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Child Custody, Divorce, General Legal

It’s Your Fault Too.

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All too often you are lead to believe that one party is totally to blame and the other party is completely innocent.

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Well, rarely is that the case.  While one party may be more at fault, the main reason for the ultimate split and even provide actionable fault grounds for the other to use, it does not mean the other spouse is blameless.  The common sentiment is that there are 2 sides to every story. In family law there are 3 sides.  His version, her version and the truth!

If you fall into the trap of “it’s all his fault” it does a disservice to you for preparing for the outcome.  Even when it’s all his fault, you don’t take him to the cleaners.  Nobody gets taken to the cleaners anymore.  If they do, they appeal. And when the cleaners are involved these days it is because someone wants out so bad they agree to a deal that they would not get otherwise from the Court or it was the only way out.

While this topic may be touchy, and pointing fingers at the “innocent spouse” may be hazardous to my health, it is nonetheless important to know that there is usually more than enough blame to go around.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law attorney and will tell you when you messed up and when it’s your fault.

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Lawyers, Suicide & Family Law

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A recent report indicated that the legal profession has the 4th highest rate of suicide among professionals.

Family Law issues lead to a higher rate of depression than average and it is not uncommon for suicide threats and attempts to occur contemporaneously with Family Law matters.

If you find yourself dealing with these issues; family crisis, depression, thoughts of harming yourself or others, seek immediate help.  It does not mean you are weak.  You are human and emotions run the gamut in these situations.  Go to your Dr., seek out a Professional Counselor, your Pastor and/or talk to a lawyer or all of the above.  Oftentimes it is NOT as bad as you think and working with the right professional will aid your recovery.

Know this. Family law issues are NOT the end of your World and are NOT a reason to do something that cannot be undone.  Perhaps it’s cliché, but suicide is a permanent outcome due to a temporary problem.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law & Divorce Attorney and Counselor at Law and can help when dealing with a family law crisis.

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Child Custody, Divorce, General Legal, Visitation

Stay “Connected” to Your Kids.

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Hello? How are you?  I miss you! I love you!

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That’s it.  If you do nothing else your kids will know that you are thinking about them, that you love them, miss them and desire a relationship.  Too often, in divorce/custody settings, it is easy to fall into the trap of “it’s not my time.”  This trap allows days and sometimes weeks go by with little to no communication.  Sometimes the other parent contributes to this or directly interferes, but you should attempt to do it anyway.

Call, email, text, FaceTime, Skype, send letters, cards, gift cards, and small gifts or trinkets.  It does not have to be expensive, an occasion or ” your time.”

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law & Divorce Attorney in the Hospitality State.  Be sure and show your child your hospitality!

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Child Custody, Child Support, Divorce, Visitation

A Parent’s #1 Obligation

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A parent has a moral and legal duty to promote a healthy, affectionate relationship between the child and the other parent!

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What?  You justify your conduct by saying, “I am not bad-mouthing him.”  But, just not bad-mouthing him is not enough.  You have an affirmative duty to promote a good relationship. (with rare exceptions for the health and safety of the child.)

Encourage, promote and truly desire a good relationship between your child and the other parent.  Your child will benefit!

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law & Divorce Attorney and reminds you that a child with two parents that get along and are involved is better than the alternative.

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Read Your Papers!

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It may sound rude, but the question is nonetheless valid, “Have you even read your divorce papers?”

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The very first step in determining your rights, answering your questions and determining whether you may get in trouble, all start with the same thing;  Reading your papers.  They define the type of custody, what you owe and the time you get for custody/visitation periods.

Agreements can be very difficult to remember.  It is easy to get confused and is easy to forget.  Read them.  Is it MY Christmas? Read the papers.  Do I owe for the car tags?  Read the papers.  Is it MY weekend or is it suspended due to an intervening holiday? Read the papers.

If you do not know how much support you owe, read the papers.  If you wonder if you have a claim for contempt because so-and-so did not have them back by 5:00 pm, you guessed it, read the papers.

“Read your Papers!” – Matthew Thompson

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law Attorney and reads lots of papers and will read yours too.

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Child Custody, Child Support, Crime, Divorce, General Legal, Opinion

How to be a TERRIBLE Person. (11 specific ways you can be mean & hateful.)

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In my profession I get to see a lot of what not to do almost, every day; from videos, texts, and emails to actions and sometimes inaction.

So, I have compiled a list of what terrible people do.  If you want to be terrible do these things, in no particular order.

  • Curse and scream at your spouse, as loud as you can, as often as you can.
  • Curse and scream at your children.
  • Make false abuse claims.
  • Lie about the false abuse claims even when it’s clear they are false.
  • Bad-mouth your child’s other parent to the child.  (Hey, it’s the truth, right!)
  • Interfere with their time with the child.  Just do it.  Sure it hurts your child too, that’s what makes it even more terrible.
  • Abuse your spouse or child. (Any form – all are terrible, some more-so than others.)
  • Refuse to support your family.
  • File suit when your ex paid 5 days late, even though they told you. It’s the principal, right?
  • Threaten to make public private images. (and mean it when you say it, at least in the moment.)
  • Refuse Christmas visitation.  Just because.

There you have it, 11 mean, hate-filled things that you can do to be terrible.

“Oh, and if you don’t want to be terrible don’t do these things.” – Matthew Thompson

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law Attorney in Mississippi and tries not to do terrible things or give terrible advice.

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You Are Your Own Worst Enemy!

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In Court there are a lot of forces against you.  Your spouse or ex-spouse, their attorney, sometimes the Judge, at least seemingly, the GAL, the Court appointed expert all are not looking out for your best interests. But, who is your own worst enemy?  Your lawyer? NO!

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It’s YOU!

More often than not, when there is a disaster it is due to your own making or at least you are a major contributor.  Not following the advice of your lawyer is one of the main factors in you making your case worse.  Doing what you want or feel like is another.  Deliberately defying a Court Order is never smart either.

So, how do you avoid disaster.  Listen.  Heed the advice given.  Do NOT do things contrary to that advice.  If in doubt don’t act, but ask.  That alone is worth the price of this blog.

“If in doubt ASK, don’t ACT!” – Matthew Thompson

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law Attorney and gives lots of advice on a daily basis.

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Protecting Valuables vs. Values; Which is Worth More?

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One aspect of my practice that is important to me is the protection of client valuables (assets), but also just as important, if not more so, and often overlooked is protecting client’s values.

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Values you say?  What kind of divorce attorney cares about values?  Well, they do seem to be fewer and far between, but they do exist.  An attorney that values a client’s values is a good attorney to have.  There are lots of tricks and subterfuge possible in family law.  Financial disclosure are by and large based on the oath of the party completing it.  Sure there are account statements, but it would be easy to fudge on.  One recent case where values succumbed to valuables, the husband “forgot” to disclose he won the lottery 2 months before the divorce was final.  Oops.  Another, the husband did not disclose multiple houses and a subdivision that were acquired during the marriage.  He figured nobody would find out.

So, why are values important?  Valuables come and go.  You can’t take them with you and all the other materialism clichés apply here.  The bottom line is that Values, how you handle yourself in the divorce, how your children see you treating your ex, and how you parent in a divorce situation, matter more than stuff.

Matthew Thompson is an Asset Protection and Family Law Attorney in the Hospitality State and knows that values can be worth far more than valuables. 

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