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Divorce, General Legal, Opinion

Less is More…Knowing the Dirt May Do More Harm Than Good.

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Confession is good for the Soul.

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However, what’s good for the Soul may not be so good for your marriage.  Sometimes knowing the details, deeds and dirt makes it impossible to “forgive.”  Knowing the location of the “scene of the crime” results in PTSD every time you pass by.  Knowing the name of the paramour gives you the HeeBeeGeeBees when you have a waiter/waitress with the same name.  Also, even when you know all the dirt, you still wonder if you really do.

If the goal is to attempt to reconcile and work through life’s difficulties, you may well be better served by the mantra- Less is More.

Read about “The Dirt” here, “The Book of Sins” here and more on “Reconciliation” here.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law Attorney in Mississippi and believes that sometimes ignorance is bliss. Consult your attorney, counselor or mental health professional for more info!

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I see “dead” people.

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Haley Joel Osment said it first…

http://dailycaller.com/2013/10/25/thedc-investigates-what-ever-happened-to-haley-joel-osment/

I don’t actually see dead people as much as I see “dying” relationships. Yes, I am a divorce attorney.

Everyday I see these dying relationships in various places. Of course, at the office.  Those persons scheduled an appointment, but I also see “dead” people at church, the grocery store and on the sidelines at ball games.

Family struggles do not discriminate based on race, religion, or financial status. Also, putting on the happy faces and public displays does nothing to address the underlying issues.  Those take real work.

Interestingly, a divorce attorney may can help.  While sounding counter-intuitive, an experienced Family Law attorney can not only advise you of your rights and answer your questions, but can also advise you on ways to salvage a relationship, even from the brink of “death.” Options of individual counseling, couples therapy or in some instances a good dose of reality can work to jolt attitudes and one’s willingness to try.

Being one of the “walking dead” does not doom you or your marriage so long as you recognize and work to resuscitate that relationship.

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce attorney in Mississippi and if your relationship is in need of 911 he may be the right Juris Doctor for your ailments.

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Child Custody, Divorce, General Legal, Marriage, Opinion

Lawyers, Suicide & Family Law

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A recent report indicated that the legal profession has the 4th highest rate of suicide among professionals.

Family Law issues lead to a higher rate of depression than average and it is not uncommon for suicide threats and attempts to occur contemporaneously with Family Law matters.

If you find yourself dealing with these issues; family crisis, depression, thoughts of harming yourself or others, seek immediate help.  It does not mean you are weak.  You are human and emotions run the gamut in these situations.  Go to your Dr., seek out a Professional Counselor, your Pastor and/or talk to a lawyer or all of the above.  Oftentimes it is NOT as bad as you think and working with the right professional will aid your recovery.

Know this. Family law issues are NOT the end of your World and are NOT a reason to do something that cannot be undone.  Perhaps it’s cliché, but suicide is a permanent outcome due to a temporary problem.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law & Divorce Attorney and Counselor at Law and can help when dealing with a family law crisis.

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Child Custody, Divorce, Opinion

Dealing with Disappointment; Divorce, Stress and Uncertainty

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Unfortunately, disappointment is a part of life.  It can also be a major part of family law cases.  Most often in a family law case, someone is going through just about the most difficult thing they do as an adult when dealing with a divorce/custody matter.  Either they have done something, or their spouse has, which has caused significant upheaval, loss of trust and despair   A large part of family law includes helping someone cope with those feelings and emotions.

While there is no easy answer on how to cope, there are a number of things that can be done to promote healing.

  • Seek Counseling.  I recommend counseling to almost every client.  This is NOT because I think something is wrong with them.  It is because Counselors are people who have expertise in dealing with persons going through emotional crisis.  A lawyer can deal with a legal crisis, and some are good at the emotional issues too, but all are not.  A counselor can help and they have often heard and dealt with a similar circumstance.  Counseling can be with a licensed counselor, a religious leader or a sage friend with experience.
  • Keep a Routine.  Keeping a routine can help more than you think.  A recent study showed that persons who made their bed each morning were more organized and felt better about themselves throughout the day.  This routine made their day better.  This is something easy to do and it only takes 2 minutes, but can make a difference in how you feel.  I encourage my clients to get in a routine and keep it. I encourage them to continue their exercise regimen or start one.  Let’s Go Walking (a la Haley Barbour!).  I also encourage them to eat the right stuff.  While this may sound dumb or not my business – a family law matter concerns mind, body, and spirit.
  • Listen to Your Attorney.  One of the easiest things to say and hardest to do is to follow the advice of your attorney.  Ideally, you are working with an attorney that has handled many situations, which have been similar to yours.  Just like you, attorneys learn from experience.  Hire one that knows what they are doing and then take their advice.  This one factor alone is worthy of its own blog…

Disappointment is a part of life and, seemingly, a large part of family law.  Effectively dealing with the “bumps” in the road will help you get back on track.

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You may also contact Matthew with your family law case, question or concern at (601) 850-8000 or Matthew@bowtielawyer.ms.

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