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Matthew operates the Thompson Law Firm, pllc, a Mississippi based Family Law firm emphasizing; Divorce, Child Custody, Child Support, Modification, Contempt and Appeals, handling family law cases throughout Mississippi. (601) 850-8000 Matthew@bowtielawyer.ms www.BowTieLawyer.ms
Divorce, General Legal

How’s the State of Your Union?

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Recently President Obama delivered his 5th State of the Union Address to the American People, summarizing the status of the U.S.   Similarly assessing the State of Your Union is a good idea.

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A healthy relationship may be judged by how you and your significant other deal with the major areas in any relationship.

Communication

Are you listening? Yelling, silent treatment, saying what you mean, being understood.

Financial

Are you on the same page with major purchases, savings, etc.  Are job issues straining your relationship?

Intimacy

Issues of frequency, satisfaction and healthy self-images.

Conflict Resolution

How do you resolve conflicts?  Arguing the loudest does not determine a winner.

Children

To have or have not?

How’s the State of Your Union?  This list is not exhaustive, but is a good starting place. Sit down with your spouse and talk about it.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law attorney and talking with your spouse about issues in your relationship now may prevent you having to sit down and talk about it with me later!

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General Legal

Don’t Count on Shortcuts to Success

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Ah, success.  Being your own boss, no financial worries, owning three 4-wheel drive vehicles, however you define success the strive for such is a great thing and a motivator in it of itself.  But, don’t count on shortcuts to get you there.

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Common wisdom says it takes 10,00 hours to be an expert on any topic.   That is 5 years worth of 8-hour days (with weekends off).  Often, it seems we are seeking to take the shortcut to success and it’s great if it can be had, but it is not an appropriate plan to count on to get there.  Similarly, in a Family Law case clients are ready for it to be over before it even starts.  Cases must run their course in most circumstances and the process cannot be shortened, absent agreement of all parties and Court approval, which doesn’t happen in highly litigious situations.

Shortcuts, where an opportunity presents itself are to be considered and taken, but counting on shortcuts to get you where you need to be is a bad plan.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law attorney and cautions you to not count on shortcuts, but take ’em if you get ’em.

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Child Custody, Divorce, General Legal

It’s Your Fault Too.

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All too often you are lead to believe that one party is totally to blame and the other party is completely innocent.

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Well, rarely is that the case.  While one party may be more at fault, the main reason for the ultimate split and even provide actionable fault grounds for the other to use, it does not mean the other spouse is blameless.  The common sentiment is that there are 2 sides to every story. In family law there are 3 sides.  His version, her version and the truth!

If you fall into the trap of “it’s all his fault” it does a disservice to you for preparing for the outcome.  Even when it’s all his fault, you don’t take him to the cleaners.  Nobody gets taken to the cleaners anymore.  If they do, they appeal. And when the cleaners are involved these days it is because someone wants out so bad they agree to a deal that they would not get otherwise from the Court or it was the only way out.

While this topic may be touchy, and pointing fingers at the “innocent spouse” may be hazardous to my health, it is nonetheless important to know that there is usually more than enough blame to go around.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law attorney and will tell you when you messed up and when it’s your fault.

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Child Custody, Divorce, General Legal, Marriage, Opinion

Lawyers, Suicide & Family Law

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A recent report indicated that the legal profession has the 4th highest rate of suicide among professionals.

Family Law issues lead to a higher rate of depression than average and it is not uncommon for suicide threats and attempts to occur contemporaneously with Family Law matters.

If you find yourself dealing with these issues; family crisis, depression, thoughts of harming yourself or others, seek immediate help.  It does not mean you are weak.  You are human and emotions run the gamut in these situations.  Go to your Dr., seek out a Professional Counselor, your Pastor and/or talk to a lawyer or all of the above.  Oftentimes it is NOT as bad as you think and working with the right professional will aid your recovery.

Know this. Family law issues are NOT the end of your World and are NOT a reason to do something that cannot be undone.  Perhaps it’s cliché, but suicide is a permanent outcome due to a temporary problem.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law & Divorce Attorney and Counselor at Law and can help when dealing with a family law crisis.

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Divorce

Soulmates, Bigfoot & Elvis. (Vote Now)

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Much like Bigfoot, the Chupacabra and Elvis, Soulmates have been sighted but remain elusive.

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Being a divorce attorney requires an almost daily struggle with the existence of soul-mates. We all think we’ve found the “ONE” until we learn we, in fact, did not find the “ONE” and then wonder “what on Earth was I thinking?!”

Once it goes South, I hear “I never loved him/her.”  Right… After 13 years, 2 children, and many happy years, it then was “never meant to be.”  Perhaps it was meant to be for 13 years.  Regardless, in addition to seeking your soul-mate, seek the one that complements your station in life, one that is a partner, a help-mate spiritually, emotionally, financially, and in immeasurable, intangible ways.  Soul-mates may exist, but what are the chances that of the 6-7 billion people on the planet that the only one other  person in the world that completes you just so happened to live 20 minutes away…

VOTE NOW!

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Child Custody, Divorce, General Legal, Visitation

Stay “Connected” to Your Kids.

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Hello? How are you?  I miss you! I love you!

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That’s it.  If you do nothing else your kids will know that you are thinking about them, that you love them, miss them and desire a relationship.  Too often, in divorce/custody settings, it is easy to fall into the trap of “it’s not my time.”  This trap allows days and sometimes weeks go by with little to no communication.  Sometimes the other parent contributes to this or directly interferes, but you should attempt to do it anyway.

Call, email, text, FaceTime, Skype, send letters, cards, gift cards, and small gifts or trinkets.  It does not have to be expensive, an occasion or ” your time.”

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law & Divorce Attorney in the Hospitality State.  Be sure and show your child your hospitality!

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Child Custody, Child Support, Divorce, Visitation

A Parent’s #1 Obligation

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A parent has a moral and legal duty to promote a healthy, affectionate relationship between the child and the other parent!

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What?  You justify your conduct by saying, “I am not bad-mouthing him.”  But, just not bad-mouthing him is not enough.  You have an affirmative duty to promote a good relationship. (with rare exceptions for the health and safety of the child.)

Encourage, promote and truly desire a good relationship between your child and the other parent.  Your child will benefit!

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law & Divorce Attorney and reminds you that a child with two parents that get along and are involved is better than the alternative.

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Divorce

Get a Haircut!

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You have either said this, been told this or know someone who has, “Get a Haircut!”

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So why is a divorce attorney telling you to get a haircut?  Perhaps you need one, but even if you don’t, you will feel better.  There is something about getting a fresh haircut that recharges you.  It makes you look better, younger, rested and more professional, at least that’s what my mom says.

It’s relatively inexpensive depending on where you go and it is something you can do today.  Want a fresh start? Get a Haircut!

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law & Divorce Attorney and encourages you to support your local hair stylist or barber.

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