”

“Well, you see, I was going to, but my car broke down and then I was writing the check ,but she said I could’t get them…”

There may be a great explanation, but first things first. Did you pay? Are you in compliance with the Order? Yes or No? Then explain if needed. Don’t try to guess. Just answer what is asked.

A great tip for doing this is to practice with your attorney so that you know why the question is being asked. Said another way, begin with the end in mind.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law Attorney in Mississippi and wants you to tell your story, but answer the question first.

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You may also contact Matthew with your family law case, question or concern at (601) 850-8000 or Matthew@bowtielawyer.ms